How did you find your "happy" weight?

vm007
vm007 Posts: 241 Member
edited November 27 in Health and Weight Loss
Hi,

Just wondering how did you decide, "ok this is the weight I'm happy with" and then stopped gaining or losing.

I haven't found it yet. At present I wouldn't mind losing another 3 - 5 lbs or so but I feel like I need to change my entire wardrobe again so as for clothes to be "proper". I also want to be slightly bigger but stay leaner lol.

TIA

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  • Lillymoo01
    Lillymoo01 Posts: 2,865 Member
    For me it is a mixture of health, appearance and practicality. This means; making sure I am within a healthy BMI range, like the look of where I am at and at a range where clothes fit well rather than being between sizes.
    At the moment I am at the lower end of my BMI and clothes are a bit on the loose side so ideally a few extra kilograms gained would be of benefit.
  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,149 Member
    I picked the highest weight for "normal" on BMI scale. I'm not happy with it, but my GP isn't giving me the weight loss lecture anymore.
  • bufger
    bufger Posts: 763 Member
    I've decided not to chase a weight, im going for how I look and the definition I want to be able to see.
    I'm at my ideal weight/Body fat when I can just about see abs and I have that sexy hip V thing going on.
  • vm007
    vm007 Posts: 241 Member
    bufger wrote: »
    I've decided not to chase a weight, im going for how I look and the definition I want to be able to see.
    I'm at my ideal weight/Body fat when I can just about see abs and I have that sexy hip V thing going on.

    By weight- that's what I meant lol.
  • vm007
    vm007 Posts: 241 Member
    I guess, this is why it's called a "journey" instead of destination because our "ideal" keeps on changing as we mature.

    3-5lb drop and I'd be at my "ideal" spot however, this time after my bulk I leaned out so slowly that it isn't even a joke. There were 2-3 weeks where weight just stayed at the same spot and then out of no where-after a big meal next morning weight would go down by like 1 lb. My wardrobe needs a full revamp though. For example- last year around same weight those clothes fit me perfectly but I didn't look as good without clothes and didn't have abs. This year some areas of the same shirt fit perfectly other areas feel very loose.

    I am also eating this time around by "feeling" as in -am I actually hungry or am I bored. I still measure when I'm about to eat to make sure- I don't overdo it. I've been in this for 2 years. Cut , bulk , cut, bulk and now cutting again. I am fairly confident that I can live without logging now.

    Sometimes if I know that there is a heavy meal in the evening which I cannot measure - I'd save so many calories from my day and then eat that meal in evening without a worry.
  • Running_and_Coffee
    Running_and_Coffee Posts: 811 Member
    My happy weight, which I'm happy to be at now, is in the middle of my BMI healthy range, a weight where my clothes fit perfectly--and most importantly, to weigh less, I'd have to really cut down my calories to a level that would just make life not fun.
  • ladyhusker39
    ladyhusker39 Posts: 1,406 Member
    I want to be at a low enough weight that going lower wouldn't have any additional health benefits so I can eat as much as possible to maintain.
  • cheryldumais
    cheryldumais Posts: 1,907 Member
    kommodevaran wrote: »
    First of all, within a healthy BMI. Then a compromise between size (would be nice to be thinner) and the habits required (would be nice to eat more and move less) to maintain it.

    This is exactly where I'm at. I would like to be thinner but I'm at a healthy weight now and can maintain it.

  • vm007
    vm007 Posts: 241 Member
    I've noticed - ideal physique vs the effort to maintain that for rest of our lives is an important juncture.
    I think my perception got skewed because in the beginning I didn't know about CICO and only knew about good food vs bad food then I started learning from youtubers and then I learned that majority of them are on "one thing or another".

    I, then learned about CICO and moderation and no such thing as "bad food". Now, I learned that ideal physique is one thing but would your life style allow you to maintain that or would you need to drastically change your life style to incorporate that unless of course you are on one of those "things" which throws some things out of equation.

    For me, it seems I still need to find that sweet spot lol. I'm glad you all have found yours.
  • bfanny
    bfanny Posts: 440 Member
    edited June 2018
    I chose the middle of the Healthy BMI but I still have fat in my abdomen (like 5lbs) I blame it on my small frame and genetics, many ladies heavier than me have a tiny waist :/ right now I’m not willing to cut so I’m focusing on Cardio and weights, little by little my body keeps changing, I feel it when I touch my fat pockets (shrinking) and I see it with my clothes getting looser, maybe I’ll cut one of this days but when we start eating more is hard to go back at least it is for me :D
    And with clothes on I look “small” so yeah...
  • MelanieCN77
    MelanieCN77 Posts: 4,047 Member
    I chose the middle of a healthy range according to many Googlings and hit that. I stayed there for a year, decided I wanted a bit more and took 5 more off, and here I am.
  • AnnPT77
    AnnPT77 Posts: 34,600 Member
    I picked a provisional weight goal at the beginning that was about 10-15 pounds above a happy adult weight I'd been at decades before, because "everyone said" that we should be a little heavier as we age. As that weight approached, I could feel that it was still too high. I had more body fat than I needed for decent health, for sure. At that point, I started to think about what benchmarks I'd use to decide when my body fat level was approximately where I wanted it to be (lower 20s percent), based on things like those galleries of people at various body fat levels - characteristics I could look for on my own body to know when I was in that kind of general range. Finally, I literally woke up one morning and said "I think I'm there". It was pretty close to the same weight I'd been happy/healthy at, decades earlier - maybe 5 pounds up.
  • steveko89
    steveko89 Posts: 2,223 Member
    For me it's going to be a look in the mirror more than a number on the scale. I probably won't ever be "done"; not getting mistaken for a Marvel character any time soon.
  • jelleigh
    jelleigh Posts: 743 Member
    For me (when I lost weight last time) it was when I stopped feeling uncomfotable in my own skin - I didnt worry that this shirt is showing this roll or whatever. I started buying clothes a size bigger even, instead of buying whatever size I could reasonably squeeze into. I felt fit and healthy - just wanted to tone.
    Then I kept doing my same schedule (mistake) cause I knew nothing about actual CICOand nutrition (mistake) and lost another 7 lbs making me (in retrospect)too skinny and unhealthy (mistake). This time I have set a range and am going to see how I feel when I get there.
  • kristingjertsen
    kristingjertsen Posts: 239 Member
    My goal is healthy BMI, good blood chemistry, strong, functional body, and just enough fat that I don't look drawn and don't constantly struggle to keep the weight off. In the past, that has been roughly 143-147 pounds on my 5 foot four frame, and that is what I am aiming for.
  • rueruechika86
    rueruechika86 Posts: 17 Member
    For me it's when I get to the point where I can honestly say, "I don't want to look smaller or thinner than this."
    You'll get there one day :)
  • Themajez
    Themajez Posts: 61 Member
    It's based on a combination of how I look and wearing clothing from my mid 20s.
  • nowine4me
    nowine4me Posts: 3,985 Member
    When I hit it, I knew. Looked good, felt good and could maintain without tremendous effort. Sadly, I let it slip away. But I’ll get back there..
  • Candyspun
    Candyspun Posts: 370 Member
    For me, it will be once I hit an Aussie size 8 and am within the healthy weight range.
  • yirara
    yirara Posts: 9,985 Member
    Clothes don't fit anyway as I have an odd bodyshape the fashion industry doesn't care about. For me, if I go too low my face looks too low and my blood pressure is so bad that I might just faint upon standing up. For me it's about being healthy, having the curves I'm happy with and a healthy look.
  • sijomial
    sijomial Posts: 19,809 Member
    Started with a rough guess (favourite adult weight). Changed (downwards) with experimentation, reassessment and adjustment. Hit a point where maintaining was becoming harder than it should be for sustainability and enjoyment of my food.

    Continues to change with physique changes and goal changes. I added some muscle and came back up from my lowest weight but still under my initial goal weight.
    It's now going to go back down again as I have a big cycling event in September that I'm targeting for a Century PR.

    I think of maintenance as a sine wave rather than a flat line, apart from specific goals I'm also heavier in winter/lighter in summer.
  • VUA21
    VUA21 Posts: 2,072 Member
    When I can run a 10k in under and hour, do two 90° push-ups and 20 pull-ups back to back - that'll be my happy place, regardless of what I weigh. For me, it's about being in great shape, not so much the number on the scale.

    FYI, I finally ran a 5k (took me 40 minutes, but I ran it), can hold in the planch position for 30 seconds, and am 15lbs away from doing 1 unassisted pull-up.
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