Why do the students I work with ignore me now?

100_PROOF_

Maybe show up to work dressed up like Elmo or Charles Manson and they might think it's cool

jgnatca

Did they have any classroom control classes in school?

Striving to be liked is a recipe for failure. You will be perceived as a pushover with no principles.

Comparing your experiences with those of other teachers is a recipe for failure. The only factor under your control is how you treat the students.

Here are some decent goals:
- Make the best decision you can in the moment with the information you have.
- Be respectful, fair and just.
- No excuses. Your friends don’t need them and your enemies won’t believe them.
- Give yourself a personal evaluation at the end of the day. Did you give your best? What changes can you try for the next day? Then forgive yourself and stand tall.
- If a child turns down your help, let them know it’s their loss and if they change their mind, you are available.
- Find your joy and keep smiling.

kpsyche

Barbaramarierobertson wrote: »

tbright1965 wrote: »

Barbaramarierobertson wrote: »

When I started I wanted to be the fun hip teacher but I gave in so much to and now since I've been more firmer and stern they hate me and ignore me. I became a doormat and kids didn't listen to me and didn't take me serious when I'm trying to be. Some of the kids adored me and all but now they completely ignore me...well not all kids. When I said hi to one of the students this morning, she sounded disappointed and said, "Hi". She happily said hi to the others. I told her nice dress. She said thanks. She prefers her other teachers over me. Okay that's fine. I want the kids to listen to me but I also want to be cool and well liked. The teachers said I needed to be more firmer and tougher but fair. So one student he said, "I HATE you." When I started being more firmer and wouldn't let him get away with certian things. Now the students I work with....well a few won't talk to me and ignore me. I wasn't rude. I waa being a teacher. Another student only said hi to the other three teachers. When I said good morning I was ignored. The teacher said, "You can say hi to Miss Bianca." He said it disappointly. How rude.
I feel left out sometimes but just doing my job. Should I even care?
Am I being paranoid?

I'd say wrong goal.

Instead of being cool or hip, which is very transient, be the teacher students can count on to be a competent educator who cares.

The teachers I look back on as I approach my 35th class reunion are not those who were cool or hip. I look back on those who brought out the very best in me.

When I was in 4th grade, it's a good thing ADD or ADHD had not yet been invented or I would have had it. I have this old pentecostal woman who was my teacher who didn't put up with my crap. But she also knew I was bright and bored in class. She made sure I had challenging work and kept my mind engaged.

I remember giving her a hug and kiss at the end of 4th grade.

It wasn't the cool and hip teachers who were able to reach me. It was the teacher who could see who I was and what I needed and made it happened. She "played" the long game and changed my life.

Not saying a cool hip teacher couldn't do that. But it's not done by being cool or hip. It's done by really caring that the student learns. Not being afraid to challenge the student to learn and grow.

Is that why the students ignore me?

Perhaps they ignore you because you selectively ignore them -- like you've ignored the question asked of you in this thread multiple times

Motorsheen

Barbaramarierobertson wrote: »

tbright1965 wrote: »

Barbaramarierobertson wrote: »

When I started I wanted to be the fun hip teacher but I gave in so much to and now since I've been more firmer and stern they hate me and ignore me. I became a doormat and kids didn't listen to me and didn't take me serious when I'm trying to be. Some of the kids adored me and all but now they completely ignore me...well not all kids. When I said hi to one of the students this morning, she sounded disappointed and said, "Hi". She happily said hi to the others. I told her nice dress. She said thanks. She prefers her other teachers over me. Okay that's fine. I want the kids to listen to me but I also want to be cool and well liked. The teachers said I needed to be more firmer and tougher but fair. So one student he said, "I HATE you." When I started being more firmer and wouldn't let him get away with certian things. Now the students I work with....well a few won't talk to me and ignore me. I wasn't rude. I waa being a teacher. Another student only said hi to the other three teachers. When I said good morning I was ignored. The teacher said, "You can say hi to Miss Bianca." He said it disappointly. How rude.
I feel left out sometimes but just doing my job. Should I even care?
Am I being paranoid?

I'd say wrong goal.

Instead of being cool or hip, which is very transient, be the teacher students can count on to be a competent educator who cares.

The teachers I look back on as I approach my 35th class reunion are not those who were cool or hip. I look back on those who brought out the very best in me.

When I was in 4th grade, it's a good thing ADD or ADHD had not yet been invented or I would have had it. I have this old pentecostal woman who was my teacher who didn't put up with my crap. But she also knew I was bright and bored in class. She made sure I had challenging work and kept my mind engaged.

I remember giving her a hug and kiss at the end of 4th grade.

It wasn't the cool and hip teachers who were able to reach me. It was the teacher who could see who I was and what I needed and made it happened. She "played" the long game and changed my life.

Not saying a cool hip teacher couldn't do that. But it's not done by being cool or hip. It's done by really caring that the student learns. Not being afraid to challenge the student to learn and grow.

Is that why the students ignore me?

set clear expectations and consequences.


be fair.... but drop the hammer on any, and all, misbehavior; drop it hard.

bisonpitcher

I have a good rapport with most of my students (HS). For me its all about being firm but fair and most of all letting the kids now you truly care about them. Not being cool, but truly caring about them and listening to them whether its something great they did or something bad going on in their life. That's what works for me.

Momepro

I love kids too, and studied to be a preschool teacher. I was not fabulous at it. Turns out, I am VERY good one on one, especially with kids that are having trouble, but I am way too easy going and flexible to be good at classroom management. Now I'm a behavior tutor, work one on one with the kids I can help the most, and love it! Maybe this just isn't the best path for you, and you should think about what parts you love, and are good at, and concentrate on specializing.

TavistockToad

Clever_User_Name wrote: »

This thread doesn't appear to be worth the time either

Very disappointing