When family thinks "Woo" is best...

Crafty_camper123

:rant/ So last night, I was talking to my DH about intermittent fasting (the 16/8) method, as I have been trying it on for size over the past few days to see how I do with it. My goal is to be able to skip or have light breakfast to be able save room for my calories at night. Anyways, since that's the way he, and many others eat naturally he became annoyed that there is a term for that style of eating, and called it " new age hippy bullkitten".. and that overnight fasting isn't really fasting...then proceeded to tell me that breakfast is the most important meal of the day, and that people who go too long without eating will go into "starvation mode" and that you need to be sure to eat breakfast so you don't ruin your metabolism.... I told him those were all myths and as long as I eat all my calories for the day nothing will happen, and I'll lose the weight. He then told me that I need to be careful about what kind of calories I eat, because some burn up faster then others and store into the body as fat. I told him as long as I am burning more than I am eating it doesn't matter... He wasn't convinced. I find this argument rather amusing now, but was a little frustrated last night. What do you when your family members have no clue but think they know best??? My hubby is a wonderful man, but he is stubborn sometimes, and it's a little annoying that he is so convinced all this dieting myth, or "woo" is correct and thinks he knows best. In a way, it has kind of steeled my resolve just to prove him wrong, lol. :rant/

toxikon

Sigh. Just roll your eyes and say "Thanks for your input, honey." and walk away.

People can be very set in their beliefs and sometimes it's best to just avoid the argument and let your results speak for themselves.

I've personally been skipping breakfast for years so I can have a larger dinner. I'm not very hungry in the morning so I can easily go till 11am-12pm before eating. It works well for me, and tons of other people too.

If you need studies to back up your claims, www.examine.com has a ton of articles with scientific references. They do a good job of fighting through "Woo", and I guarantee you'll find an article disproving every "Woo" your husband believes.

Crafty_camper123

I'll have to do that, lol. I usually get the "just because you read it online..." but if it's a reputable source that sometimes shuts him up. Since dinner is my most caloric meal of the day, I'm looking to working my way to skip breakfast so that I don't blow my whole day with dinner if we do something high calorie. My whole family's kind of that way. There is an air of legitimate concern through all their BS, but it gets frustrating. I just gotta stay focused on me, and let them do them.

dinadyna21

Crafty_camper123 wrote: »

:rant/ and that overnight fasting isn't really fasting...then proceeded to tell me that breakfast is the most important meal of the day, and that people who go too long without eating will go into "starvation mode" and that you need to be sure to eat breakfast so you don't ruin your metabolism.... :rant/

Lol'd at skipping breakfast will break your metabolism, I usually skip breakfast too. Do your thing he'll see in the long run that how much you eat is what matters not when you eat.

Francl27

A LOT of people still believe that you need to eat breakfast to start your metabolism. But when you tell them, why should they believe you anyway? It's your word versus what 'everyone' has been saying for years. I know that people don't believe me, so I let it go.

Good luck anyway! I tried skipping breakfast (for the same reasons as you), unfortunately it didn't work for me... just too hungry to function in the morning (and it's when I workout too).

Crafty_camper123

I looked up the origin of "breakfast" for him. This was in relation to the fact that overnight is not actually enough time to be considered a fast. ( 15th century english word used to describe the first meal of the day, breaking the "fast" from overnight) I got " Hmph, still stupid there is a word for something that's been being done for thousands of years(intermittent fasting) " wich is husbandese for "fine, you're right". Thanks for the support guys, I just had to rant a bit.

fitoverfortymom

Lol. My husband insists that the reason I can't drop these last 5-10lbs is because I'm "building muscle" from running. Lol. No, it's because I have insatiable runger and blow through my calories++ like a big 'ol piggy sometimes.

Need2Exerc1se

I usually just smile and say I'm not sure that's how it works.

Why is he insisting you need breakfast if he and his friends have been intermittent fasting naturally?

Tacklewasher

I hate to say that this causes some friction in my house and I finally had to tell my wife, bluntly, that I'm dam well doing this my way and I don't need the discussion. It wasn't my best moment, but when she started about with baby carrots and formaldehyde (which was new to me, I though it was bleach that was the woo issue), it was about to lead to a real argument.

JustinAnimal

Why don't you just quote some studies or snopes or something on how those things are myths? It's hard to argue facts (cue 14-page debate about providing vetted sources and whatnot).

Anyway, you can always do yours and he can always do his. Better yet, make it a competition. Whoever loses more weight or gets in shape faster or gets to whatever size jeans owes the other person... I don't know... something? He has to get on the roof and shout to the neighborhood that starvation mode is a myth?

MelanieCN77

Crafty_camper123 wrote: »

I'll have to do that, lol. I usually get the "just because you read it online..." but if it's a reputable source that sometimes shuts him up. Since dinner is my most caloric meal of the day, I'm looking to working my way to skip breakfast so that I don't blow my whole day with dinner if we do something high calorie. My whole family's kind of that way. There is an air of legitimate concern through all their BS, but it gets frustrating. I just gotta stay focused on me, and let them do them.

Well where are his sources?

This is one of those things that sometimes it's ok not to be very sharing about with your partner.

Crafty_camper123

Need2Exerc1se wrote: »

I usually just smile and say I'm not sure that's how it works.

Why is he insisting you need breakfast if he and his friends have been intermittent fasting naturally?

I'm not sure... I think I say one thing and he hears another often times... I think it boiled down to what his definition of fasting was ( apparently not overnight), and the fact I mentioned I would like to get to a point that I could start skipping breakfast. We often get into debates like this where I think he just likes to hear himself talk. It often ends with him vehemanlty agreeing with me all along. \_(. .)_/ \_(0_o)_/ I don't analyze it too much, lol.

amusedmonkey

My family aren't bad about it. If they happen to share some woo and I tell them "well, I've lost a lot of weight so obviously what I'm doing is working, just let me do what I'm used to doing" and they don't press the issue further. I may be actively sharing my dieting opinions on the forum, but in real life I'm kind of passive in that regard. I have no interest in proving anyone wrong if they aren't bothering me. If someone asks I answer and this is the extent of it. My sister is into Paleo and crossfit, my mom is into very low calorie dieting when she feels like losing a few (she barely eats for a couple of weeks), I also have a family member who is all about fattening foods and slimming foods, to each their own.

Crafty_camper123

MelanieCN77 wrote: »

Crafty_camper123 wrote: »

I'll have to do that, lol. I usually get the "just because you read it online..." but if it's a reputable source that sometimes shuts him up. Since dinner is my most caloric meal of the day, I'm looking to working my way to skip breakfast so that I don't blow my whole day with dinner if we do something high calorie. My whole family's kind of that way. There is an air of legitimate concern through all their BS, but it gets frustrating. I just gotta stay focused on me, and let them do them.

Well where are his sources?

This is one of those things that sometimes it's ok not to be very sharing about with your partner.

Good Point.

pinuplove

Nod, 'Yes dear that's very interesting,' and do it your way. You aren't going to change your mind, and if it's unlikely he'll change his there's not a lot to be gained from arguing about it.