Death and divorce

Ready2befithealthy

It’s been a rough couple of months. I filed for divorce last month and yesterday my Dad died. I have lost 27 lbs and like my progress but lately comfort food is glaring at me. I know I’ll be even more upset if I start gaining weight back. Anyone out there that can relate and what did you do to push past this? Thanks in advance. ❤️❤️❤️

seltzermint555

I think routine can be really helpful in situations like yours. I am sorry you are going through so much recently. I've been through divorce, moves, job changes, and a tornado destroying my former home and lost a lot of weight and I feel tracking my food on MFP has been almost like a comfort during several phases. If you stay on track and allow SOME comfort food as part of your moderate eating you should be good to go.

XxQueenMxX

I can't relate, and I'm so sorry for your loss!!

But I think its okay to have a little of what you crave IF you really want it. Not a good thing to overeat and then feel worse after. I think just try to take easy and dont stress too much about food right now. Take the time necessary to grieve, and congrats on your weight loss, it is a great feeling.

Ready2befithealthy

XxQueenMxX wrote: »

I can't relate, and I'm so sorry for your loss!!

But I think its okay to have a little of what you crave IF you really want it. Not a good thing to overeat and then feel worse after. I think just try to take easy and dont stress too much about food right now. Take the time necessary to grieve, and congrats on your weight loss, it is a great feeling.

Thanks girl. It’s been an emotional roller coaster. I just don’t want to backslide into where I was. I’ve worked too hard to get to where I am.

Ready2befithealthy

seltzermint555 wrote: »

I think routine can be really helpful in situations like yours. I am sorry you are going through so much recently. I've been through divorce, moves, job changes, and a tornado destroying my former home and lost a lot of weight and I feel tracking my food on MFP has been almost like a comfort during several phases. If you stay on track and allow SOME comfort food as part of your moderate eating you should be good to go.

Lost your home?! I’m so sorry honey. We all have our things right? Well thanks for telling me to give myself grace. I need to be good about that.

2aycocks

I'm there with you. My 18 year old Marine grandson was killed 10 months ago. All I've done is sit, eat, and cry. I gained weight of course, and have just this week started logging my foods again.
Give yourself a break right now. Those are two huge emotional stressors at once. Don't put extra stress on yourself by worrying about your weight. Life will smooth over and you can lose any pounds you gained during your grief period. Be very very kind to yourself for a while. Big hugs!

Snowflake1968

I am not divorced, have seriously thought about it and not been very happy for a few years but haven't reached that point yet. Hopefully won't because the last couple months have been a bit better. During this time, I lost my Dad. It was after losing over 20 pounds by using MFP and exercising. I regret not keeping up with the logging during my grieving process. I am now at a higher weight that when I started the first time, I just can't help thinking that if I had at least logged and weighed myself I would have been aware and probably wouldn't have allowed it to get so far. Sorry for your loss both the marriage and your Dad.

AmberSpamber

Girl, I am so sorry. I wish I had words of comfort, but just know I am thinking about ya and sending healing energy your way.

dlm4mom

I am in the midst of big marriage problem and don't know how this will turn out because I don't know what to do. I am trying to remember that I am in control of myself including what I eat. I am just too sad to have energy to exercise.

gentlewomanfarmer

I am old enough to be your mother or maybe even your grandmother. I have been through two divorces and am currently single. I am telling you this only for context, so that you know where I am coming from.

You will come out of this okay, although you don't think you will right now. You are resourceful and you have loving family and friends who will carry you when you can't walk. What I suggest is that you get into meditation. Even if it's just for 5 minutes, it will help. And perhaps you can keep logging in MyFitnessPal without judgment. It's just useful to see where you are at. My suggestion: try to log and maintain your weight during this hard period. You can regroup when you feel strong enough.

Good luck sweetie. I have confidence in you.

kathleenneriducharme

I lost both my parents last year and gave in to emotional and stress eating. I have just started to try and lose the 12 pounds I gained during that time. I wish I had stayed more focused on my own health. Stay the course and take your emotions out on your workouts. Peace.

keodell1966

I'm so sorry your going thru this. Take it one day ( or minute!) At a time, and take care of you!! Prayers...

Ready2befithealthy

You all are so kind. It's nice to see that you all can relate and a lot of you have had significant loss. You are all strong and time has helped me tremendously. I trip up from time to time but my weight loss has been pretty steady. I appreciate it. Seriously strong people

cheryldumais

So sorry you are going through so much. If staying on track is too hard go to maintenance for a couple weeks until you get through the worst of the family stuff. The divorce is going to take a while to adjust to but if you at least stick to maintenance calories you won't gain and it gives your body a break without destroying the progress you've made. Hang in there.

mulecanter

I almost got divorced once, it's a terrible experience. I found solace and relief (endorphins I guess) in cardio exercise (running for me). It also helps with weight goals.