Temptation In The Home...

amandawhatup62

amgreenwell wrote: »

Since I'm the grocery shopper there is no temptation in the house. If the hubby wants something special then he gets it himself and keeps it at work. We have two small kids so we don't want any junk around. It helps us to eat better when I plan all our meals and do the shopping.

I plan our meals and do the grocery shopping and there still is temptation lol! I don’t even buy the unhealthy items...

BattyKnitter

My hubby likes to snack too, I got him a storage bin and he keeps his non-perishable snacks in there. It helps because it's hidden away in the bin not in the cupboards and I tell myself those are HIS snacks not mine. He's not that crazy about ice cream so I'm ok there.

psychod787

Try flexible dieting. I wish I did from the beginning. I unfortunately fell for guruish bs.

emcclure013

I moved all of my husband's snack foods and things into his own cupboard. For me, out of sight out of mind is truly a thing of it's own. He has all kinds of sweets, chips, crackers, etc. in there but I don't really even think about them anymore. I agree with someone who said that you need to mentally tell yourself that they're his and not yours (I do that with peanut butter too... that's for my dog, not me!). The rest of it is your own willpower to succeed. A bunch of chips are not worth sacrificing seeing the scale go down at the end of the week for me, so I make sure to remind myself of that when I want them.

JaneAero

I find it really difficult because my husband pays the food bill and he always buys fatty, frozen or cheap things, like sausages, burgers, chips etc.

If I tried to steer him towards the fruit, vegetables, or salad, he would buy it for me occasionally, but complain about the expense.

Because I was the only one eating it, it would often go off before I could finish the container or packet and then he would say I told you you wouldn't eat it, what a waste of money.

I got round this by continuing to put in the trolley breakfasts and dinners only.

I buy boxes of healthy cereal, or bagels that can be frozen, cartons of fresh juice, eggs, for breakfast. Nothing that can go off.

Dinners.. I put 4 or 5 frozen weight watcher dinners in the trolley every week, they can't go off and the rest of the time I make something like an omelette or a baked potato.

Lunchtime... I pay for my own food that he will never buy in a million years. I do have a lot of waste because I'm the only one eating it , but I'm the one paying for it so he can mind his own business, he can no longer complain about things going off , or going to waste.

I tend to spend most of my part-time wages now on healthy lunches , it all adds up.

Everything is about £1 per item: a bag of spinach, a packet of Mini plum tomatoes, a packet of feta cheese, an avocado.
(I only have a Sainsbury's near me nothing cheaper and it's always around £1 an item).

This means I can't have a huge variety of different items at any one time, so it makes cooking from scratch, or complicated recipes that require multiple ingredients impossible for one person.

I try not to spend more than £7 a week on lunches.

So I might buy two tins of Weight Watchers soup in Poundland, a bag of apples, some folded flatbreads, a tub of cottage cheese, celery sticks, mini plum tomato's, spinach one week.

The following week I'll buy different items for variety.

I don't have to worry about him eating it as he's not interested.

Likewise he sits and eat all his unhealthy food in front of me, his biscuits , crisps and sweets, he makes no effort to hide any of it away, interestingly he always finds the money for the things he wants to eat, for his food and the unhealthy extras.

I think it's obvious from reading this we are not happily married, he's not particularly nice to me, but I'm 58 and feel too old to start again at my age.

I am determined to lose weight ,but it is quite difficult because he doesn't give me any feedback on my appearance and even if I was a perfect size 10 , he still wouldn't be interested.

I'm now focusing on losing weight for my health rather than worrying about looking nice, looking nice for me is tied into my husband thinking I look nice as well, but he doesn't care.

Perhaps when I do get to my target weight and I look better I will be happy with my appearance and won't care what he thinks anyway.

Thanks for letting me get this off my chest because I struggle with not just losing weight and binging but also my appearance my self-esteem just everything

amusedmonkey

amandawhatup62 wrote: »

DragonHasTheSapphire wrote: »

amandawhatup62 wrote: »

DragonHasTheSapphire wrote: »

amandawhatup62 wrote: »

So I have been making way better choices with foods than I have in the past... my fiancé likes to eat whatever he wants and will keep it in the home... how do you get past that temptation of unhealthy food in your home?!?

I am dealing with that currently. Self-control is a huge key, I have to sternly think to myself: If you eat that snack cake, you'll end up eating that whole box and you'll end up like your old self.

I know deep down I probably wouldn't allow myself to eat a ton of snack cakes, but the thought that I could start going to my old ways kinda steers me away from snacking on "unhealthy" foods (ex. brownies, pizza, fried chicken, sweets with added sugar.) It's perfectly fine to have a snack that may not be very healthy to you every now and then to satisfy the craving. I found if I don't do that, I'll binge on that food without even realizing it much until after.

Each day I'll have like a few pieces of sweetened cereal (frosted mini wheats, yum) each day, or like 3 chips every so often. Not only won't it cause weight gain, it helps me get my fix. I usually eat these before a workout anyway. It might now work for you though... If you are prone to overeating on a food then I'd try and keep it away from you so you can't see it (Maybe your finace can hide it somewhere special so only he knows where it is? I used to have an intense craving for peanut butter and I had someone hide it from me because I didn't want to go out and buy more lol.)

I wish we could hide food in my home lol

Ooh, is the food perishable, or do you think you'll find it?

My biggest temptation is ice cream

Put it way behind everything else in the freezer in a hard to reach corner. If you plan it into your calories one day you'll consciously remove all the stuff that's in the way to reach for it and take your planned portion, but it won't be in your face taunting you every day every time you open the freezer. Talk to your fiance and tell him how much it would mean to you if he helped you with this one thing by always returning the ice cream to where it was every time he eats some.

Also make sure you are getting enough calories and that you're not depriving yourself of tasty foods. If they're too high in calories to have every day at least plan them in every once in a while. When you're not hungry and craving all the time you're less likely to go on a "feed me" spree.

This is what works for me. It may not work for everyone, but it's worth a try.

kls2405

I struggle with this as well with a husband and 2 boys that are big eaters. I keep a pretty healthy cupboard but I also don't want to deprive them of being kids and having "fun" snacks around too, so I understand. On thing I did recently was get fudgesicle bars instead of a gallon of ice cream. These are low calorie, controls my portion and suffices my sweet tooth (as well as our boys) without me blowing my calories for the day. One small step at a time.

susanmc31

I'm reading a book right now called The Hungry Brain by Stephan Guyenet and it gets into why we crave certain foods and not others. If you are up for a read it would be a good one to pick up. I'm hoping it will help me understand the reason I crave and overeat certain foods (ice cream, chocolate, and chips) and not on others. All the other ideas you have been given so far are great! Best of luck OP!

pamfin

JaneAero wrote: »

I find it really difficult because my husband pays the food bill and he always buys fatty, frozen or cheap things, like sausages, burgers, chips etc.

If I tried to steer him towards the fruit, vegetables, or salad, he would buy it for me occasionally, but complain about the expense.
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I think it's obvious from reading this we are not happily married, he's not particularly nice to me, but I'm 58 and feel too old to start again at my age.

I am determined to lose weight ,but it is quite difficult because he doesn't give me any feedback on my appearance and even if I was a perfect size 10 , he still wouldn't be interested.

I'm now focusing on losing weight for my health rather than worrying about looking nice, looking nice for me is tied into my husband thinking I look nice as well, but he doesn't care.

Perhaps when I do get to my target weight and I look better I will be happy with my appearance and won't care what he thinks anyway.

Thanks for letting me get this off my chest because I struggle with not just losing weight and binging but also my appearance my self-esteem just everything

This is heartbreaking! At 58 you are definitely not to old to start again and you deserve to have someone who doesn't begrudge spending money on food that you want to eat and takes the time to appreciate you.

_annyleigh

I definitely agree that it can be hard when others have treats around you. My boyfriend is a little more health conscious than he was before, but still eats things that I love (chips with cheese or other dips, Girl Scout cookies, snack cakes, etc.) and it gets frustrating sometimes to try to avoid eating it myself.

I'll usually talk myself down from eating it by thinking of reasons why it would not be good to give in ("if you eat one, you won't be able to stop" or something along those lines). If I end up wanting it anyways, I'll either ask my boyfriend to split it with me or I'll have a micro-portion to satisfy the craving of the taste without totally blowing it. I also allow for extra snacks in my log from time to time, and if I really still can't afford to eat it, I'll exercise harder or longer to work it off. Hope this helps!

_annyleigh

JaneAero wrote: »

I find it really difficult because my husband pays the food bill and he always buys fatty, frozen or cheap things, like sausages, burgers, chips etc.

If I tried to steer him towards the fruit, vegetables, or salad, he would buy it for me occasionally, but complain about the expense.

Because I was the only one eating it, it would often go off before I could finish the container or packet and then he would say I told you you wouldn't eat it, what a waste of money.

I got round this by continuing to put in the trolley breakfasts and dinners only.

I buy boxes of healthy cereal, or bagels that can be frozen, cartons of fresh juice, eggs, for breakfast. Nothing that can go off.

Dinners.. I put 4 or 5 frozen weight watcher dinners in the trolley every week, they can't go off and the rest of the time I make something like an omelette or a baked potato.

Lunchtime... I pay for my own food that he will never buy in a million years. I do have a lot of waste because I'm the only one eating it , but I'm the one paying for it so he can mind his own business, he can no longer complain about things going off , or going to waste.

I tend to spend most of my part-time wages now on healthy lunches , it all adds up.

Everything is about £1 per item: a bag of spinach, a packet of Mini plum tomatoes, a packet of feta cheese, an avocado.
(I only have a Sainsbury's near me nothing cheaper and it's always around £1 an item).

This means I can't have a huge variety of different items at any one time, so it makes cooking from scratch, or complicated recipes that require multiple ingredients impossible for one person.

I try not to spend more than £7 a week on lunches.

So I might buy two tins of Weight Watchers soup in Poundland, a bag of apples, some folded flatbreads, a tub of cottage cheese, celery sticks, mini plum tomato's, spinach one week.

The following week I'll buy different items for variety.

I don't have to worry about him eating it as he's not interested.

Likewise he sits and eat all his unhealthy food in front of me, his biscuits , crisps and sweets, he makes no effort to hide any of it away, interestingly he always finds the money for the things he wants to eat, for his food and the unhealthy extras.

I think it's obvious from reading this we are not happily married, he's not particularly nice to me, but I'm 58 and feel too old to start again at my age.

I am determined to lose weight ,but it is quite difficult because he doesn't give me any feedback on my appearance and even if I was a perfect size 10 , he still wouldn't be interested.

I'm now focusing on losing weight for my health rather than worrying about looking nice, looking nice for me is tied into my husband thinking I look nice as well, but he doesn't care.

Perhaps when I do get to my target weight and I look better I will be happy with my appearance and won't care what he thinks anyway.

Thanks for letting me get this off my chest because I struggle with not just losing weight and binging but also my appearance my self-esteem just everything

This is so heartbreaking. I'm sorry you're going through this. Don't lose hope - you deserve much better and you still have plenty of time to start again. My father did at 55 and found his perfect match.

amandawhatup62

JaneAero wrote: »

I find it really difficult because my husband pays the food bill and he always buys fatty, frozen or cheap things, like sausages, burgers, chips etc.

If I tried to steer him towards the fruit, vegetables, or salad, he would buy it for me occasionally, but complain about the expense.

Because I was the only one eating it, it would often go off before I could finish the container or packet and then he would say I told you you wouldn't eat it, what a waste of money.

I got round this by continuing to put in the trolley breakfasts and dinners only.

I buy boxes of healthy cereal, or bagels that can be frozen, cartons of fresh juice, eggs, for breakfast. Nothing that can go off.

Dinners.. I put 4 or 5 frozen weight watcher dinners in the trolley every week, they can't go off and the rest of the time I make something like an omelette or a baked potato.

Lunchtime... I pay for my own food that he will never buy in a million years. I do have a lot of waste because I'm the only one eating it , but I'm the one paying for it so he can mind his own business, he can no longer complain about things going off , or going to waste.

I tend to spend most of my part-time wages now on healthy lunches , it all adds up.

Everything is about £1 per item: a bag of spinach, a packet of Mini plum tomatoes, a packet of feta cheese, an avocado.
(I only have a Sainsbury's near me nothing cheaper and it's always around £1 an item).

This means I can't have a huge variety of different items at any one time, so it makes cooking from scratch, or complicated recipes that require multiple ingredients impossible for one person.

I try not to spend more than £7 a week on lunches.

So I might buy two tins of Weight Watchers soup in Poundland, a bag of apples, some folded flatbreads, a tub of cottage cheese, celery sticks, mini plum tomato's, spinach one week.

The following week I'll buy different items for variety.

I don't have to worry about him eating it as he's not interested.

Likewise he sits and eat all his unhealthy food in front of me, his biscuits , crisps and sweets, he makes no effort to hide any of it away, interestingly he always finds the money for the things he wants to eat, for his food and the unhealthy extras.

I think it's obvious from reading this we are not happily married, he's not particularly nice to me, but I'm 58 and feel too old to start again at my age.

I am determined to lose weight ,but it is quite difficult because he doesn't give me any feedback on my appearance and even if I was a perfect size 10 , he still wouldn't be interested.

I'm now focusing on losing weight for my health rather than worrying about looking nice, looking nice for me is tied into my husband thinking I look nice as well, but he doesn't care.

Perhaps when I do get to my target weight and I look better I will be happy with my appearance and won't care what he thinks anyway.

Thanks for letting me get this off my chest because I struggle with not just losing weight and binging but also my appearance my self-esteem just everything

I truly am sorry you are going through this... I, too, am doing this for me. You deserve happiness just as much as the next person! I hope you find your happiness one day, with or without him. If he can’t help you in your journey, do it alone! One day when you are where you want to be and have had enough, he will regret it! Many hugs sent your way!

momispuhomis

Brush your teeth or chew super minty gum. Sounds silly but sweets don't sound good when your mouth is minty. I like the feel of my fresh teeth and drink more water. I try to brush right after dinner to keep out temptation!

JeromeBarry1

Reading all these comments about ice cream while having a bowl of 4 oz Blue Bell w/ 2 chopped strawberries for 101 calories ...

hroderick

call off the engagement. kick him out or move. find someone that loves you more than they love themselves and make yourself worth that kind of love.

goldenday

No foods are bad. With chocolate I still keep 100g bars around. The only difference now Is that Instead of eating the whole full bar I only have four pieces at the most.