I do it alone

linsky1

I seem to get on better when I focus on what I am putting in my mouth everyday. I find doing it on my own helps me in maintaining my very slow weight loss. But it is coming off very slowly.

kommodevaran

Good observations. Weightloss is slow. Weightloss happens when you eat less. You are doing that on your own. You don't have to do it alone or feel alone doing it.

88olds

I have found weight loss to be mostly a solitary pursuit.

With the exception of my wife, who has helped me a lot with food prep, I find the people around me more likely to be a hindrance rather than help.
Particularly when dealing with the mental aspects, I think participating on message boards has been vastly more helpful.

It may surprise you that I say all this having attended 100s of Weight Watchers meetings. I lost my last 40 of 100 lbs on WW. It’s where I learned tracking. But unlike 99% of the people I met there, I didn’t quit the meeting when I made my goal. Which is a big reason I haven’t gained it back. But rather than the much touted WW support, I found the meetings a great source of information as to what not to do.

Just my view, losing a significant amount and keeping it off is a big life change. Life change happens mostly in our heads. In the end, we’re all alone in our heads.

cmriverside

Just my view, losing a significant amount and keeping it off is a big life change. Life change happens mostly in our heads. In the end, we’re all alone in our heads

Absolutely this ^^ regardless of how angsty it makes me feel.

Every day there are multiple threads here about how someone is being sabotaged by coworkers, friends, significant others, party hosts. There are other threads about how the posting party just can't lose weight no matter what they do or they have a pill that is making them fat or their metabolism is broken. No. You're eating too much. Plan and simple.

My hand, my mouth. I have to make the choices. Is it easy? That is also all in my head. I can make it about other people and I can make it hard. Or I can stay on own feet and mind my own business and make it happen. Personal responsibility is at its simplest and purest form when it comes to deciding what to put in my own body.

HeyJudii

cmriverside wrote: »

Just my view, losing a significant amount and keeping it off is a big life change. Life change happens mostly in our heads. In the end, we’re all alone in our heads

Absolutely this ^^ regardless of how angsty it makes me feel.

Every day there are multiple threads here about how someone is being sabotaged by coworkers, friends, significant others, party hosts. There are other threads about how the posting party just can't lose weight no matter what they do or they have a pill that is making them fat or their metabolism is broken. No. You're eating too much. Plan and simple.

My hand, my mouth. I have to make the choices. Is it easy? That is also all in my head. I can make it about other people and I can make it hard. Or I can stay on own feet and mind my own business and make it happen. Personal responsibility is at its simplest and purest form when it comes to deciding what to put in my own body.

So true. In my own head, I have been rehearsing how I am going to deal with the external sabotagers. I can post asking advice on how to handle it all I want, but only I have the ability to actually act on dealing with family, friends, co-workers, myself, etc. pushing food on me.

William54321

Always just take your time, healthy is loss is gained over a long period. Short sharp loss is not balanced and goes back on in a blink

rainbow198

I lost weight (over 80 pounds) on my own too. In fact I told no one except my husband. It came to a point where people started to see a change then I could no longer stay quiet.

I recall reading how having a weight loss/fitness buddy is beneficial in many ways, but looking back I'm so glad I lost weight on my own.

Like you mentioned OP I was also more focused and it was great not having people in my ear trying to sabotage my efforts early on. I made a lot of mistakes, but I figured things out, learned about myself and discovered what worked for me. Also I developed healthy habits that I still do 5 years into maintenance.

The fitness buddy thing didn't work for me either. After a while people either lost the intensity, gave up or eventually got in my way and slowed me down.

I truly needed to do this on my own.