People act funny now that Im smaller...

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  • CatAMcC
    CatAMcC Posts: 166 Member
    I dont know exactly how to out this into words so I will just say it the best I can. Some people have a fat friend so to speak. Having this friend makes them feel better about themselves. You are not the fat friend anymore. It scares people to see change happening so quickly. I have a few of these friends myself that ask if im hungry. No im not hungry lol. I still eat. Unless they knew you before you put on the weight they are seeing a whole new person for the very first time. Great friends will be happy for you. Give them some time to adjust to your new body. If they still act like this after some time has passed its time for them to hit the road. You look amazing and deserve to have positive people in your life supporting you all the way.

    I am the fat friend. And Ive had friends distance themselves one I became the friend who has bf out of everyone and getting slimmer and slimmer.
    One ex-friend looking back used to constantly give me all her food and refuse to eat. Havn't seen her since lost 6 stone..... love to see her face.
  • ViktoryaC
    ViktoryaC Posts: 124 Member
    It works both ways and is very frustrating. I've gained 50 pounds in the past year (not proud) going from 110 to 161 pounds. Obviously I'm upset and want to lose it, yesterday! But everyone in my office tells me I look so much more "womanly". WHat I look like is pregnant, ugh. Ignore them and do what is right for you and your body.
  • thrld
    thrld Posts: 610 Member
    and then they are all OMG ur too skinny now! REALLY?:grumble: *side eye* Or that look of horror flashes on their face when you are out shopping and you are picking up the same size clothes/smaller clothes them then.
    Some of the surprise is that your changes make them really look at you. Our eyes take for granted those who are nearest to us -- you don't notice the small changes, like how grey their hair has gotten, or if they are getting more lines around their eyes, or if they have put on 3-4 lbs . Only a big change (new haircolor, glasses, substantial weightloss) -- a big changes makes us notice and take a longer look because we have to reorient our mental picture to match this new reality.

    And some people measure themselves against others. I'm the tallest, I'm the youngest, I'm the best singer... etc. So any change you make means that those people not only have to adapt their mental picture of you to match your new reality, it means that they have to also adust their mental image of themself. Unless they openly address it as a problem, I'd say if they were a good friend before, give them time to adjust. If they don't adjust then you should speak up or if you don't think they are worth giving them the time to adapt -just let that friendship go on your end, let them make the effort to reconnect.
  • sweetpea129
    sweetpea129 Posts: 755 Member
    LOL, i JUST had this conversation with my sister today. She weighs 140 lbs, I weigh 154. We both wear a size 8 (I have more muscle than her.) She asked me if I was done losing and said that i looked great how i am now, i should probably just starting maintaining. I said that my goal is another 10-15 lbs. She says no, you look great now. Don't lose anymore. I tell her shes turning green and to stop hating and that i'll give her my size 8s when they get too big on the way down :wink: But this is the beauty of having a sister. When my friends do this i just roll my eyes and say yeah, yeah.

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