Noooooooooooo

Pearsquared

Been talking to a guy on okcupid. He's really nice, and we have nerdy stuff in common. We've been writing back and forth a lot, and then he writes -

"Also, I have no idea how this site works or what the deal is with anything, if i am supposed to ask people out or give phone numbers or anything, also i think you might be too cute and a little out of my league, so just finding a bro to play video games with would be arright "

Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.

I'm a girl that just got friend zoned. For being too cute, apparently. I don't know how to tell him that this "cute" thing is only a recent development and I have no clue how to deal with it, therefore I don't want men who are "in my league". I want nerdy men! Looks are not important! I have so much trouble getting along with people to begin with that if I were to ever worry about looks, my pool of potential mates would shrink to the size of a 1/2 teaspoon that was flattened for accurate measuring!

MG_Fit

Is it that hard to just tell him you think he's "cute" too. I don't get it.

Emar11

He might be trying to not come on too strong. The best relationships start out as friendships anyway.

jetlag

Tell him that it's up to you to decide whose league you're in and is he seriously going to turn down a cute geeky girlfriend? Who is he, Sheldon Cooper?

Pearsquared

He might be trying to not come on too strong. The best relationships start out as friendships anyway.

I think I might go this route, just because it's more comfortable for me. I have utterly no experience in dating, and don't know if I can go from not knowing someone to dating them so soon.

Sublimely_Self_Righteous

Maybe he'll meet another woman who is not cute and get in a relationship with her. Then the three of you can play video games together! :drinker: :flowerforyou:

Pearsquared

Maybe he'll meet another woman who is not cute and get in a relationship with her. Then the three of you can play video games together! :drinker: :flowerforyou:

If past experience is anything to go by, I'd rather be friends with her than date him, lol.

sam308lbs

Either he is very insecure or he is just playing hard to get and wants you to make the first move.

Pearsquared

Either he is very insecure or he is just playing hard to get and wants you to make the first move.

I'm leaning towards he's insecure. If we're getting along so well, chances are we share that in common. -_-

bcf7683

Either he is very insecure or he is just playing hard to get and wants you to make the first move.

Agree.

paintlisapurple

Hmmm...maybe he is just so "nerdy" that he doesn't know (or is afraid) to be upfront and ask you out point blank. He might just be awaiting your reply to kind of get a feel of what you want from this potential relationship. Anyway, I thoroughly believe that all great relationships include friendship, so go with the flow.
Good luck (and be careful)! :flowerforyou:

mommy3457

I thought my husband was way out of my league. If he likes you, he will come around. If it is meant to be, it will all work out. Just don't chase him.

sillygoosie

He's just setting himself up to not get friend-zoned himself. It sounds like he likes you. My boyfriend (that I met on OKC) kind of did the same thing to me the very first time he messaged me. After our first date we were both hooked. Take your time and don't be discouraged.

princessrisariri

He likes you!
He is trying t let himself down before you do it for him.
He has no self confidence so is running away before you hurt him
Kinda 'cute' of him in a messed up way.

Just tell him you don't believe in this league nonsense and you'd love to hang out and play video games sometime, unless he's afraid you'll kick his *kitten*.