I love how I looked but hated the work

Lois_1989

cheeri0z wrote: »

I've regained 6lbs in the last 2 months and before that I lost over 30lbs through mfp. I looked and felt greattt

I'm fed up counting calories, I'm stressed ( single mom to a 1 year old and living at home again ) and I'm surrounded by tempting foods and snacks.

once I eat a donut or a croissant I give up for the rest of the day and binge eat.

help

If you have moved back in with your parents, wouldn't that free you up to go to the gym or go for a walk/run? Maybe you could schedule it in with them that you have 3 evenings a week to exercise, if you know a 30min run burns X amount of calories, then you know you can eat that back in tempting foods, and eat the way you were before you moved back in.

leejoyce31

JoAnna4731 wrote: »

I really feel for you - being a new mom with additional life circumstance stressors is incredibly difficult (been there, done that). One thing that helped me during that time was to not focus on my weight at all. I just did not have the mental bandwidth to deal with it. Instead, I focused on eating food that would give me energy to deal with the stress, and also prioritized sleep. I did not work out at all. I made little food rules that helped me when I had lost weight years earlier - something green with every meal, lay off the pasta a bit (but don't eliminate it!), egg whites are your friend. I didn't lose weight - I maintained at my pre-pregnancy weight, which was still overweight, but it really didn't matter to me then. Getting through each day with my head on straight was the priority.

There is a season for everything in life. When your kids are very little, your priorities shift, especially if you have more going on than just being a new parent. AND THAT'S OK. You have to figure out what you can live with right now, and if dealing with logging and working out is not part of that, that's fine. There will be consequences (as you are experiencing now), but you can minimize those by just making small mindful choices every day to remain healthy. When you are used to your new normal in a few months, you can start focusing on this aspect of your life again.

I totally agree regarding having the mental bandwidth. I think being in the right place mentally is crucial. Sometimes, we just have to strive to survive. That's not giving us an excuse to just let go, but it can be a reason why we struggle to hang on. I am amazed at people who are successful with their healthy lifestyle when others in the home bring in trigger foods. I live alone, which is so helpful to me. When I visit family out of town, I eat constantly just because the food is there. Good thing I don't visit often.

amandaeve

There is only so much we can push ourselves though, there is a limit to what we can take. Those times when the stress of "healthy me" has to step aside for more pressing priorities, I try to keep it simple:

Just stay a little bit hungry. Most of the time.

No counting, no extra time needed. With everything else, a little hunger doesn't add much more, and helps keep me in line. Life is tough, be kind to yourself. You deserve it. But you worked really hard to get to where you are now, and you also deserve to honor the efforts the past you made.