Absolutely fed up I could cry

BigMamaLynsey

I've been eating healthier or better for about 3 weeks now. 1st week I lost 4lbs, the next 2.. couple more but have regained that?? At first I was getting about 1100 cals so I started to up the cals as I thought u was under eating. So I eat around 1400 to 1500 now. I have literally remained the same for 10 days. Why?? I measure everything, I'm a little more active than normal. I am 100% eating at a deficit even when upping calories. I'm feeling depressed. The only good thing coming from this is I feel more active which is great so I'm happy to stick to it. Is there anything I can change to help? I've done this all before in the past and have lost weight steady. And no I'm not near my time of the month.

I weight 15st 2.3lbs (just over 200lbs I think)
5 ft 3 inches
28 female

TavistockToad

you've lost 6lbs in 3/4 weeks... not seeing a problem here?

weight loss isnt linear.

kommodevaran

If you're in a calorie deficit, you lose weight. Over time. Weigh-ins from week to week are easily masked by water weight fluctuations.

BigMamaLynsey

I gained those 2lbs back though so it's technically 4lbs in 3 weeks. I was losing the weight better when I was eating less food. The only reason I upped them is because every one is saying I'm under eating. How do I get rid of my water weight then? I know one thing I'm terrible with us drinking..

nutmegoreo

Give it time. Fluctuations happen. You could try using a weight trending app, like HappyScale, Libra, or TrendWeight. This is from here, but you can see the ups and downs, but you can also see the change over time.

BigMamaLynsey

Think I had searched for happy scale but didn't see it. I'll try look for the other 2

TavistockToad

LynseyJane90 wrote: »

I gained those 2lbs back though so it's technically 4lbs in 3 weeks. I was losing the weight better when I was eating less food. The only reason I upped them is because every one is saying I'm under eating. How do I get rid of my water weight then? I know one thing I'm terrible with us drinking..

you cant get rid of water weight. just ensure you're adequately hydrated and you'll be fine.

nutmegoreo

LynseyJane90 wrote: »

I gained those 2lbs back though so it's technically 4lbs in 3 weeks. I was losing the weight better when I was eating less food. The only reason I upped them is because every one is saying I'm under eating. How do I get rid of my water weight then? I know one thing I'm terrible with us drinking..

Water weight comes and goes. It's not a bad thing. Just need to realize that fluctuations are not fat gain. 4lbs in 3 weeks is good. You could be not following the program and gaining instead. Think longer term, not just today and tomorrow, but next month and next year.

BigMamaLynsey

I downloaded the libre app. A bit confusing but what does the trend stuff mean?
Also should I keep eating As I am or should o lower the cal intake? It's at 1500 right now.

TavistockToad

LynseyJane90 wrote: »

I downloaded the libre app. A bit confusing but what does the trend stuff mean?
Also should I keep eating As I am or should o lower the cal intake? It's at 1500 right now.

1500 is fine, given your stats, you just need to be more patient.

i use Libra, what do you mean by 'trend stuff'?

BigMamaLynsey

Ok so it says currently 212.3lbs then next to it says "trend 212.6lbs"

TavistockToad

LynseyJane90 wrote: »

Ok so it says currently 112.3lbs then next to it says "trend 112.6lbs"

how many data points have you input so far?

BigMamaLynsey

Is that the little red dots on the chart? Well if so I input my 2nd one.

TavistockToad

LynseyJane90 wrote: »

Is that the little red dots on the chart? Well if so I input my 2nd one.

and were they both the same weight or was the second one more or less than the first?

ninerbuff

1lbs a week is fine. The issue is that you're looking for results too fast. As mentioned weight loss isn't linear and you could do the same eating, working out, rest, and enjoyment for 2 straight weeks and results would be different.
Patience is what matters.

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BigMamaLynsey

2nd one is lower

TavistockToad

LynseyJane90 wrote: »

2nd one is lower

so presumably the first was higher than 212.6?

BigMamaLynsey

I feel like this because in the past twice I have lost about 3lbs per week and I was at a lower weight. I did intermittent fasting and the other I ate 5/6 meals a day at a calorie deficit. This time i decided to just eat at a deficit no matter what food it is. And this time it's just feels really slow even being at my highest weight ever. That's why I feel so deflated because I did so well in the past. I guess I was just expecting the same results this time

BigMamaLynsey

Do you guys believe I will lose the weight if I keep at what I'm doing?

TavistockToad

LynseyJane90 wrote: »

Do you guys believe I will lose the weight if I keep at what I'm doing?

science dictates that you will lose weight if you are in a calorie deficit.

BigMamaLynsey

@TavistockToad first one is 216.3 2nd one is 212.3

TavistockToad

LynseyJane90 wrote: »

@TavistockToad first one is 216.3 2nd one is 212.3

so the trend gives you an average based on all of the weight points. it means that when your weight fluctuates up the trend weight doesn't fluctuate as dramatically as scale weight so you can still see whether your weight overall is going up or down.

you need a few weeks worth of data to be able to see properly how it works.

kommodevaran

LynseyJane90 wrote: »

I feel like this because in the past twice I have lost about 3lbs per week and I was at a lower weight. I did intermittent fasting and the other I ate 5/6 meals a day at a calorie deficit. This time i decided to just eat at a deficit no matter what food it is. And this time it's just feels really slow even being at my highest weight ever. That's why I feel so deflated because I did so well in the past. I guess I was just expecting the same results this time

Could it be that your weightloss just feels slow because you feel you're not doing enough, not working hard enough? Success comes to those who do the right things and perservere, not to those who do all the things and burn out.

LynseyJane90 wrote: »

Do you guys believe I will lose the weight if I keep at what I'm doing?

I know that you'll lose weight if you're in a true calorie deficit for long enough.

nutmegoreo

LynseyJane90 wrote: »

I feel like this because in the past twice I have lost about 3lbs per week and I was at a lower weight. I did intermittent fasting and the other I ate 5/6 meals a day at a calorie deficit. This time i decided to just eat at a deficit no matter what food it is. And this time it's just feels really slow even being at my highest weight ever. That's why I feel so deflated because I did so well in the past. I guess I was just expecting the same results this time

How long did you stick with these two other diets? Sounds like neither of them really were a good fit for you, or you would still be doing them. You also mention that you were at a lower weight, so what does that tell you? If you want different results you need to do different things. Trust in the process and give it some more time.

The trending app works best after several weeks worth of data points have been entered.

Your being way too impatient with all of this.

NikaIris

Weight loss will be slower the older you get.
But if you stick to a calorie deficit you will definitly lose the weight.
The whole undereating-thing is *kitten*, tbh.
It's not healthy to constantly undereat but you will never gain weight if you undereat or else we would have no starving kids in Africa but tons of chubby ones from all the "undereating".

I usually gain about 2-4lbs water weight right before my period, so maybe it's the same for you. Try to weigh yourself once a week at the beginning and don't expect a daily weight loss.
I lost 55lbs in a year and sometimes I lost 6lbs in a months and sometimes just 1, depending on water weight, how much I exercised, what I ate, when I ate, how the stars were aligned etc.

BigMamaLynsey

@nutmegoreo 6 months + I stopped because I ended up with kidney stones as I didn't drink enough. I went through hospital and pain basically and fell of the wagon as Christmas came up. The next time was about 5 or 6 months and I got bored with weighing 5/6 times of food and cooking so much. I have 3 kids so just got tired of cooking all their food as well as mine lol. I like how i eating now as I generally actually like the food I'm eating. Annoying tracking calories but I'm happy with the food I'm eating

BigMamaLynsey

@kommodevaran yeah a little. I know I'm very impatient I just hate myself and my body. I wish I could go back to the way I used to be as a teen. I do have anxiety/social anxiety and depression so basically there are days I don't wanna do anything at all. That's why I have cut my exercise down and will only do it if I've gone over my cal limit I don't wanna feel forced to exercise so I'm taking it nice and slow. I don't mind that my weightloss is being slow it's more I'm worried I'm doing something wrong and it's stalled. I worry too much it's part of my illness. Paranoid too

J_NY_Z

Lynsey, weight fluctuations and weighing day by day will kill your morale. Pick a day of the week and make that your weigh in day. My example for you: Sunday night I went to bed weighing 213.5 pounds and woke up 208.6. That's 5 pounds of water consumption and food metabolism.

Eat less, move more and weigh only once a week.

TavistockToad

Boba_14626 wrote: »

Lynsey, weight fluctuations and weighing day by day will kill your morale. Pick a day of the week and make that your weigh in day. My example for you: Sunday night I went to bed weighing 213.5 pounds and woke up 208.6. That's 5 pounds of water consumption and food metabolism.

Eat less, move more and weigh only once a week.

or weigh twice a week or every day or once a month, or never... understanding how weight fluctuates is the important thing, not how often a person weighs them self.

RadishEater

LynseyJane90 wrote: »

@kommodevaran yeah a little. I know I'm very impatient I just hate myself and my body. I wish I could go back to the way I used to be as a teen. I do have anxiety/social anxiety and depression so basically there are days I don't wanna do anything at all. That's why I have cut my exercise down and will only do it if I've gone over my cal limit I don't wanna feel forced to exercise so I'm taking it nice and slow. I don't mind that my weightloss is being slow it's more I'm worried I'm doing something wrong and it's stalled. I worry too much it's part of my illness. Paranoid too

Exercise just gives you more calories to eat. So for people like me who love too much food and love eating, that was one of the reasons I decided to try to incorporate more exercise into my life.

But you don't have to do it! Nice and slow is good. Until you can feel less anxious about the reducing calories process I wouldnt worry about it. Liking the food you are eating and not feeling worn out prepping it is important. Just be accurate with your logging and the weight will come off.

Xerogs

LynseyJane90 wrote: »

@kommodevaran yeah a little. I know I'm very impatient I just hate myself and my body. I wish I could go back to the way I used to be as a teen. I do have anxiety/social anxiety and depression so basically there are days I don't wanna do anything at all. That's why I have cut my exercise down and will only do it if I've gone over my cal limit I don't wanna feel forced to exercise so I'm taking it nice and slow. I don't mind that my weightloss is being slow it's more I'm worried I'm doing something wrong and it's stalled. I worry too much it's part of my illness. Paranoid too

Just be present. You can't change the past and can only be present day in and day out to help guide your future. Don't self loath and be patient. Take a mindful approach to every day, it will help with the things that clutter your mind and aren't self serving to help you achieve your goals. It will happen, there are plenty of people in these forums that will help with support. It looks like you have all your ducks in a row now just follow through and stay (mind/body) healthy. Undue stress is going to have the opposite effect on any program you put into place. Get enough sleep, stay hydrated, be active, and be mindful in some way whether that is through keeping a journal of your day and/or meditating. It will get easier.

I understand where you are coming from, I had one crushing day this week and really didn't feel like doing anything but I stuck to my routine and what normally would have been a week long "IDGF" week turned into 12 hours of meh. My instructor from last semester said "that on the days you don't want to meditate are probably the days you really need to plant your butt on the cushion and do it". Same goes for exercise in my opinion and whatever lifestyle changes you are trying to implement.

Give yourself time and space and down the road you can look back and see where you were and just how far you have come.