The struggle is real

GrahamJ78

Hello everyone,

Back in 2010 I set out on a journey to lose weight, I was 350lbs and in a marriage that wasn't good for me so I set about changing my life. I joined the local gym and cooked every meal and worked out every day almost. My friends would go out every Friday and Saturday night and I always declined, instead going to the gym on my own and working out. As the months went by confidence grew and people I hadnt seen four months wouldn't recognise me. On one occasion someone I knew walked by me after I said hi. Within ten months I'd lost 140lbs and was out running every day in the snow and rain. I ended my unhappy marriage and spent time on my own and concentrated on myself. I felt like a new person. I grew more and more confident and I met someone else who couldn't believe the transformation.

Anyway, throughout the years I found myself in a similar situation. I stopped working out and in those 8 years I'd gained all of my weight back. Talk about self destruct mode!! Anyway, at the moment I set myself new challenges at the beginning of March in trying to lose the weight again and back to a happier and healthy version of me and so far I'm going well. I'm down 43lbs at the moment and I've set myself goals. I still feel like a failure for gaining the weight back but looking back is self destructive so I'm wondering if anyone else has a similar experience?

I'm looking to make new friends with that drive and determination that's needed to achieve their goals?

kakaovanilya

Hi and welcome. I didn't have a similar experience but I don't think you are a failure. You may have gained all the weight back but you started losing again and already lost a good amount of weight. I've been struggling to lose 5 kilograms (around 10 lbs) for months but each time I started eating healthy, I ended up cheating and gave up. I've been binging for the last 3 days and gained 3 kilograms (almost 7 pounds) in 3 days. This is failure. You did it before so you can do it again.