Food: my drug of choice log1

brimom19
brimom19 Posts: 78 Member
edited November 2024 in Introduce Yourself
My first love, many time my only love has become my destructive dangerous drug of choice. I have never been a drinker or did any hard core drugs—- just weed when I was younger. Food, however, is my best friend. One of those best friends that is with you no matter why. My ride or die friend. Things is... I have discovered that this friend is slowly killing me. It’s the friend that has completely betrayed me. The drug that is killing me, but I still must have in order to live. What other drug do you get addicted to that you must still take everyday to survive. How do I learn to limit the thing that I am sooo In love with. I have an ex that is an ex for a reason but I have to see him often because we have three kids together. I still love him. He still loves me. I still get butterflies when I see him. I can’t completely get him out of my life. How am I suppose to limit food? I have no will power in my love life and no will power in my eating either. I hate the way I look. But I love cake

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  • kommodevaran
    kommodevaran Posts: 17,890 Member
    Work on your attitude if you want things to change.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    Cake does not love you, cake has no feelings what so ever... Yes it's yummy, but it's just fuel.

    You're giving it a power that it doesn't have.

    If you strongly believe you have an addiction then go to your doctor as you would for any other.
  • brimom19
    brimom19 Posts: 78 Member
    Don’t get me wrong. I have lost 45 pounds to date. It’s a constant struggle. I am putting my thoughts to paper so that I can see them. I appreciate some of the blunt responses, but to not acknowledge my feelings and struggles just means that I will continue to struggle.
  • seska422
    seska422 Posts: 3,217 Member
    edited June 2018
    brimom19 wrote: »
    Don’t get me wrong. I have lost 45 pounds to date. It’s a constant struggle. I am putting my thoughts to paper so that I can see them. I appreciate some of the blunt responses, but to not acknowledge my feelings and struggles just means that I will continue to struggle.
    Struggling is very individual. You need to experiment with how and why you eat each thing that goes into your mouth. Each bite is a decision.

    If you are still having this much trouble 45 pounds into your weight loss, you need to change how you are doing things. You need to find a way of eating that's comfortable enough not only for the weight loss time but for maintenance as well. After you reach your weight loss goal, maintenance is the rest of your life and is, IMO, harder than losing.

    I started from how I like to eat and made small changes mostly related to either portion size or finding a satisfying substitution. I've built my new way of eating from the base of my old way of eating.
  • Diatonic12
    Diatonic12 Posts: 32,344 Member
    edited June 2018
    Sit down with someone, face-to-face. They can help you further.

    I'm speaking in general here. Breaking the cycles of food addiction is worth it so you can heal. A pro can help identify attitudes about food and diets. Is it genetic, brought on by peer pressure. Did you suffer the slings and arrows of bullies and did that trigger secret eating. Swinging wildly up and down with weight, a pro or medical doctor can help you get down to the root causes and break the cycles.

    There is no temporary diet that fixes a food addiction. And there aren't enough binges in the world that can cure a food addiction, one more binge is never enough to be the end of it.
  • jeannie4real
    jeannie4real Posts: 2 Member
    Acknowledgement is power. You can do this.
  • Calliope610
    Calliope610 Posts: 3,783 Member
    edited June 2018
    This is NOT a physical addiction. This is a psychological "addiction"; therefore your thoughts/attitudes/expectation/relationship with food must be addressed in order to fully recover. No amount of dieting or "eating the right foods" will change the psychological aspect of this problem.
  • Hummmingbird
    Hummmingbird Posts: 337 Member
    Girl, I feel you! I am in the same boat! I come from an alcoholic family and though that has never been an issue for me (dont smoke, rarely drink, no drugs) food is my addiction. It is difficult when others scoff at the thought that someone could be addicted or that it is not as harmful or painful to "quit". Since we cant NOT eat, it makes the struggle even tougher. I am at the stage where I am truly having to face that I did not get away scott-free from addiction. It is a hard thing to wrestle with, but you are not alone!
  • lessismoreohio
    lessismoreohio Posts: 910 Member
    brimom19 wrote: »
    My first love, many time my only love has become my destructive dangerous drug of choice. I have never been a drinker or did any hard core drugs—- just weed when I was younger. Food, however, is my best friend. One of those best friends that is with you no matter why. My ride or die friend. Things is... I have discovered that this friend is slowly killing me. It’s the friend that has completely betrayed me. The drug that is killing me, but I still must have in order to live. What other drug do you get addicted to that you must still take everyday to survive. How do I learn to limit the thing that I am sooo In love with. I have an ex that is an ex for a reason but I have to see him often because we have three kids together. I still love him. He still loves me. I still get butterflies when I see him. I can’t completely get him out of my life. How am I suppose to limit food? I have no will power in my love life and no will power in my eating either. I hate the way I look. But I love cake

    Thank you for your post. It got me to thinking about how I've used food as a drug as well.
  • Hummmingbird
    Hummmingbird Posts: 337 Member
    Calliope610 wrote: »
    This is NOT a physical addiction. This is a psychological "addiction"; therefore your thoughts/attitudes/expectation/relationship with food must be addressed in order to fully recover. No amount of dieting or "eating the right foods" will change the psychological aspect of this problem.

    Hi! I tend to disagree to a certain extent. Although most of the addiction is physiological, there has been discussion about quitting sugar as having withdrawal symptoms associated with it. Though the definition of physical addiction does not cover this-there is also a huge element of habit that is hard to break. Like a smoker, the hand to mouth movement is part of the addiction and trying to stop the pattern is tough.
  • kommodevaran
    kommodevaran Posts: 17,890 Member
    Hummmingbird wrote: »
    Calliope610 wrote: »
    This is NOT a physical addiction. This is a psychological "addiction"; therefore your thoughts/attitudes/expectation/relationship with food must be addressed in order to fully recover. No amount of dieting or "eating the right foods" will change the psychological aspect of this problem.

    Hi! I tend to disagree to a certain extent. Although most of the addiction is physiological, there has been discussion about quitting sugar as having withdrawal symptoms associated with it. Though the definition of physical addiction does not cover this-there is also a huge element of habit that is hard to break. Like a smoker, the hand to mouth movement is part of the addiction and trying to stop the pattern is tough.

    Of course it's tough, and you can stop smoking altogether, but you can't stop eating, so it can be perceived as harder. But you're not going to stop eating, you just have to stop overeating. (Yes, I stole that from the late but great Allen Carr, who, incidentally, is way more famous for his stop smoking books than his stop overeating books.) But you can't quit sugar, it's unnecessary, and impossible, and even if you did/could, your body makes its own sugar so what's the point.
  • Hummmingbird
    Hummmingbird Posts: 337 Member
    kommodevaran wrote: »
    Hummmingbird wrote: »
    Calliope610 wrote: »
    This is NOT a physical addiction. This is a psychological "addiction"; therefore your thoughts/attitudes/expectation/relationship with food must be addressed in order to fully recover. No amount of dieting or "eating the right foods" will change the psychological aspect of this problem.

    Hi! I tend to disagree to a certain extent. Although most of the addiction is physiological, there has been discussion about quitting sugar as having withdrawal symptoms associated with it. Though the definition of physical addiction does not cover this-there is also a huge element of habit that is hard to break. Like a smoker, the hand to mouth movement is part of the addiction and trying to stop the pattern is tough.

    Of course it's tough, and you can stop smoking altogether, but you can't stop eating, so it can be perceived as harder. But you're not going to stop eating, you just have to stop overeating. (Yes, I stole that from the late but great Allen Carr, who, incidentally, is way more famous for his stop smoking books than his stop overeating books.) But you can't quit sugar, it's unnecessary, and impossible, and even if you did/could, your body makes its own sugar so what's the point.

    Hey Kommodevaran! What I meant by quitting sugar is quitting added sugar (cake, donuts, white stuff, etc.) :smiley:
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    Hummmingbird wrote: »
    kommodevaran wrote: »
    Hummmingbird wrote: »
    Calliope610 wrote: »
    This is NOT a physical addiction. This is a psychological "addiction"; therefore your thoughts/attitudes/expectation/relationship with food must be addressed in order to fully recover. No amount of dieting or "eating the right foods" will change the psychological aspect of this problem.

    Hi! I tend to disagree to a certain extent. Although most of the addiction is physiological, there has been discussion about quitting sugar as having withdrawal symptoms associated with it. Though the definition of physical addiction does not cover this-there is also a huge element of habit that is hard to break. Like a smoker, the hand to mouth movement is part of the addiction and trying to stop the pattern is tough.

    Of course it's tough, and you can stop smoking altogether, but you can't stop eating, so it can be perceived as harder. But you're not going to stop eating, you just have to stop overeating. (Yes, I stole that from the late but great Allen Carr, who, incidentally, is way more famous for his stop smoking books than his stop overeating books.) But you can't quit sugar, it's unnecessary, and impossible, and even if you did/could, your body makes its own sugar so what's the point.

    Hey Kommodevaran! What I meant by quitting sugar is quitting added sugar (cake, donuts, white stuff, etc.) :smiley:

    why would you want to never eat cake again?! that's just sad :cry:
  • Hummmingbird
    Hummmingbird Posts: 337 Member
    TavistockToad wrote: »
    Hummmingbird wrote: »
    kommodevaran wrote: »
    Hummmingbird wrote: »
    Calliope610 wrote: »
    This is NOT a physical addiction. This is a psychological "addiction"; therefore your thoughts/attitudes/expectation/relationship with food must be addressed in order to fully recover. No amount of dieting or "eating the right foods" will change the psychological aspect of this problem.

    Hi! I tend to disagree to a certain extent. Although most of the addiction is physiological, there has been discussion about quitting sugar as having withdrawal symptoms associated with it. Though the definition of physical addiction does not cover this-there is also a huge element of habit that is hard to break. Like a smoker, the hand to mouth movement is part of the addiction and trying to stop the pattern is tough.

    Of course it's tough, and you can stop smoking altogether, but you can't stop eating, so it can be perceived as harder. But you're not going to stop eating, you just have to stop overeating. (Yes, I stole that from the late but great Allen Carr, who, incidentally, is way more famous for his stop smoking books than his stop overeating books.) But you can't quit sugar, it's unnecessary, and impossible, and even if you did/could, your body makes its own sugar so what's the point.

    Hey Kommodevaran! What I meant by quitting sugar is quitting added sugar (cake, donuts, white stuff, etc.) :smiley:

    why would you want to never eat cake again?! that's just sad :cry:

    Lol. I actually have never liked cake :) ice cream on the other hand.. ....
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