Getting no support at home.

LanieSkylarker
LanieSkylarker Posts: 4
in Motivation and Support
I'd like to lose about 40 lbs. Unfortunately, I am getting not support from my boyfriend (he likes plus sized women) despite being my goal weight when I met him. He tells me he'll "dig me at any size" but make negative comments about any dieting I might do. He calls them "anti-[hisname] diets" and thinks I go on them to spite him. The truth is, I don't feel good and my clothes are too tight. So I'm ignoring him and what will be will be. The truth is, I have a full on disorder of eating - a total food addiction! I hope to find some support here for obvious reasons.

I have always had a weight problem, and I've gained about 90 lbs in ten years. If things continue this way, I feel like I'm going to die in my 40s, and that absolutely terrifies me. I secretly wish that I get diagnosed with pre-diabetes or something so I'm forced to lose the weight. I play with the idea of surgery all the time, but that's also scary. I don't actually WANT to be thin, I just want to be able to breathe normally, and to be able to dance again.

I hope this community is more helpful than who I have around me. My family tries, but I'm not very close to them, so I just find it patronizing.

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  • AnthonyKolka
    AnthonyKolka Posts: 74 Member
    Do it for you! You don't need anyone other than yourself for drive. If your boyfriend actively tries to derail your progress you may want to consider a relationship adjustment. You can do this, just keep your goals in mind and take it one day at a time.

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