No family support. Suggestions?

Kuzofruit
Kuzofruit Posts: 22 Member
edited November 2024 in Motivation and Support
I’ve lost almost 30lbs, but I’m starting to gain back several pounds. One of the reasons is because my mom doesn’t support me. She doesn’t care about my weight loss journey or how her actions triggers my appetite. She would cook oily foods and the smell would spread throughout the house. Since I sleep in the living room right next to the kitchen I really can’t get away from it. One my weakness is the smell of food. I’ve told her to cook something more healthier, but she would only eat oily foods. Another thing is the access of food. She would leave foods on the counter after cooking. I’ve always told her to keep it away from my sight but her excuse is that it’s for my other siblings when they’re hungry.
I usually stick to my diet and if I lived alone I’m sure I wouldn’t have any problems, but can’t due to my current situation.
Do you have any suggestion when a family member doesn’t support your weight loss journey?

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  • pogiguy05
    pogiguy05 Posts: 1,583 Member
    You know I joke with my wife and son about taking me out to eat. I say you cannot take a crack addict to a crack house. :p

    I feel your pain, but ultimately the responsibility of US getting healthy is fully 100% on US.

    There is no one to blame for MY weight gain, but me and I know that and that is a harsh reality. No matter how good foods smells it is you who has to NOT eat it.

    Trust me I am surrounded by temptation and there is no way of eliminating it.
  • SLLeask
    SLLeask Posts: 489 Member
    I thought you were on a chicken and broccoli diet? Who is cooking that for you? Also, have you thought about sitting down with your mum, explaining your goals and why it's important to you and ASKING her to help instead of TELLING her not to do things. Failing that, I'm afraid it's up to you to resist temptations, it's hard, but when it comes down to it, it's up to you how much you really want to lose the weight. Which is more important, that moment of oily food consumption or how you feel about your weight? You are an adult, make your choice, no-one else can do it for you. Only you can be responsible for what you put in your mouth, your mum isn't stuffing it in there for you!
  • amtyrell
    amtyrell Posts: 1,447 Member
    You must be an adult if you are here. Being an adult means you take responsibility for yourself. You are being unfair to your mom asking here to not cook or eat foods that meet her goals. You are responsible for you.
    Stop the only chicken and broccoli thing
    Stop blaming mom
    Be an adult and take responsibility for yourself
    Health means a variety of foods and activities
  • Kuzofruit
    Kuzofruit Posts: 22 Member
    Thanks for the responses! You guys are right. I need to take responsibility for myself and my actions. I’m going to try and it’s going to be hard. I realize I do sometimes blame others when I should take responsibility not on just this issue but in life as well. I need to face the harsh reality and become an adult. Thanks guys!
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