Sigh. Can't convince my hubby that fruit smoothies and maybe hitting the gym more is not gonna help

Momepro

He's impressed by my progress, even though so far it is much more health improvenents than weight. Plus he feels lousy due to health issues of his own.
So after a nice heart to heart he wants to do smoothies again. No, weighing and logging are "just not me" and giant cups of fruit will totally help me beat prediabetes and feel better. Sigh
Baby steps.
I know I was at that point once, and I moved on. But sheesh, we've been married for almost 10 years, he should know I'm always right by now!

livingleanlivingclean

That would frustrate me too, especially coming from a partner! Could you work out the calories in his smoothie and compare it to another meal (healthy or not, or both) to give him some perspective? Show him macros/fibre/sugar etc?

Momepro

Yeah I figure I'll take it slow. And maybe start a second account for him, logging what I KNOW he eats, so he can at least have an idea of what he's actually taking in and putting out.
It's just annoying because he's the budgeter and numbers guyin our family, lol, but he just isn't ready to start seeing the actual numbers fir his own health.

BetterInTheFall

Those convinced against their will are of the same opinion still. My grandmother used to tell me that.

Psychgrrl

Momepro wrote: »

Yeah I figure I'll take it slow. And maybe start a second account for him, logging what I KNOW he eats, so he can at least have an idea of what he's actually taking in and putting out.
It's just annoying because he's the budgeter and numbers guyin our family, lol, but he just isn't ready to start seeing the actual numbers fir his own health.

I combine the data from MFP and my Garmin into a spreadsheet (Nerd alert!). I also add my weight. You can turn it all into line graphs to see how they intersect. If he likes data, and if you have the time, then maybe “data-ing” it up for him will help. If he’s a numbers guy, then give him numbers.

SteamPug

I don’t know the parameters of your relationship but personally I’d find it pretty rude and intrusive if my partner started logging everything I ate to present to me in a big old graph that my brain would henceforth title ‘here’s how you are failing’.
That’s probably just my own insecurities showing through, but it something to consider.

RuNaRoUnDaFiEld

He has to do it himself.

Making him won't help and could damage your relationship.

LZMiner

Me neither! Spouse needs to lose at least 20 lbs...and when I say needs, it's not for vanity...he had a quadruple bypass 2 years ago. He's trying to do it by working out and limiting carbs. I have suggested MFP several times, since that would track both AND it has a bit of a gamification feel to it, making choices to maximize what you eat within certain parameters---BUT he is just brushing me off and digging his heels in! We've been married for 21 years, so I'm just going to keep my mouth shut.

Need2Exerc1se

It's completely possible to lose weight without logging. If it's not for him then he needs to find what is. Chill out and let him experiment. Maybe he'll surprise you.

LZMiner

Need2Exerc1se wrote: »

It's completely possible to lose weight without logging. If it's not for him then he needs to find what is. Chill out and let him experiment. Maybe he'll surprise you.

Nah, he's been trying it his way with no success for months! But unless someone else besides ME suggests it, he's ain't doing it! Battle of wills when you put two type As together!

angel7472

Same with my husband. Been telling him for months he needs to lose the 25 pounds he's put on. He pretty much blew me off. But a guy he used to work with visited him at work and made a comment and now he's all "I need to lose weight". Honestly, can't win.

amtyrell

Perhaps better to work o activity level. So suggest a walk or hike or going ice skating

wizzybeth

You might be surprised. the maddening thing for me is my husband lost 10 lbs one time in about a month simply by CUTTING BACK on the amount of chips and dip he ate at night. I was literally counting out every fricking calorie to lose every pound...and he simply ate less chips and dip. Grrrrrrrrrrrr

Need2Exerc1se

LZMiner wrote: »

Need2Exerc1se wrote: »

It's completely possible to lose weight without logging. If it's not for him then he needs to find what is. Chill out and let him experiment. Maybe he'll surprise you.

Nah, he's been trying it his way with no success for months! But unless someone else besides ME suggests it, he's ain't doing it! Battle of wills when you put two type As together!

Oh Hopefully he'll change things up and begin losing in a way that's comfortable for him. Maybe someone else will suggest an idea.

steveko89

Similar dynamic with my wife and I and the argument over resistance training. All she wants to do is run and won't listen to me when I say that lifting weights on her off-running days (weights we already own for my training purposes) will help her get the physique she wants more than adding more cardio will. That's definitely a want vs. need type of situation though, she's almost definitely at a healthy weight (can't really say for sure, refuses to weigh herself).

On the other hand, I keep getting ignored by my in-laws. They both lost 40-50lbs each on a physician-guided shake plan when they were both deemed pre-diabetic a few years ago. Since then, each have had a few injuries/surgeries (ruptured disk, broken pelvis, etc.) that have had them off their feet for spurts and they have (predictably) gained most of not all of that weight back. They have no clue how to control portions or make sustainable improvements to their nutrition can't be bothered to do anything resembling exercise.

LZMiner

steveko89 wrote: »

Similar dynamic with my wife and I and the argument over resistance training. All she wants to do is run and won't listen to me when I say that lifting weights on her off-running days (weights we already own for my training purposes) will help her get the physique she wants more than adding more cardio will. That's definitely a want vs. need type of situation though, she's almost definitely at a healthy weight (can't really say for sure, refuses to e.

Must be a married thing! Cheers!

Momepro

SteamPug wrote: »

I don’t know the parameters of your relationship but personally I’d find it pretty rude and intrusive if my partner started logging everything I ate to present to me in a big old graph that my brain would henceforth title ‘here’s how you are failing’.
That’s probably just my own insecurities showing through, but it something to consider.

Nah, it would make me mad if he did it to me, but he's weird. He actually likes that kind of thing as long as I'm doing it for myself too. He just doesn't want to bother to do it himself, lol.

I'm totally not pushing him though. He's an adult and if he hadn't come to me for advice I would not be so bothered. I think I'm just irritated that he asked, and then ignored down it, lol. After a heart to heart on health, and successful baby steps, his takeaway is "Add more calories by eating smoothies twice a day and (maybe) I'll be less hungry for the fast food I like to buy everyday".
*smacking head*

lucerorojo

Momepro wrote: »

SteamPug wrote: »

I don’t know the parameters of your relationship but personally I’d find it pretty rude and intrusive if my partner started logging everything I ate to present to me in a big old graph that my brain would henceforth title ‘here’s how you are failing’.
That’s probably just my own insecurities showing through, but it something to consider.

Nah, it would make me mad if he did it to me, but he's weird. He actually likes that kind of thing as long as I'm doing it for myself too. He just doesn't want to bother to do it himself, lol.

I'm totally not pushing him though. He's an adult and if he hadn't come to me for advice I would not be so bothered. I think I'm just irritated that he asked, and then ignored down it, lol. After a heart to heart on health, and successful baby steps, his takeaway is "Add more calories by eating smoothies twice a day and (maybe) I'll be less hungry for the fast food I like to buy everyday".
*smacking head*

Mom always says "don't bother telling men what to do, they won't listen." I think some will. But if he's one of those that doesn't, you have to find a way for that idea to get into his head with him thinking HE thought of it!! LOL.

import_soul

I searched Google for diabetic friendly smoothies, and such things do exist!

But do they taste good?

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

lolliopopsnrainbows

I'd suggest he ramps up the health factor of his smoothies by making them predominantly veggie-based (spinach is great for this as it's pretty mild in flavour). This will cut down the sugar and up the fibre content (and possibly even the protein content depending on which veggies he goes for!)

Also, is there any way you can suggest that he eats the smoothies to replace normal food (e.g. instead of bowl of sugary cereal for breakfast) rather than in addition to......