Is it okay to like a distant cousin?

Workout4Health

Like at least 2nd or 3rd? That’s not strange? I don’t like someone but I know someone that wants to know. Sister is very different than a distant cousin.

eccomi_qui

Anything is possible! Shoot for the stars and you’ll land among the moon

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pogiguy05

So you asking for a friend? First admit your the one. how did sister come into play good lordy

_pi3_

Uhh wow

km8907

Is this the same pasty cousin from the other day? Don't *kitten* your cousins bro.

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TonyB0588

Workout4Health wrote: »

Like at least 2nd or 3rd? That’s not strange? I don’t like someone but I know someone that wants to know. Sister is very different than a distant cousin.

Depends what you mean by "like". You shouldn't hate people, so yes it's good to like everyone. But if you actually mean romantic love, or relationship sort of love, I'd say it isn't worth it. Plus 2nd or 3rd cousin isn't really distant anyway.

LittleHearseDriver

I have a strong feeling you took this cousin to prom. Are the pickins that slim in your town?

Lounmoun

Workout4Health wrote: »

Like at least 2nd or 3rd? That’s not strange? I don’t like someone but I know someone that wants to know. Sister is very different than a distant cousin.

If by like you mean the desire to enter into a romantic relationship:
There have been many marriages between cousins so I don't know how strange it is to like your 2nd or 3rd cousin in that way. It would be legal in the United States to marry a 2nd or 3rd cousin I believe. Your family and friends may or may not disapprove of such a relationship.
I know of no cousin marriages that close in my family in recent years but I haven't tried to trace everyone's family tree either. I don't thinkm I know my 2nd or 3rd cousins. I don't think it would bother me to learn that my spouse was my 3rd cousin and we shared a great great grandparent.

This genealogy blog talks about the issue: https://blog.eogn.com/2014/10/26/can-you-marry-your-cousin/

cee134

Workout4Health wrote: »

Like at least 2nd or 3rd? That’s not strange? I don’t like someone but I know someone that wants to know. Sister is very different than a distant cousin.

So is this something you want to do or you don't know how they are related to you?

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TheRoadDog

My 1st cousin, Debbie, is my best friend. She was even my best man when I got married.

I feel you may be asking about something more than friendship though, huh?

Johns_Dope_AF

go for it! Btw love the Revival CD

Caporegiem

Cousins are like mother nature's friends with benefits.

Caporegiem

lstrat115 wrote: »

Caporegiem wrote: »

Cousins are like mother nature's friends with benefits.

This is further explained by the state you live in

Wanna be related?

Chellellelle

If you have to ask, it's probably not right.

JillianRumrill

I think it depends- like I'm adopted so in reality I *could* date any of my cousins, but honestly, I wouldn't even date any of my classmates in HS, it was just too "familiar". My hubby was originally from NJ.

On the flip side, about as close as 100 years ago this was relatively normal. One of my great aunts was 13 when she married her cousin- it was to keep the money in the family. That happened in Sicily tho....

Mr_Healthy_Habits

I am so embarrassed that I actually even opened this thread but it was funny if anything

eccomi_qui

It’s okay to like a cousin but they have to be at least 1km away

Mr_Healthy_Habits

It depends what state you live in really

Mandygring

I have cousins that married (they weren't blood related but grew up together as first cousins)....the family was very upset. It was weird when ppl try to ask which cousin you're related to...you have to say both.

rdevol

I used to work with someone who was dating her stepbrother...

eccomi_qui

TeacupsAndToning wrote: »

So I just looked it up and apparently these are the states that allow you to marry your cousin...?:

Alabama: First cousins, yes.
Alaska: First cousins, yes.
Arizona: First cousins, yes, only if they are over a certain age or cannot bear children. Half cousins, yes.
California: First cousins, yes.
Colorado: First cousins, yes.
Connecticut: First cousins, yes.
District of Columbia: First cousins, yes.
Florida: First cousins, yes.
Georgia: First cousins, yes.
Hawaii: First cousins, yes.
Illinois: First cousins, yes, only if they are over a certain age or cannot bear children.
Indiana: First cousins once removed, yes, only if they are over a certain age or cannot bear children.
Kansas: Half cousins, yes.
Louisiana: Marriage between first cousins is not allowed.
Maine: First cousins, yes, only if they are over a certain age or cannot bear children, or if they get genetic counseling.
Maryland: First cousins, yes.
Massachusetts: First cousins, yes.
Minnesota: No, unless the aboriginal culture of the couple permits cousin marriages.
Mississippi: Adopted cousins, yes.
Montana: Half cousins, yes.
Nebraska: Half cousins, yes.
Nevada: Half cousins, yes.
New Jersey: First cousins, yes.
New Mexico: First cousins, yes.
New York: First cousins, yes.
North Carolina: First cousins, yes. Double first cousins are not allowed to get married.
Oklahoma: Half cousins, yes.
Oregon: Adopted cousins, yes.
Rhode Island: First cousins, yes.
South Carolina: First cousins, yes.
Tennessee: First cousins, yes.
Utah: First cousins, yes, only if they are over a certain age or cannot bear children.
Vermont: First cousins, yes.
Virginia: First cousins, yes.
West Virginia: Adopted cousins, yes.
Wisconsin: First cousins once removed, yes, only if they are over a certain age or cannot bear children.

Can you please provide Canadian information?

Find_Me_Again

TeacupsAndToning wrote: »

So I just looked it up and apparently these are the states that allow you to marry your cousin...?:

Alabama: First cousins, yes.
Alaska: First cousins, yes.
Arizona: First cousins, yes, only if they are over a certain age or cannot bear children. Half cousins, yes.
California: First cousins, yes.
Colorado: First cousins, yes.
Connecticut: First cousins, yes.
District of Columbia: First cousins, yes.
Florida: First cousins, yes.
Georgia: First cousins, yes.
Hawaii: First cousins, yes.
Illinois: First cousins, yes, only if they are over a certain age or cannot bear children.
Indiana: First cousins once removed, yes, only if they are over a certain age or cannot bear children.
Kansas: Half cousins, yes.
Louisiana: Marriage between first cousins is not allowed.
Maine: First cousins, yes, only if they are over a certain age or cannot bear children, or if they get genetic counseling.
Maryland: First cousins, yes.
Massachusetts: First cousins, yes.
Minnesota: No, unless the aboriginal culture of the couple permits cousin marriages.
Mississippi: Adopted cousins, yes.
Montana: Half cousins, yes.
Nebraska: Half cousins, yes.
Nevada: Half cousins, yes.
New Jersey: First cousins, yes.
New Mexico: First cousins, yes.
New York: First cousins, yes.
North Carolina: First cousins, yes. Double first cousins are not allowed to get married.
Oklahoma: Half cousins, yes.
Oregon: Adopted cousins, yes.
Rhode Island: First cousins, yes.
South Carolina: First cousins, yes.
Tennessee: First cousins, yes.
Utah: First cousins, yes, only if they are over a certain age or cannot bear children.
Vermont: First cousins, yes.
Virginia: First cousins, yes.
West Virginia: Adopted cousins, yes.
Wisconsin: First cousins once removed, yes, only if they are over a certain age or cannot bear children.

I'm disgusted with my state now. Not that I wasn't already...fricken taxes.

Eta. Wtf if a double first cousin??

WorkerDrone83

I just like that some states are willing to allow it as long as the couple doesn't produce mutant-babies.

sdereski

http://davidnewland.com/2010/07/can-do-in-canada.html

Mr_Healthy_Habits

TeacupsAndToning wrote: »

So I just looked it up and apparently these are the states that allow you to marry your cousin...?:

Alabama: First cousins, yes.
Alaska: First cousins, yes.
Arizona: First cousins, yes, only if they are over a certain age or cannot bear children. Half cousins, yes.
California: First cousins, yes.
Colorado: First cousins, yes.
Connecticut: First cousins, yes.
District of Columbia: First cousins, yes.
Florida: First cousins, yes.
Georgia: First cousins, yes.
Hawaii: First cousins, yes.
Illinois: First cousins, yes, only if they are over a certain age or cannot bear children.
Indiana: First cousins once removed, yes, only if they are over a certain age or cannot bear children.
Kansas: Half cousins, yes.
Louisiana: Marriage between first cousins is not allowed.
Maine: First cousins, yes, only if they are over a certain age or cannot bear children, or if they get genetic counseling.
Maryland: First cousins, yes.
Massachusetts: First cousins, yes.
Minnesota: No, unless the aboriginal culture of the couple permits cousin marriages.
Mississippi: Adopted cousins, yes.
Montana: Half cousins, yes.
Nebraska: Half cousins, yes.
Nevada: Half cousins, yes.
New Jersey: First cousins, yes.
New Mexico: First cousins, yes.
New York: First cousins, yes.
North Carolina: First cousins, yes. Double first cousins are not allowed to get married.
Oklahoma: Half cousins, yes.
Oregon: Adopted cousins, yes.
Rhode Island: First cousins, yes.
South Carolina: First cousins, yes.
Tennessee: First cousins, yes.
Utah: First cousins, yes, only if they are over a certain age or cannot bear children.
Vermont: First cousins, yes.
Virginia: First cousins, yes.
West Virginia: Adopted cousins, yes.
Wisconsin: First cousins once removed, yes, only if they are over a certain age or cannot bear children.

Told you
But California... Smh

TheRoadDog

My Aunt and Uncle are first cousins. When they decided to marry, it caused a huge problem and division among family members. However, I have to say that they just celebrated their 65th anniversary together and I have never seen a happier couple.

Mr_Healthy_Habits

I guess what was meant to be, will inevitably be...