Do you think vulnerability is a turn off or attractive

thirtiesrock

I’m a mixture of *kitten* and a bit of bad *kitten* but the *kitten* takes over some days

WorkerDrone83

Attractive for a fling when I was younger and wanted to play hero, turn off once I became older and wanted a strong partner who I'd consider an equal.

CaptainFantastic01

Here’s the thing. This is a very vague question. In order for a relation ship to be successful you have to be vulnerable. It comes after the attraction in my (almost 24 years old and getting divorced) opinion

81Katz

Vulnerable as in emotionally in touch with themselves? Can feel, think, verbalize and not stuff all their feelings down?

If so then yes 'vulnerability' is attractive to me.

xFunctionalStrengthx

Everything in moderation. I've had relationships with very strong independent women (meaning won't ask/accept help), as well as those who are very vulnerable. Neither extreme is appealing to me. However, qualities of both are.

4legsRbetterthan2

CaptainFantastic01 wrote: »

Here’s the thing. This is a very vague question. In order for a relation ship to be successful you have to be vulnerable. It comes after the attraction in my (almost 24 years old and getting divorced) opinion

wait, seriously, now I feel old

CaptainFantastic01

4legsRbetterthan2 wrote: »

CaptainFantastic01 wrote: »

Here’s the thing. This is a very vague question. In order for a relation ship to be successful you have to be vulnerable. It comes after the attraction in my (almost 24 years old and getting divorced) opinion

wait, seriously, now I feel old

Don’t

Caporegiem

4legsRbetterthan2 wrote: »

CaptainFantastic01 wrote: »

Here’s the thing. This is a very vague question. In order for a relation ship to be successful you have to be vulnerable. It comes after the attraction in my (almost 24 years old and getting divorced) opinion

wait, seriously, now I feel old

Sounds like you're feeling pretty vulnerable right now.

CaptainFantastic01

Caporegiem wrote: »

4legsRbetterthan2 wrote: »

CaptainFantastic01 wrote: »

Here’s the thing. This is a very vague question. In order for a relation ship to be successful you have to be vulnerable. It comes after the attraction in my (almost 24 years old and getting divorced) opinion

wait, seriously, now I feel old

Sounds like you're feeling pretty vulnerable right now.

It all comes around

mustacheU2Lift

Im feeling vulnerable right now. How does that make you feel?

pudgy1977

Vulnerable can be attractive. But to me vulnerable and weak are not the same thing. Opening yourself up and feeling emotions is what I consider vulnerable.

go_cubs

Mmmm like how vulnerable? Cause I don’t like cry babies

SwannySez

newmeadow wrote: »

Men do seem to favor the bird with a broken wing type of gal.

We can save them, and by saving them save ourselves! Every damn time.

SwannySez

mustacheU2Lift wrote: »

Im feeling vulnerable right now. How does that make you feel?

Hornpervalicious?

SomersetCharlie

Attractive.

elizabethmcopeland

It truly depends on what you mean by vulnerable.

There's vulnerable, insecure, where you're just manipulating other peoples' goodheartedness for attention. (you're the beneficiary)

There's vulnerable, openhandedness, where you're just opening up to share or empathize. (you may benefit, but the goal and intent is that it's mutually beneficial)

IMO, the former is irritating and the latter is honorable. Some people like to feel needed so they might like the former.

MichelleWithMoxie

You have to allow yourself to be somewhat vulnerable to truly fall in love, IMO. Just don’t be too gullible.

bojack5

Vulnerable.....no. Caring, yeah. I think vulnerable is the extreme end of being sensitive. Almost like being a victim. I think it's important to have a degree of sensitivity, but being vulnerable I think is something that happens to all of us, but I don't believe It's something we should strive for.

Diatonic12

vul·ner·a·ble

susceptible to physical or emotional attack or harm.
"we were in a vulnerable position"
synonyms: helpless, defenseless, powerless, impotent, weak, susceptible

Yes then No to your question. Vulnerable to me means having a bullseye on your forehead. There's a difference between openness and vulnerability.

Just for context, I don't know of a man in my circles who would choose to be vulnerable either but we're bent on survival out here.

caco_ethes

I think the most stable relationships will happen when both parties are in a good place and things happen naturally without effort.

Equating vulnerability with being able to fall in love is a bit of a romance novel construct.