Single mum's and nightmare children!

imabeevampire

So I'm a single mum.
I'm happy, I love my child and love my life. I've lost weight in the past and kept it off and this year hoping to do the same.

HOWEVER!! this child had now decided hitting kicking screaming throwing etc etc are all fine to do during a tantrum. Today's lasted 30 minutes

kenyonhaff

How old is the child?

So sorry to hear this...it is not that uncommon but very difficult and draining to deal with.

imabeevampire

He's 6 nearly 7. He just pushing buttons. I'm just finding it hard not to eat junk all the time

jgnatca

So the child’s tantrums are pushing you to stress eat?

I hope you come up with a plan to control this little terror, for your sanity and the child’s future citizenship. Your after school care and/or teacher might have some ideas.

imabeevampire

He's getting better. It's just taking time.
It's like anything, you don't expect to lose weight overnight. I don't expect his behaviour to be perfect overnight.
But on the bad days I find it hard to stay motivated.

DebLaBounty

Is this new behavior for your son? This could be a red flag that something serious is going on. Does this happen after you pick him up from school? My son used to “hold it together “ during school, then unravel after he got to the safety of home. But mostly he was just cranky, never biting or throwing things. I think you should definitely think about talking to your pediatrician because these are not “normal tantrums.” These are more severe and they are lasting for a long time. For some reason he is experiencing emotions he can’t communicate to you. Seven years old is also a bit past the age when you’d expect that behavior. You probably should ask to meet with his teacher. Maybe he’s having a hard time accomplishing tasks as well as he used to, and he’s upset. Maybe kids are being mean to him or excluding him.

Hang in there, Mom!!

imabeevampire

Thanks guys. I've spoken to his teachers before and they were helpful. I will approach them again

mysteps2beauty

Many boys need activity to burn off extra energy, they go bonkers to exhaust that energy. If you don't have a male in is life to engage I suggest you find one. Sounds like you are in the UK somewhere, so I don't know what resources you may have there. Are there men in your family that can show up? I don't mean this as an impertinent comment. It's just that for the most part, boys and girls are different. He is moving towards adolescence, and you need to get a hold of this now. You are probably working and exhausted when you get home. Sports will tire him out. Stay at home moms who have kids on the team can be a source of help in getting him to and/or from practice. Of course, vet them carefully. I have been a single mom of a now almost 20 year old girl for all of her 20 years. Sports were a god-send. It kept her calm enough after practice to do homework, though sometimes really tired. But she is high energy and better her somewhat tired than so full of energy I get a back talker. And now she is being scouted for college scholarships. But the biggest gain, is learning time management, self control and discipline. It may be extra effort, time and costs for you right now, but better to have guards on this behavior now when you can instead of at 16, him bigger than you, and out of control. While he is at practice you can get to the gym or walk the circumference of his practice area to get exercise. Do what you can.