MFP Friends aren’t very supportive :(
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Aukeilagirl
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I have been a beast in the kitchen. And a result of that is I’ve been rapidly losing weight. In 6 weeks I have dropped 25 additional pounds. I have never been as dedicated as I am now. But here’s the issue; my fitness pal friends haven’t been very supportive or encouraging. I’m not doing this for like or words of encouragement but it sure would feel nice if I got a like or a good job. I finally hit my 80 pound weight loss and I got 1 like . If you’re in the same boat as me send me a friend request and we can support and encourage each other. By the way good luck on your journey’s. Cheers to the healthy life!!!
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I am just starting my journey, and 80lb seems impossible! Hell... 20 seems impossible! Your are very inspiring! Please keep it up!4
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Wow, WTG!
I am not very good at responding. I think things, like that is awesome, but I don't type. You probably don't want me as a friend but I wanted to congratulate you on your progress4 -
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ErinBoeker wrote: »I am just starting my journey, and 80lb seems impossible! Hell... 20 seems impossible! Your are very inspiring! Please keep it up!
Thank you! I will keep it up. I’m tired of starting over.0 -
Oh honey I know the feels. I get absolutely little no love on my FB so when I joined this I thought being everyone is on the same journey of living a healthy lifestyle and yet I have 3 committed friends out of like 150 or so. They are the best tho. But I feel you, so let me support you in any way I can. It is nice to be encouraged.4
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Wow 80 lbs that is awesome!!2
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80 overall pounds and 25 in 6 weeks - you are awesome!1
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Well done!! That’s a great accomplishment! I just gave you a like2
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IAmWonderWomanTo7 wrote: »Oh honey I know the feels. I get absolutely little no love on my FB so when I joined this I thought being everyone is on the same journey of living a healthy lifestyle and yet I have 3 committed friends out of like 150 or so. They are the best tho. But I feel you, so let me support you in any way I can. It is nice to be encouraged.
Thank you! And good luck on your journey!0 -
KeepRunningFatboy wrote: »80 overall pounds and 25 in 6 weeks - you are awesome!
Thank you1 -
workinonit1956 wrote: »Well done!! That’s a great accomplishment! I just gave you a like
LoL! Thank you 😁0 -
You're doing great! Some folks just aren't terribly responsive. They may be cheering quietly! I like to friend people in the forums whose sense of humor is awesome or who seem to build people up in a regular basis.
The last time I was on mfp, I would go through my friends list after a while and cull the ones who weren't active. Sounds kind of harsh, but the whole point of having friends in this app is to have a strong support system.
That said- I was sick for a few days and didn't do much more than hit the like button in everyone's achievements.3 -
I'm going to go out on a limb and say that your extreme loss in such short a time might be the reason. 25lbs in 6 weeks is about 4lbs/week, so unless you're something like 400+ that's a highly unhealthy weight loss. Some might be reluctant to say anything based on that.9
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You're doing great! Some folks just aren't terribly responsive. They may be cheering quietly! I like to friend people in the forums whose sense of humor is awesome or who seem to build people up in a regular basis.
The last time I was on mfp, I would go through my friends list after a while and cull the ones who weren't active. Sounds kind of harsh, but the whole point of having friends in this app is to have a strong support system.
That said- I was sick for a few days and didn't do much more than hit the like button in everyone's achievements.
Thank you! I agree about the friend list thing. They are supposed to be there for support and encouragement. I hope you’re feeling better now.0 -
MichelleSilverleaf wrote: »I'm going to go out on a limb and say that your extreme loss in such short a time might be the reason. 25lbs in 6 weeks is about 4lbs/week, so unless you're something like 400+ that's a highly unhealthy weight loss. Some might be reluctant to say anything based on that.
I have drastically changed my eating. I always knew it was a 80/20 ratio but I never paid much attention to food. I have tried to eat healthy but I was never stuck to it. I eat three meals and one sugar free snack a day. I weight and measure EVERTHING. I try not to go over 1400 calories and don’t eat after 7:00. I drink 1/2 my body weight in ounces. And I have about 160 pounds to lose. So I don’t believe I’m being unhealthy at all. I’m surprised also that I’m losing weight this fast.
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My MFP group is pretty small and of that small group, very few make comments regularly. That said, the additional support is nice but I find so many other reasons to be committed - good health, general fitness, feeling amazing, etc. Sometimes our most significant reinforcement is internal mainly because we know ourselves better than anyone. For the record, I’ve lost 190lbs and to me it’s the BIGGEST deal ever. That being said, I realize that not everyone will see it that way. I’m good with that. External support is great; the internal kind is pure catharsis.4
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Congratulations! 80 pounds is a big deal!!❤️4
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Woohoo! Go you! That is fabulous! I'm not quite sure how to send you a friend request - if I don't manage it, please send me one, I'd love to connect.
I recently posted something similar about lacking real-world appreciation for my success so far, and people were great about chiming in. I bet they will for you, too! I think it's super that you're asking for what you need, and I'd gladly cheer you on.2 -
Congrats on your hard work- and not just your weight loss, but for your children and your degree! I'm sorry you aren't getting the support you need. Do you consider positive feedback and attention to be your favored "love language" - your preferred method of being shown appreciation, validation, and affection? If so, and you don't let people know that outright, you should try to do so. Sometimes folks need informed or reminded!
I try to leave likes and comments each day when I see a goal is hit. If you want, check out my profile and see if you think you'd want me on your friends' list. :-)2 -
Congratulations on your weight loss!1
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