Emotional Eating

Jadu786
Jadu786 Posts: 141 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
I was out on Saturday and met this great guy. Super handsome, friendly, nice. We exchanged numbers and have been texting, but turns out he is 11 years younger than I am. It's so frustrating!
I've been wanting to drown my sorrows in junk food but I'm not. I don't know when the right person will finally come along...
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  • faramelee
    faramelee Posts: 163 Member
    This is an interesting comment as it's not clear what the issue is. Obviously the age is a factor for you but are you looking for someone two years older than you who is not particularly handsome, friendly or nice? A little bit of background would be great. As @amgreenwell said try and distract yourself from food by doing something else. In regards to your last statement maybe he already has and you're letting him go due to his age.......

  • kommodevaran
    kommodevaran Posts: 17,890 Member
    That's just awful!
  • AndOne8675
    AndOne8675 Posts: 151 Member
    You are your own barrier, unless 11 years younger means under 18.
    Also, what RecognitionT said.
  • MommyMeggo
    MommyMeggo Posts: 1,222 Member
    Would you want to be rejected for being 11 years older?
    Or is that what actually happened? Not sure why the depression over liking him.
    If you like each other then who cares?
  • leejoyce31
    leejoyce31 Posts: 794 Member
    RecognitionT wrote: »
    That's quite literally the same idea as rejecting a guy over his height.

    They're both factors out of his control.

    Easy there judgy.

    lol
  • SuzySunshine99
    SuzySunshine99 Posts: 2,989 Member
    There's a 16 year age difference between my husband and myself. We have a wonderful relationship.
  • MommyMeggo
    MommyMeggo Posts: 1,222 Member
    Jadu786 wrote: »
    I was out on Saturday and met this great guy. Super handsome, friendly, nice. We exchanged numbers and have been texting, but turns out he is 11 years younger than I am. It's so frustrating!
    I've been wanting to drown my sorrows in junk food but I'm not. I don't know when the right person will finally come along...

    And never underestimate the fact that age is a number. The rest is up to the person.
    If you want to go mental age differences, Im sure most of the MFP has your 11 year gap beat!! lol
  • Annie_01
    Annie_01 Posts: 3,096 Member
    Does he know that you are 11 years older? If so...does he care?

    Is he asking you to date...or to get married?

    Are you worried about dating someone younger or are you worried about what your friends and family will say?

    Maybe it won't work long term but maybe the both of you will have fun while it lasts.
  • hannamarie0098
    hannamarie0098 Posts: 85 Member
    Lots of people make significant age gaps work. A friend of mine and his partner have the same age gap and me and my mum. They’re very happy and in love, he has taken on the older children as his own and they also have a baby together. Don’t rule it out, stay open minded and see where it goes.
  • Jadu786
    Jadu786 Posts: 141 Member
    So I’m 35 and he is 24. I asked him his age but he didn’t ask me how old I am as of yet! When I met him at the club I thought he will be around 30... but he’s way younger. He’s just asked me to hang out ...but since I really liked him I don’t want to get emotionally caught up... I have a hard time thinking that someone 24 would want to be in a serious relationship .. and that too with someone 11 years older than them ...
  • JenniferNoll
    JenniferNoll Posts: 367 Member
    Go out. Hang out. Have fun. Who says it has to turn into a serious relationship at this point? You just might end up with a great friend! Besides, I got married at 23 years old. My husband is 12 years older than me. There's nothing wrong with you being older than him.
  • Jadu786
    Jadu786 Posts: 141 Member
    Do you guys think I should tell him about the age difference before meeting up with him?
  • mbaker566
    mbaker566 Posts: 11,233 Member
    i would. why waste time if he is uncomfortable
    also most of the people at clubs are in their 20s in my part of the world.

    and no man/other person is worth emotional eating.
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,741 Member
    Jadu786 wrote: »
    Do you guys think I should tell him about the age difference before meeting up with him?

    I think if he cared right now he would've asked you your age when you asked him. Go hang out. See how it goes.

    You're making assumptions that someone his age doesn't want a serious relationship. Fact is, you don't know unless you ask. Not saying you should bring that up right away. Go out with him again and see what happens.
  • 150poundsofme
    150poundsofme Posts: 523 Member
    Enjoy, life is short.
  • concordancia
    concordancia Posts: 5,320 Member
    My husband is 12 years younger than me. When we first got together, he was young enough that car insurance for both of us and two cars was cheaper than what he had been paying on his own.

  • middlehaitch
    middlehaitch Posts: 8,486 Member
    I met my SO when he was 24 and I was 31. I'm now 64 and he is 57. Sometimes these things work out.

    He is also twice my weight and 13in taller.
    The odd couple indeed, but it works.

    Give the guy a chance.

    Cheers, h.
  • callsitlikeiseeit
    callsitlikeiseeit Posts: 8,626 Member
    unless it makes him under age - why does it matter?
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    mbaker566 wrote: »
    i would. why waste time if he is uncomfortable
    also most of the people at clubs are in their 20s in my part of the world.

    and no man/other person is worth emotional eating.

    Agree!

  • Jadu786
    Jadu786 Posts: 141 Member
    Hi Everyone, for those who read this thread, I did finally tell him that I'm 10 years older than him. He still seems interested in talking and getting to know each other. So I'll just keep talking to him I guess. I just have to be careful not to get too emotionally involved and just think of him as a friend. I actually told him that even though I'm older we could be friends, and he said yes, we could definitely be friends - but on the other hand continues to flirt. When I talked to him about the whole age thing he also told me he is very mature for his age. IDK, I guess just talk and see where it goes.
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,416 Member
    If you have Netflix, watch that show, "Age Gap Love."

    And slow your mental/emotional roll. You barely know this guy. Maybe he has a house full of pythons and tarantulas. Maybe he's a drug user or alcoholic. That might not be a dealbreaker for you - but it would be for me.
  • Jadu786
    Jadu786 Posts: 141 Member
    cmriverside wrote: »
    If you have Netflix, watch that show, "Age Gap Love."

    And slow your mental/emotional roll. You barely know this guy. Maybe he has a house full of pythons and tarantulas. Maybe he's a drug user or alcoholic. That might not be a dealbreaker for you - but it would be for me.

    Yes your right. I shouldn't immediately be thinking about the future etc. I just have to slow down my mental train that's going 100 miles a minute I guess...
  • concordancia
    concordancia Posts: 5,320 Member
    Jadu786 wrote: »
    cmriverside wrote: »
    If you have Netflix, watch that show, "Age Gap Love."

    And slow your mental/emotional roll. You barely know this guy. Maybe he has a house full of pythons and tarantulas. Maybe he's a drug user or alcoholic. That might not be a dealbreaker for you - but it would be for me.

    Yes your right. I shouldn't immediately be thinking about the future etc. I just have to slow down my mental train that's going 100 miles a minute I guess...

    I have always thought that was one of the best bits of slowly getting to know my husband. When we finally had The Talk, I was able to say "I don't feel like I am crazy about you, I am sane for you." Not sure our dear friend who heard both sides of the story would agree, but compared to all the previous relationships it was true :)

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