Feeling discouraged...

amandawhatup62

On this journey, I’ve felt many emotions. Most days, I feel empowered, proud, and happy, because I’ve done so good and have gotten this far (7 months this month).

Today, I am feeling discouraged. I feel like I am not doing good enough. I feel like the weight won’t leave my body. I feel like I can’t continue because I’m not losing weight, so what is the point...

How do you get the mojo back to continue? I know I need to keep going, but today is just one of those days where I’m like... is it even worth it?!?

88olds

I don’t know where I read this, I think it may have been the Mayo Clinic Website- dealing with discouragement is a necessary part of weight loss. Good for you for meeting it head on.

If you are in a rough patch, think in terms of tweaks, adjustments and problem solving. Look what your brain is trying to do with it’s all or nothing catastrophic nagging. I think our brains hate weight loss. Push back.

Try to keep an attitude of experimentation. If you aren’t losing for about a month, sounds like you need to test a calorie cut. Then you have to figure how to live with it.

Hitting this bump in the road is no reason to drive into the ditch. Changing your life is a challenge. Be determined. Trust the process.

Diatonic12

Don't let impatience get the best of you. You may need to tweak your eating. There is no such thing as the finish line when it comes to making our health a priority.

Willpower runs out. Remember the greater purpose for doing all of this. When I threw all dieting rules and regulations out the window I began to start observing people. Let's call them 'normal' people. People who've never been on a diet a single day in their entire lifetime. These people exist.

They don't think..is any of this even worth it. They don't take Before and After pix of themselves. They don't examine their belly or take photos of their bellies at their highest weight. They don't take photos of themselves that relate to their weight whatsoever. They appear in photos but they simply are. They are content just to be and exist. Present. Always present.

People who have a 'normal' relationship with food think waaaay down the road and none of it has to do with food or dieting. They're not thinking about reaching their optimum setpoint and how they can really start living when that happens. How they'll finally be 'fixed' when they reach their dream weight. They live each day and have more brain space for the outside world. A world that is not consumed with dieting and food resets, body image and belly selfies.

They don't assign moral judgments to food. Good or bad, clean or dirty, naughty or nice, all or nothing. Their diet is not the moral high ground that they stand on.

They don't let beast mode at the gym consume their thoughts. I've spent the last few years observing the 'normal' people. The common denominator. They give themselves permission to think for themselves and do everything on their own terms. I call it returning back to original factory settings. That's a point in time when the word diet was not even on our radar.

For any of the good results to stick a year from now, 5 years from now, you have to reframe your thinking. There is no such thing as the finish line.

khlokins

I try to remind myself, that all my weight didn't come on in one day.. and it's not going to come off that way either.

I feel like this all the time. I get frustrated when I feel like I've done so good, just for the scale or my measurements to just not match up with what I was working so hard for.

But it's not hopeless. Have patience with your body and treat it with respect. You know if what you're doing for your body is right or wrong, i.e. logging less food than you actually had, logging workouts you didn't actually do for workout calories etc. Not saying you do any of the examples, I'm just saying that your body will always keep an accurate log for you, regardless of what you enter.

Unless you have a health problem that prevents weight loss, you just need to have patience with your body, and nurture it. It will see to it that you are taken care of as well. (:

Chin up!

JessiBelleW

I didn’t lose any weight this week. But also I didn’t gain any either! Going to eat well this week, continue to work out and at least at the end of this week I’m fitter and stronger than I was last week

JBApplebee

You have you remember that it's a marathon, not a sprint. You will fluctuate up & down on a daily basis, but if your weight is trending downward, it's all good.

k8eekins

amandawhatup62 wrote: »

On this journey, I’ve felt many emotions. Most days, I feel empowered, proud, and happy, because I’ve done so good and have gotten this far (7 months this month).

Today, I am feeling discouraged. I feel like I am not doing good enough. I feel like the weight won’t leave my body. I feel like I can’t continue because I’m not losing weight, so what is the point...

How do you get the mojo back to continue? I know I need to keep going, but today is just one of those days where I’m like... is it even worth it?!?

I've NOT once allowed those who were all too happy with where I was, just that once, an iota of satisfaction. I stuck to my programme, hail or heat wave, early morning or after sundown.

To keep going is our primary purpose here on myfitnesspal. Recommend you find one of those online scrapbooking sites, to develop your Motivation Board.

• Where you are now from your perspective and by interpretation - physically, mentally, emotionally, socially, spiritually
• Your goals
• Your inspirations (Why are you doing this for yourself? Your primary benefits - how would you define it?)
• The good (identify the blessings in your life)

ETA: Stay focused!

itsgood

You've worked hard to get the right mindset, to make healthy choices, to believe in yourself. You've stayed with it 7 months, so it's becoming a way of life now. And your body just isn't in sync with how you're thinking. Of course your're discouraged! This may be a time to go on autopilot...do what you've been doing, trust the process and let this moment pass. Or, go into a maintenance period...don't look for loss, just look to stay where you are for a period of time. Not gaining is definitely part of the goal of achieving a healthy body. Practice it!

Just don't give up.

Jackie9003

amandawhatup62 wrote: »

On this journey, I’ve felt many emotions. Most days, I feel empowered, proud, and happy, because I’ve done so good and have gotten this far (7 months this month).

Today, I am feeling discouraged. I feel like I am not doing good enough. I feel like the weight won’t leave my body. I feel like I can’t continue because I’m not losing weight, so what is the point...

How do you get the mojo back to continue? I know I need to keep going, but today is just one of those days where I’m like... is it even worth it?!?

This is me too, for the past month, I haven't gained any back but I haven't lost either. Thank you for posting the replies are really helpful, I hope they can get you back on it.

Xerogs

amandawhatup62 wrote: »

On this journey, I’ve felt many emotions. Most days, I feel empowered, proud, and happy, because I’ve done so good and have gotten this far (7 months this month).

Today, I am feeling discouraged. I feel like I am not doing good enough. I feel like the weight won’t leave my body. I feel like I can’t continue because I’m not losing weight, so what is the point...

How do you get the mojo back to continue? I know I need to keep going, but today is just one of those days where I’m like... is it even worth it?!?

It's easy to get discouraged. I feel for you. Try focusing on something other than the weight, its really only one marker in an overall set (health, state of mind, toning up, clothes fitting better, etc. etc.) that one can focus on. You might find new reasons why it's worth it and then the weight will only be one part of that set of reasons.

On the days when I feel most discouraged or don't want to continue I just focus on my routine and power through it, typically I feel better after a workout that I didn't want to do. I try to think of those times when I am resistant to my path are the days I probably need to workout or meditate the most and those tend to be the most rewarding days I look back on.

7 months is quite an accomplishment and I am sure you feel better than when you did at the start, try 7 months more and you will probably feel even better and more accomplished. Give yourself time and space, its OK to be discouraged it just naturally happens in any endeavor. Empower yourself to move past it and then you can look back and be happy you didn't give up and it will be worth it. Before you know it you won't be saying "I need to keep going" but saying "I want to keep going"