Hi, New and looking for friends to share with

I at one time had a hard time gaining weight as well but Im currently eating 4800 - 5000 calories a day, 5'9 215lbs medium frame 45 years old and I hate my stomach and look pregnant!! I asked my Dr for a tummy tuck and it was a quick NO due to my anemia. Every since I stopped drinking I eat all the time and drink Frappe, Ensure and shakes on top of all my food.