Family issues ongoing, with update

jgnatca

It’s a waste of time trying to talk sense with a person in the grips of impaired reality. I just can’t give it the attention that is craved.

https://youtu.be/k6p1Ck0ab80

I make myself scarce until the medication kicks in.

dec056

jgnatca wrote: »

My guess is bipolar?

Here’s a local cautionary tale. There’s no coming back from a tragedy like this.

http://edmontonjournal.com/news/crime/friends-of-nurse-killed-by-mother-call-for-accountability-within-health-care-system

Perhaps dad can take a day off work and attend the psychiatrists office. You can also write an account of some of the things your mom has said and done to send along to the psychiatrist.

I typed up a letter with everything that was going on and sent it with her the last time she went to the inpatient psychiatric hospital, which was about a month ago. She has been blaming me for that as well. I can't win no matter what I do.

RastaLousGirl

dec056 wrote: »

jgnatca wrote: »

My guess is bipolar?

Here’s a local cautionary tale. There’s no coming back from a tragedy like this.

http://edmontonjournal.com/news/crime/friends-of-nurse-killed-by-mother-call-for-accountability-within-health-care-system

Perhaps dad can take a day off work and attend the psychiatrists office. You can also write an account of some of the things your mom has said and done to send along to the psychiatrist.

I typed up a letter with everything that was going on and sent it with her the last time she went to the inpatient psychiatric hospital, which was about a month ago. She has been blaming me for that as well. I can't win no matter what I do.

Is your mother being taken care of by other family members? If so, it is time for you to love from a distance for a while. Catch a break, get out of there (for your own safety and her to recover).

FYI, my sister is bi-polar and has had psychosis episodes. Our family is very tight knitted and all have learned her behavior, and have a few supporting family members to step in when needed. We see the beginning signs and get her help as soon as we see them. So, it has never reached to this level. I completely understand living with someone with mental health issues, it takes a lot of patience. But, you have to look after yourself as well.

You might also want to reach out to NAMI- National Alliance on Mental Illness. They have an amazing support group for family and friends.

dec056

ToniLeeAnn82 wrote: »

dec056 wrote: »

jgnatca wrote: »

My guess is bipolar?

Here’s a local cautionary tale. There’s no coming back from a tragedy like this.

http://edmontonjournal.com/news/crime/friends-of-nurse-killed-by-mother-call-for-accountability-within-health-care-system

Perhaps dad can take a day off work and attend the psychiatrists office. You can also write an account of some of the things your mom has said and done to send along to the psychiatrist.

I typed up a letter with everything that was going on and sent it with her the last time she went to the inpatient psychiatric hospital, which was about a month ago. She has been blaming me for that as well. I can't win no matter what I do.

Is your mother being taken care of by other family members? If so, it is time for you to love from a distance for a while. Catch a break, get out of there (for your own safety and her to recover).

FYI, my sister is bi-polar and has had psychosis episodes. Our family is very tight knitted and all have learned her behavior, and have a few supporting family members to step in when needed. We see the beginning signs and get her help as soon as we see them. So, it has never reached to this level. I completely understand living with someone with mental health issues, it takes a lot of patience. But, you have to look after yourself as well.

You might also want to reach out to NAMI- National Alliance on Mental Illness. They have an amazing support group for family and friends.

No. She, me, and my dad are the only family around here.

RastaLousGirl

dec056 wrote: »

ToniLeeAnn82 wrote: »

dec056 wrote: »

jgnatca wrote: »

My guess is bipolar?

Here’s a local cautionary tale. There’s no coming back from a tragedy like this.

http://edmontonjournal.com/news/crime/friends-of-nurse-killed-by-mother-call-for-accountability-within-health-care-system

Perhaps dad can take a day off work and attend the psychiatrists office. You can also write an account of some of the things your mom has said and done to send along to the psychiatrist.

I typed up a letter with everything that was going on and sent it with her the last time she went to the inpatient psychiatric hospital, which was about a month ago. She has been blaming me for that as well. I can't win no matter what I do.

Is your mother being taken care of by other family members? If so, it is time for you to love from a distance for a while. Catch a break, get out of there (for your own safety and her to recover).

FYI, my sister is bi-polar and has had psychosis episodes. Our family is very tight knitted and all have learned her behavior, and have a few supporting family members to step in when needed. We see the beginning signs and get her help as soon as we see them. So, it has never reached to this level. I completely understand living with someone with mental health issues, it takes a lot of patience. But, you have to look after yourself as well.

You might also want to reach out to NAMI- National Alliance on Mental Illness. They have an amazing support group for family and friends.

No. She, me, and my dad are the only family around here.

Understood. I really recommend NAMI.

jgnatca

I gave up on the idea that my mom could love me in any way some time ago. When I got her committed I was pretty sure she would hate me for a while. I think it was a year. Bah. I considered the options and it was more important that she get proper treatment.

The committal hospital did a bang up job. Got her tranquillized in to acquiescence them balanced her medication. Thirty days she was out and she never went off her meds again. It was worth it for a little hate.

Besides a hating parent calls less (hopefully).

100_PROOF_

Sorry to see that things are still bad. I thought about you today and figured I'd come find this thread to see how things are going with you. I'm sorry it's still awful.

Here's what I would do-
1. Keep saving up for your apartment. Get it as soon as you have enough.
2. Type up another letter and send it directly to her doctors. Because of HIPPA laws they won't be able to discuss anything with you over the phone but they can absolutely read the letter that you have written with your concerns. This will give them the perspective that they may need to see that her current meds are not working. They will also learn that she's conning them into thinking she's fine when In reality she is not.
3. Get a support system for yourself. This might take a little time but will be worth it. See if you can get in touch with any outreach program or something that will give you an outlet to vent about your family crisis.
4. Talk to a counselor or trusted religious leaders and make them aware of your situation. Let them know just how much this is hurting you. They may be able to help.
5. Most importantly remember that this is not your fault. You've done nothing wrong.

dec056

100_PROOF_ wrote: »

Sorry to see that things are still bad. I thought about you today and figured I'd come find this thread to see how things are going with you. I'm sorry it's still awful.

Here's what I would do-
1. Keep saving up for your apartment. Get it as soon as you have enough.
2. Type up another letter and send it directly to her doctors. Because of HIPPA laws they won't be able to discuss anything with you over the phone but they can absolutely read the letter that you have written with your concerns. This will give them the perspective that they may need to see that her current meds are not working. They will also learn that she's conning them into thinking she's fine when In reality she is not.
3. Get a support system for yourself. This might take a little time but will be worth it. See if you can get in touch with any outreach program or something that will give you an outlet to vent about your family crisis.
4. Talk to a counselor or trusted religious leaders and make them aware of your situation. Let them know just how much this is hurting you. They may be able to help.
5. Most importantly remember that this is not your fault. You've done nothing wrong.

Thanks so much! I know I haven't done anything wrong. I'm just tired of being miserable. I'm looking forward to moving out and having some peace and enjoying life for once.