Alcohol Dependency

voicimonpasseport

voicimonpasseport wrote: »

Hi guys,

I’m not really sure where to post this, but I have a question regarding alcohol dependency or unhealthy habits. I went on a first date with someone who was great, but he had five beers. We hung out for about two and a half hours, I had two drinks. It worried me because towards the end he was slurring his speech a bit. I later told him that’s something that concerned me and he said he four beers which makes me question my memory. He also said that I should get to know him better and is surprised I was worried about his lifestyle. I just got out of an emotionally abusive relationship so my reaction was to apologize for suggesting it was something to be concerened about. But I’m worried his response was also an indication that he was caught off guard and may have some mild alcoholism brewing.


I’ve done a lot of work to change my life and circumstances and my OWN habits with alcohol. Does this sound concerning to any of you, or familiar?

Hey guys, just wanted to post an update. Thank you all for your opinions. I learned that I should trust my instincts and that regardless of whether or not he had a problem, it would have been a problem for me. I told him that it concerned me, while being as kind as possible, and he deleted me on all accounts. If that doesn’t speak for itself then I don’t know what does! Second date? Nope. But I stumbled across someone pretty amazing just a day later and we’ve shared creative, adventurous, and for the most part, alcohol free moments together getting to know one another. Interesting how life works...

WickAndArtoo

voicimonpasseport wrote: »

voicimonpasseport wrote: »

Hi guys,

I’m not really sure where to post this, but I have a question regarding alcohol dependency or unhealthy habits. I went on a first date with someone who was great, but he had five beers. We hung out for about two and a half hours, I had two drinks. It worried me because towards the end he was slurring his speech a bit. I later told him that’s something that concerned me and he said he four beers which makes me question my memory. He also said that I should get to know him better and is surprised I was worried about his lifestyle. I just got out of an emotionally abusive relationship so my reaction was to apologize for suggesting it was something to be concerened about. But I’m worried his response was also an indication that he was caught off guard and may have some mild alcoholism brewing.


I’ve done a lot of work to change my life and circumstances and my OWN habits with alcohol. Does this sound concerning to any of you, or familiar?

Hey guys, just wanted to post an update. Thank you all for your opinions. I learned that I should trust my instincts and that regardless of whether or not he had a problem, it would have been a problem for me. I told him that it concerned me, while being as kind as possible, and he deleted me on all accounts. If that doesn’t speak for itself then I don’t know what does! Second date? Nope. But I stumbled across someone pretty amazing just a day later and we’ve shared creative, adventurous, and for the most part, alcohol free moments together getting to know one another. Interesting how life works...

Yay for happy endings! I am so glad you did what you felt was right, and it’s too bad that he reacted that way, but that’s great that you have been enjoying time with someone else!! Thank you for the update

pauliet7

Run girl. The guy is gaslighting. You are worth more. And I don't even know you. 😎

TavistockToad

pauliet7 wrote: »

Run girl. The guy is gaslighting. You are worth more. And I don't even know you. 😎

maybe ready the update...

stfpa

It could be that he has an alcohol dependency or he could be telling the truth and just drank too much without it being more serious than that. But I grew up with an alcoholic so honestly, if you’re at all worried about it I think you should just stop talking to this guy. It’s not worth it getting involved and risking it being or becoming an actual problem, especially since it seems like you only recently met him

dsboohead

It was one date.....questioning the 1st date says there should not be a 2nd!