Do you think vulnerability is a turn off or attractive

thirtiesrock

I’m a mixture of *kitten* and a bit of bad *kitten* but the *kitten* takes over some days

WorkerDrone83

Attractive for a fling when I was younger and wanted to play hero, turn off once I became older and wanted a strong partner who I'd consider an equal.

CaptainFantastic01

Here’s the thing. This is a very vague question. In order for a relation ship to be successful you have to be vulnerable. It comes after the attraction in my (almost 24 years old and getting divorced) opinion

81Katz

Vulnerable as in emotionally in touch with themselves? Can feel, think, verbalize and not stuff all their feelings down?

If so then yes 'vulnerability' is attractive to me.

xFunctionalStrengthx

Everything in moderation. I've had relationships with very strong independent women (meaning won't ask/accept help), as well as those who are very vulnerable. Neither extreme is appealing to me. However, qualities of both are.

4legsRbetterthan2

CaptainFantastic01 wrote: »

Here’s the thing. This is a very vague question. In order for a relation ship to be successful you have to be vulnerable. It comes after the attraction in my (almost 24 years old and getting divorced) opinion

wait, seriously, now I feel old

CaptainFantastic01

4legsRbetterthan2 wrote: »

CaptainFantastic01 wrote: »

Here’s the thing. This is a very vague question. In order for a relation ship to be successful you have to be vulnerable. It comes after the attraction in my (almost 24 years old and getting divorced) opinion

wait, seriously, now I feel old

Don’t

Caporegiem

4legsRbetterthan2 wrote: »

CaptainFantastic01 wrote: »

Here’s the thing. This is a very vague question. In order for a relation ship to be successful you have to be vulnerable. It comes after the attraction in my (almost 24 years old and getting divorced) opinion

wait, seriously, now I feel old

Sounds like you're feeling pretty vulnerable right now.

CaptainFantastic01

Caporegiem wrote: »

4legsRbetterthan2 wrote: »

CaptainFantastic01 wrote: »

Here’s the thing. This is a very vague question. In order for a relation ship to be successful you have to be vulnerable. It comes after the attraction in my (almost 24 years old and getting divorced) opinion

wait, seriously, now I feel old

Sounds like you're feeling pretty vulnerable right now.

It all comes around

mustacheU2Lift

Im feeling vulnerable right now. How does that make you feel?

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pudgy1977

Vulnerable can be attractive. But to me vulnerable and weak are not the same thing. Opening yourself up and feeling emotions is what I consider vulnerable.

go_cubs

Mmmm like how vulnerable? Cause I don’t like cry babies

SwannySez

newmeadow wrote: »

Men do seem to favor the bird with a broken wing type of gal.

We can save them, and by saving them save ourselves! Every damn time.

SwannySez

mustacheU2Lift wrote: »

Im feeling vulnerable right now. How does that make you feel?

Hornpervalicious?

SomersetCharlie

Attractive.

elizabethmcopeland

It truly depends on what you mean by vulnerable.

There's vulnerable, insecure, where you're just manipulating other peoples' goodheartedness for attention. (you're the beneficiary)

There's vulnerable, openhandedness, where you're just opening up to share or empathize. (you may benefit, but the goal and intent is that it's mutually beneficial)

IMO, the former is irritating and the latter is honorable. Some people like to feel needed so they might like the former.

MichelleWithMoxie

You have to allow yourself to be somewhat vulnerable to truly fall in love, IMO. Just don’t be too gullible.

bojack5

Vulnerable.....no. Caring, yeah. I think vulnerable is the extreme end of being sensitive. Almost like being a victim. I think it's important to have a degree of sensitivity, but being vulnerable I think is something that happens to all of us, but I don't believe It's something we should strive for.

Diatonic12

vul·ner·a·ble

susceptible to physical or emotional attack or harm.
"we were in a vulnerable position"
synonyms: helpless, defenseless, powerless, impotent, weak, susceptible

Yes then No to your question. Vulnerable to me means having a bullseye on your forehead. There's a difference between openness and vulnerability.

Just for context, I don't know of a man in my circles who would choose to be vulnerable either but we're bent on survival out here.

caco_ethes

I think the most stable relationships will happen when both parties are in a good place and things happen naturally without effort.

Equating vulnerability with being able to fall in love is a bit of a romance novel construct.

Deadman_Diggingup

spanish_liza wrote: »

Mmmm like how vulnerable? Cause I don’t like cry babies

We could have really had something special, but I cry at commercials

Calliope610

Vulnerable, as in "I acknowledge my feelings and emotions and am comfortable sharing this", is attractive and appreciated.

Vulnerable, as in "I'm insecure, I need someone strong to take care of me", is GTFO, I don't have time for that *kitten*.

go_cubs

_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »

spanish_liza wrote: »

Mmmm like how vulnerable? Cause I don’t like cry babies

We could have really had something special, but I cry at commercials

Now if we’re talking Sarah mclachlan commercials I’ll let it slide

Deadman_Diggingup

spanish_liza wrote: »

_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »

spanish_liza wrote: »

Mmmm like how vulnerable? Cause I don’t like cry babies

We could have really had something special, but I cry at commercials

Now if we’re talking Sarah mclachlan commercials I’ll let it slide

More like Wendy’s commercials cause that *kitten* is tasty and I’m jealous.

Cameron_1969

To me it means that you open yourself up and let down barriers for someone that you wouldn't normally open. I think that it's important to do this when a relationship reaches a certain point..If you can never let the walls down, the relationship will stall. So yes, I think it's attractive when appropriate because it means you've reached a milestone.

However, if you're opening up to the cashier at Publix. . well, that's kind of annoying. . especially if I'm behind you with my 11 items.

go_cubs

_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »

spanish_liza wrote: »

_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »

spanish_liza wrote: »

Mmmm like how vulnerable? Cause I don’t like cry babies

We could have really had something special, but I cry at commercials

Now if we’re talking Sarah mclachlan commercials I’ll let it slide

More like Wendy’s commercials cause that *kitten* is tasty and I’m jealous.

Cut it out!

TheRoadDog

Vulnerable -- in need of special care, support, or protection because of age, disability, or risk of abuse or neglect.

By the definition above, I would say that I wouldn't want to seek out a person displaying vulnerability. I prefer persons that are capable of taking care of themselves.

Not sure what the question is, but I would say I don't want someone that needs me. I want someone that doesn't need me, but, wants me in their life.

ChaelAZ

Meh, I am how I am. If they don't like it - if I am too hard or vulnerable - go find someone that is more suited to your tastes.

caco_ethes

TheRoadDog wrote: »

Vulnerable -- in need of special care, support, or protection because of age, disability, or risk of abuse or neglect.

By the definition above, I would say that I wouldn't want to seek out a person displaying vulnerability. I prefer persons that are capable of taking care of themselves.

Not sure what the question is, but I would say I don't want someone that needs me. I want someone that doesn't need me, but, wants me in their life.

I’m going to be really annoyed when you retire and don’t come around anymore.

bojack5

https://youtu.be/TVmCwmC5-kQ

Vulnerability is so sexy.....;)