Judgment Free Zone

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  • Diatonic12
    Diatonic12 Posts: 32,344 Member
    edited June 2018
    Yes, I like every music genre.

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  • Diatonic12
    Diatonic12 Posts: 32,344 Member
    Giving myself permission to stop dieting is one of the best decisions I've ever made.

    I choose to no longer assign moral judgments to food. Clean Eating vs. Dirty Eating. Good girl and bad girl, good foods and bad foods. Good Day or Bad Day. Carbs or No Carbs. All or Nothing.

    Giving myself permission to stop going to the gym was liberating. True freedom. I never enjoyed one minute there and it was always like rubbing up against sandpaper.

    To say that I am happier without all of it is to understate my personality by several thousand degrees. At some particular point in time, you may reach the tipping point with all of it, too.

    I support those with delicate health and weight loss struggles, it is so very hard. I rail against shorter lifespans caused by dieting and rebounding back with every pound plus friends. I don't want you or me to go out like that.

  • Kimmotion5783
    Kimmotion5783 Posts: 417 Member
    edited June 2018
    Mari22na wrote: »
    Freedom to share about your weight releasing journey, maintenance, how you've stopped yourself from falling back into old patterns and habits that lead to rebound weight gain. How you were able to right your ship through. How do you handle food triggers. So much of food and weight stability is mental. How we think about things, approach them, work through them. How do you continue on. This is a judgment free zone.

    re: falling back into old habits...

    One thing that works for me really well is remembering how terrible my old habits made me feel. And I had some terrible habits before this weight loss journey: no exercise, drank soda like crazy, and ate TONS of junk food. I used to lounge on the couch in front of the TV for hours (I counted 6 hours one time!) And then I could never figure out why I felt so lousy all the time. I got sick frequently (in/out of doctors' offices, got the flu every six months like clockwork, etc.) I wasn't just tired all the time, I was flat out exhausted and couldn't figure out why. It was my poor lifestyle at that time. Nowadays I eat healthy, exercise regularly, drink TONS of water every single day, no more soda/ junk food, and (*knock on wood*) I only go to the doctor's for an annual physical.

    I'm a bit stubborn in that every once in a while, I get tempted to fall back into that old pattern again of eating junk food and vegging in front of the TV all night. And every time that happens, any time I think "boy wouldn't it be great to get some junk food and veg out with a good movie or tv show?!" I think again: it might be great for two seconds, and then it wouldn't be so great because I would start falling back into old patterns that make me feel downright lousy. Not great, not worth it. Because you aren't rewarding that temptation by feeding into it, it goes away and it gets easier each time to say no.

    We always remember how something makes us feel, and that can be the best way to deter old bad habits from coming back.
  • Diatonic12
    Diatonic12 Posts: 32,344 Member
    edited June 2018
    Engaging in hot debate over which quick weight loss miracle cure is the best no longer interests me. You have to be careful with too much dieting. It can become the new addiction that replaces food addiction.

    Recovery can become the addiction.

    Turn around and take a good hard look at your life. Can you count on less than 5 fingers the number of times that you have found true weight stability in your life. If so, think about giving yourself permission to stop dieting.

    The stats for weight loss stability after all of the dieting is done is less than 5% within 5 years. I no longer want to be in that number.

    Make sure what you're doing and putting yourself through isn't mostly a huge rationalization because it sounds really familiar to me. Where have I heard that before, oh yeah.... the former dieting me.

    There will always be another food hack or mono-meal hack coming around the corner. The world will always be populated with environments and breakrooms at the office that won't support your overall health and wellbeing. You might as well get used to it if you want your health a priority.

    Just keep tooling along with your MFP food tracking because it works. Especially for those of us who have messed up our metabolic cues from waaaaay too much dieting. Your personal journal will keep your hands busy during some inevitable rough patches.

    Dieting and food hacks encourage the concept of NEVER. All or nothing. Good or Bad. Clean or Dirty Eating. When the entirety of life is just too huge to contemplate without the ability to enjoy a sandwich or bowl of your grandmother's pasta ever again...many will throw in the towel and go on a thrill eating ride.

    I'll start over tomorrow or on July 1, nooo, maybe after July 4th. There's no such thing as the perfect day to start or the perfect day to end. That's all or nothing thinking and it only digs a much deeper hole for you you.

    Every day you make a decision to eliminate about 4 or 5 food groups is another day of riding on the dieting merry-go-round. There's always a wrecking ball and another day of reckoning coming. The body is bent on survival.

    Getting off the dieting crazytrain is the strategy I've used and it's breaks the wild swings up and down, the crazytrain cycles of quick weight loss and rapid rebound.

    Write down all of the dieting rules and regulations you are following. Save them for a rainy day when you fall off the dieting crazytrain. Reassess without rationalizations.

    If you haven't found any true lasting stability with your weight in the last 5 years or 50 years, doing what you've always done will get you what you've always gotten. It's time for a change, make lasting changes that you can live with for the rest of your life.

    Don't look to the left or right or listen to anyone harping more dieting blather into your ears. Get off their train. Find your food sane. Give yourself permission to do absolutely everything on your own terms. That's freedom.

    Really reach for happiness every day. Don't let anyone marsh your mellow or be your master controller. Take full responsibility for everything. All of your decisions. With each passing day, you'll make better ones.

    Knowledge takes away all of the fear.

    http://"]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vNb-8gLcXLs[/url].

    Dieting no longer owns me.

  • CSARdiver
    CSARdiver Posts: 6,252 Member
    100_PROOF_ wrote: »
    I prefer vodka infused gummy bears but I see you failed to mention them! Have you not tried them yet?

    Bourbon bears

    https://www.sugarfina.com/bourbon-bears

    Note you can inject real Bourbon with a 20 ga needle. I recommend refrigerating first.
  • snickerscharlie
    snickerscharlie Posts: 8,578 Member
    CSARdiver wrote: »
    100_PROOF_ wrote: »
    I prefer vodka infused gummy bears but I see you failed to mention them! Have you not tried them yet?

    Bourbon bears

    https://www.sugarfina.com/bourbon-bears

    Note you can inject real Bourbon with a 20 ga needle. I recommend refrigerating first.

    I'm going to try this with Haribo sugar free gummy bears. No caloric guilt, a free colonic 'cleanse' and while that's happening, I'll be too drunk to care! B)
  • L1zardQueen
    L1zardQueen Posts: 8,753 Member
    My gummy bear mold, along with the citric acid to make them sour are being delivered tomorrow. Boo yah. Amazon is the best.
  • snickerscharlie
    snickerscharlie Posts: 8,578 Member
    Pics or it didn't happen.
  • Diatonic12
    Diatonic12 Posts: 32,344 Member
    edited June 2018
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  • kami3006
    kami3006 Posts: 4,979 Member
    CSARdiver wrote: »
    100_PROOF_ wrote: »
    I prefer vodka infused gummy bears but I see you failed to mention them! Have you not tried them yet?

    Bourbon bears

    https://www.sugarfina.com/bourbon-bears

    Note you can inject real Bourbon with a 20 ga needle. I recommend refrigerating first.

    I'm going to try this with Haribo sugar free gummy bears. No caloric guilt, a free colonic 'cleanse' and while that's happening, I'll be too drunk to care! B)

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  • Diatonic12
    Diatonic12 Posts: 32,344 Member
    I keep my eyes on my own plate.

    Do you really know how to think free? Are you confused due to the conditional brain accepting what it is told without critical analyses. The lazy brain protests the thought of considering questions.

    Thoughts become entrenched taking the path of least resistance...more the pathways are reinforced and used - the more entrenched they become.

    Expanding thought requires pushing the rivers in new directions which takes conscious energy. The lazy brain just goes with the flow.

    It is easier to believe what is taught about dieting or anything than question it.

    Conscious thought is the direct opposite of socially engineered thinking. New possibilities alter the pathways in your brain.

    Lazy brains protest having to think in new ways. Conscious thoughts allow for happiness.

    There's no basis for thinking beyond what we're told to do. We prefer to keep our mouths shut and voice no negatives that go against the grain of dieting fads and trends or peer pressure. That can bring more food sadness and food misery.

    Really reaching for happiness every day is energizing. It expands your thoughts to new horizons. Conscious awareness inspires positive actions that can unite us rather than divide us.

    Deprogram. Think for yourself.

    Think for just a moment. Expand your perception to consider the possibilities beyond what you think you know.

    Retrain your brain to think free.

    Train your brain to think in new ways.

    Food peace begins with inner peace. Voice no negative towards yourself without a solution.

    Gather your strength of spirit to dare to care about yourself and others.

    Awareness is the first step towards positive and necessary change.

    Food truth seekers want the truth regardless of what it costs.

    I keep my eyes on my own plate.


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  • KatTad77
    KatTad77 Posts: 39 Member
    Mari22na wrote: »
    Freedom to share about your weight releasing journey, maintenance, how you've stopped yourself from falling back into old patterns and habits that lead to rebound weight gain. How you were able to right your ship through. How do you handle food triggers. So much of food and weight stability is mental. How we think about things, approach them, work through them. How do you continue on. This is a judgment free zone.

    I still have a long journey but I am still pretty proud of myself. I have went from over 400 pounds to under 300 in a year and a few months. My motivation is my son first and my career second. I allow myself one treat day and its Saturdays. I work with plateaus by changing my exercise routines. I keep myself from trigger foods by not allowing it in the house. It's not an easy journey but nothing great is ever easy.
  • Diatonic12
    Diatonic12 Posts: 32,344 Member
    I still have a long journey but I am still pretty proud of myself.

    Hello, Hellooo....you've made my day. I'm proud of you, too. Much love to you KatTad, come back anytime and share all of your good decisions. The half has not been told how much all of this matters to your son and others. Bravo.

  • Diatonic12
    Diatonic12 Posts: 32,344 Member
    Willpower runs out. Motivation is a gift. There's a big difference between the two.

    Willpower = Forcing yourself to take action

    Motivation = Increasing your own desire to take action

    You can take action even if you're not motivated to do so.

    The body is bent on survival. Eventually, the body will want you to move, get off the couch and move at some speed above zero. I know how to motivate myself, talk to myself and even entertain myself. In the end, who else is going to do it for you. No one can.

    You can read self-help motivational books until you're filled to the brim with words, words, words. In in the end, you don't even remember what they've said. Too many words.

    Weight Releasing = 80% food awareness and 20% exercise that you enjoy on your own terms

    Sprinting and running isn't right for my body. It's a thing of my childhood. Dieting until your weight is artificially low due to the stress of overrestriction - there will be a great appetite reckoning to face in the future.

    The point being that when you can no longer imagine taking off more body weight because it's not going to dramatically change your running or lifting abilities or your back/hips/knees/shoulders tolerance of said abilities...

    You have to come to grips with the body you have today is where you will be now and for the foreseeable future. It's enough.

    Working on building a better core is not enough to offset bulging discs, pinched nerves, bone spurs or arthritis.

    Tread lightly.

    Maybe you should stop sprinting. Maybe you can run without negative repercussions. Bike without cramps. Not particularly fast, but so what. It is darned hard to give up the things we really want to do. You can keep tooling along right on the edge of discomfort and gut it out.

    Pain is the precursor to change. All change.

    It may be time for renewal, reassessment and a reassertion of your goals. Many people keep starting over and over and over again to get control of their weight and lifestyle in general. Many thrill eaters look into their pasts and childhood for the clues.

    What the root cause is. I'm beyond willing to plumb the depths of my soul for answers. Search all of the dark corners and ugly places of the ego and super ego. I'm always hoping to find the signs that point towards the key to unlocking all of the mysteries of thrill eating and weight maintenance.

    Theoretically, I'd love to know the why, why, why. So much of the food/weight mystery is still unexplored. I can't get bogged down in the unknown roots because it's not very productive. My time is better spent on dealing with the present rather than the past. That's just how I tick.

    When all of the dieting is done, did it change everything for you then?

    http://"]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zsqF3p8ORDE[/url]


    They call me the breeze. Ain't no change in me. I'm going to keep tooling on down the road. I've got to keep moving on.

    Oh bliss, oh joy, oh happiness found.
    Much Love.



  • quiksylver296
    quiksylver296 Posts: 28,439 Member
    Mari22na wrote: »
    Willpower runs out. Motivation is a gift. There's a big difference between the two.

    Willpower = Forcing yourself to take action

    Motivation = Increasing your own desire to take action

    You can take action even if you're not motivated to do so.

    The body is bent on survival. Eventually, the body will want you to move, get off the couch and move at some speed above zero. I know how to motivate myself, talk to myself and even entertain myself. In the end, who else is going to do it for you. No one can.

    You can read self-help motivational books until you're filled to the brim with words, words, words. In in the end, you don't even remember what they've said. Too many words.

    Weight Releasing = 80% food awareness and 20% exercise that you enjoy on your own terms

    Sprinting and running isn't right for my body. It's a thing of my childhood. Dieting until your weight is artificially low due to the stress of overrestriction - there will be a great appetite reckoning to face in the future.

    The point being that when you can no longer imagine taking off more body weight because it's not going to dramatically change your running or lifting abilities or your back/hips/knees/shoulders tolerance of said abilities...

    You have to come to grips with the body you have today is where you will be now and for the foreseeable future. It's enough.

    Working on building a better core is not enough to offset bulging discs, pinched nerves, bone spurs or arthritis.

    Tread lightly.

    Maybe you should stop sprinting. Maybe you can run without negative repercussions. Bike without cramps. Not particularly fast, but so what. It is darned hard to give up the things we really want to do. You can keep tooling along right on the edge of discomfort and gut it out.

    Pain is the precursor to change. All change.

    It may be time for renewal, reassessment and a reassertion of your goals. Many people keep starting over and over and over again to get control of their weight and lifestyle in general. Many thrill eaters look into their pasts and childhood for the clues.

    What the root cause is. I'm beyond willing to plumb the depths of my soul for answers. Search all of the dark corners and ugly places of the ego and super ego. I'm always hoping to find the signs that point towards the key to unlocking all of the mysteries of thrill eating and weight maintenance.

    Theoretically, I'd love to know the why, why, why. So much of the food/weight mystery is still unexplored. I can't get bogged down in the unknown roots because it's not very productive. My time is better spent on dealing with the present rather than the past. That's just how I tick.

    When all of the dieting is done, did it change everything for you then?

    http://"]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zsqF3p8ORDE[/url]


    They call me the breeze. Ain't no change in me. I'm going to keep tooling on down the road. I've got to keep moving on.

    Oh bliss, oh joy, oh happiness found.
    Much Love.



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  • Diatonic12
    Diatonic12 Posts: 32,344 Member
    If dieting really worked, you would do one diet, one time and be fixed for life.

    Dieting doesn't work. It's a temporary fix to compensate for weight struggles...during giant month hunks of your life.

    You've probably heard about OMAD. One Meal A Day. It's going to solve all of your problems. Not.

    Within 1 hour's time you take in all of your food, preferably at noontime. The theory goes that one insulin excursion per day will be magic. The sky is not the limit, if you can dream it and build it, you can eat all the things within that one hour. For extra metabolism boosting, you drink ACV with the big lunchtime lallapalooza.
    Supposedly, you're going to be dropping it like it's hot and burning fat like a machine.

    If dieting really worked, you would do one diet, one time and be fixed for the rest of your life.

    Talking to yourself can really help you during the inevitable rough patches.
    I've been thinking about words. So many words.

    Don't let yesterday use up too much of today. If you overate yesterday, there's no need to undereat today. It's our job to keep food calm and not join the chaos out there everywhere else. I don't want to go out like that.

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