Hello MFP ladies

royalty819

Hello, me and my best friend were talking, and I have a question for all of the ladies on here

We were discussing our feelings about being a house wife

She feels that she rather her and her husband have a job, and they share the house duties 50/50 and their daughter is in day care and then when they get home from work and pick her up from daycare. She doesn't like the idea of staying home all day, tending to the house, cooking, kids being home etc etc. completely understandable. and it works for many families

I rather be a house wife, I love staying home all day, cleaning, cooking, teaching and parenting our daughter, running errands, grocery shopping etc. while my husband works all day, so that he can come home to a functioning house and a good dinner, my daughter goes to day care maybe once a week when i have a lot of things to do outside of the home.

what is your preference, house wife or working? or are you a house wife currently and hate it? or are you currently working and hate it?

curvygirl77

I work but if I could stay home, cook, and tend to kids I totally would. Every winter when I driving in snow and dealing with traffic I think about it. If I had a husband who could afford everything we need (and want because this girl has a crazy shoe habit) I would stay home in a heartbeat and join some sort of mommy club and make play dates.

fivethreeone

I am not really sure about how much I would enjoy being married to a house. That makes my vajayjay hurt.

melb_alex

as I am not married or have kids definitely career at this stage but I am domesticated

When I am ready I think I will do 50/50

brittyandian

I've done both, and before my current career, I liked being a SAHM way more. I worked overnight shifts so my kids wouldn't be in daycare(I refuse to ever put them in one) and my husband is in the military so he works when he is told to. We never got to spend anytime together and I was so tired during the day while he was at work, I started to slack on parenting and keeping the home. Once I became pregnant with my son, I was put on strict bedrest. Wasnt allowed up for anything at all(had a nurse practioner come to me since I refused to live in the hospital for 8 months) so obviously I couldnt work. Right now I pretty much do both. I work for Mary Kay so I work when I want to and most of my money comes from online sales(I dont really do anything beside get paid haha). It's the best of both worlds I have a steady income and I get to be with my kids all day long.

Iron_Lotus

I am a stay at home mom. I love being the one to raise my children but it gets old. It gets boring. Also I have never had the opportunity to work and I would love to. Once my last babies are in school I will be going back to school to finally start my own career.

royalty819

I am not really sure about how much I would enjoy being married to a house. That makes my vajayjay hurt.

lol! :laugh: that was awesome

spade117

Houses wouldn't have kitchens if women were meant to work outside the home.

royalty819

I've done both, and before my current career, I liked being a SAHM way more. I worked overnight shifts so my kids wouldn't be in daycare(I refuse to ever put them in one) and my husband is in the military so he works when he is told to. We never got to spend anytime together and I was so tired during the day while he was at work, I started to slack on parenting and keeping the home. Once I became pregnant with my son, I was put on strict bedrest. Wasnt allowed up for anything at all(had a nurse practioner come to me since I refused to live in the hospital for 8 months) so obviously I couldnt work. Right now I pretty much do both. I work for Mary Kay so I work when I want to and most of my money comes from online sales(I dont really do anything beside get paid haha). It's the best of both worlds I have a steady income and I get to be with my kids all day long.

that is awesome, maybe i could pick up a work from home job, i am just afraid i would slack on maintaining home and parenting

as for the bedrest situation, i am so sorry to hear that, i hope it all worked out well

bloominheck

I worked hard at getting where I am. I love working in healthcare. Love someday to have kids, but would hate to give up what I worked so hard to accomplish.:ohwell:

Plus, being a SAHM is a fricking hard job.

JustAboutDelicious_wechanged

Just a heads up, it is very rarely really 50/50. Sometimes it's 70/30, sometimes 80/20, etc. But very rarely it is ever 50/50 despite that being the dream. :laugh: Just to prepare any of those that think it might work out that way.

I work and make more money than my husband and our housework is usually split 75 (me)/25 (him)....and that is being generous. I'm ok with that since I want things done a certain way, but even if I asked for 50/50 I do NOT think that would happen...haha.

Cranquistador

Houses wouldn't have kitchens if women were meant to work outside the home.

Who would make the sammiches?

Orfygirl

When my kids were younger and didn't go to school yet I was a stay at home mom and I loved it. I did all of the cooking, cleaning, errands, you name it, I did it. When my youngest got old enough for half day pre-k it was totally different. I got all of my errands and cleaning done within the first 2 hours he was gone and the rest of the time I was counting down the hours until he got home so I could have something to do. That is when I knew I needed to go back to work. So the next year when they were all in all day school I went back to work. I am an Ed Tech for the local school department so I have the best of both worlds. I work mothers hours and bring home a decent paycheck and have holidays, school vacations off with the kids. It works wonderfully for me.

royalty819

Just a heads up, it is very rarely really 50/50. Sometimes it's 70/30, sometimes 80/20, etc. But very rarely it is ever 50/50 despite that being the dream. :laugh: Just to prepare any of those that think it might work out that way.

I work and make more money than my husband and our housework is usually split 75 (me)/25 (him)....and that is being generous. I'm ok with that since I want things done a certain way, but even if I asked for 50/50 I do NOT think that would happen...haha.

lol i asked my best friend about 50/50 honestly being 50/50 and she swore that it works that way. but i know my husband, and i do not believe it would be a 50/50! lol

ILiftHeavyAcrylics

I've done both. I prefer having a part time job. I get bored as a housewife but I can't work full time. 3 days per week is just about perfect.

_Waffle_

what is your preference, house wife or working?

I want one of each, perhaps two working so I don't have to work but for sure I want one to clean the house.

How hard is it to actually wash clothes and clean? Let's be honest. Most women throw the clothes in the washer, watch soap operas for an hour, and then throw them in the dryer when they're done. Cooking probably means you heat up a pizza or frozen dinner in the oven. It's not really anything that couldn't be done if you worked too.

spade117

Houses wouldn't have kitchens if women were meant to work outside the home.

Who would make the sammiches?

LOL...I almost added that to my post as well.

odusgolp

Houses wouldn't have kitchens if women were meant to work outside the home.

Marry me.

royalty819

When my kids were younger and didn't go to school yet I was a stay at home mom and I loved it. I did all of the cooking, cleaning, errands, you name it, I did it. When my youngest got old enough for half day pre-k it was totally different. I got all of my errands and cleaning done within the first 2 hours he was gone and the rest of the time I was counting down the hours until he got home so I could have something to do. That is when I knew I needed to go back to work. So the next year when they were all in all day school I went back to work. I am an Ed Tech for the local school department so I have the best of both worlds. I work mothers hours and bring home a decent paycheck and have holidays, school vacations off with the kids. It works wonderfully for me.

thats amazing, if i were to get a job, it would be with the school board (probably little lunch lady) , that way i work school hours and im off when our daughter is off!

but for now i LOVE my homemaking career! luckily when she gets in school i will have my chihuahua and cat to tend to lol

Cranquistador

Houses wouldn't have kitchens if women were meant to work outside the home.

Marry me.

hi.

onetooblown

I am in the housewife category. I love staying at home with my daughter. And bc I stay home with her I know she is being raised the way I want her to. A lot of kids in daycare will either get picked on or pick up bad behaviors of other children. I am going back to school at the end of the month but my mom will be watching her for those couple of hours that I am gone. If our family really needed me to work I would get a job bc my baby having a roof over her head is more important than losing what we have worked hard for for her. I am very lucky right now though that I get to spend most of my time with her.

cassondraragan

I feel like I have the best of both worlds. I work Tues and thurs 7:30-2:30 and Wed 7:30-12:30 I am home with my kids the other 4 days. I work just enough to give me a break from my kids and get grown up conversation. And it gives me some time away so I can miss them. Plus it's easier to fit exercise in on my off days.

brittyandian

I've done both, and before my current career, I liked being a SAHM way more. I worked overnight shifts so my kids wouldn't be in daycare(I refuse to ever put them in one) and my husband is in the military so he works when he is told to. We never got to spend anytime together and I was so tired during the day while he was at work, I started to slack on parenting and keeping the home. Once I became pregnant with my son, I was put on strict bedrest. Wasnt allowed up for anything at all(had a nurse practioner come to me since I refused to live in the hospital for 8 months) so obviously I couldnt work. Right now I pretty much do both. I work for Mary Kay so I work when I want to and most of my money comes from online sales(I dont really do anything beside get paid haha). It's the best of both worlds I have a steady income and I get to be with my kids all day long.

that is awesome, maybe i could pick up a work from home job, i am just afraid i would slack on maintaining home and parenting

as for the bedrest situation, i am so sorry to hear that, i hope it all worked out well

You jsut have to find a balance. Right now, I make my business calls first thing in the morning, during naps, and in the evening while the kids are having independent play. Ordering products for customers only takes a few minutes online so I normally just do that in the am before the kids wake up as well. The kids go with me when I have to drop orders off and I let them help me organize it all if they want. It makes them feel special to help mommy work.Houswork in my house is all me. My husband does not clean or cook at all, but I am perfectly ok with that. He has a very important job and works 12 sometimes 14 hours a day 6 days a week. He is military police and has to help keep our base safe and respond to every little call/threat in the area, and that is exhausting. He provides for the family financially and emotionally and I maintain the home children and suppliment our income. We've worked out a good balance. We also make sure that one another gets a "me" day once a month to just go out and do whatever the heck they want to relax and enjoy time alone or with friends to keep sanity. As for bedrest, everything worked out great. I have a very happy and very healthy 2 month old boy :bigsmile:

royalty819

what is your preference, house wife or working?

I want one of each, perhaps two working so I don't have to work but for sure I want one to clean the house.

How hard is it to actually wash clothes and clean? Let's be honest. Most women throw the clothes in the washer, watch soap operas for an hour, and then throw them in the dryer when they're done. Cooking probably means you heat up a pizza or frozen dinner in the oven. It's not really anything that couldn't be done if you worked too.

probably true for some, but in my house, its a lot of work to be done! lol, i have a two year old who loves coming behind me and destroying my freshly cleaned living room. lol. but frozen pizza? lol, in my house we cook for real. lol Some times i am in the kitchen for 1-2 hours before dinner is done! plus the errands, grocery shopping, laundry, ironing my husbands work uniform, grooming my daughter, i swear, im never out of things to do! but then again, there are some days when its a complete bore because everything is done!

KeepOnMoving

Stay home Moms are so lucky. But what do they do for retirement in the future? To you have to have a husband that can put over 2 million dollars or more so you both have a retirement nest egg? Children's college fund? What if they divorce?

odusgolp

I'd like two men at the same time.


One to cook & the other to clean.

WisiPls

I'd like two men at the same time.


One to cook & the other to clean.

How about you and I hook up, and you do both of those things?

Achrya

I've done both. I prefer having a part time job. I get bored as a housewife but I can't work full time. 3 days per week is just about perfect.

Oh hey, someone already gave my answer.

My husband and I are moving next year so once we're settled I plan to go to nursing school, but until then I do part time stuff in childcare. I was assistant teacher last school year, fun times.

odusgolp

I'd like two men at the same time.


One to cook & the other to clean.

How about you and I hook up, and you do both of those things?

Been there, done that. Not worth it.

vitaxo

definitely a house wife. call me old-fashioned but, i like the idea of being home with my children, cooking, cleaning, running errands etc while my husband is at work. don't know why but i actually think it's quite cute when the wife makes dinner for her husband when he comes home from work! idk hahah but yes, a housewife.

WisiPls

definitely a house wife. call me old-fashioned but, i like the idea of being home with my children, cooking, cleaning, running errands etc while my husband is at work. don't know why but i actually think it's quite cute when the wife makes dinner for her husband when he comes home from work! idk hahah but yes, a housewife.

So when are we getting married?