Loss 80lb looks great gets cheated on

shanysewilliams26
shanysewilliams26 Posts: 3 Member
edited November 2024 in Chit-Chat
Isn't life a *kitten*, oh well gotta take it 1 step at a time and keep pushing on I will not let this situation throw all m progress away

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  • Pour_Decisions
    Pour_Decisions Posts: 1,053 Member
    80lbs! That's fantastic. Congratulations and good for you. Don't undo all your hard work just because you were cheated on. Use it as motivation to look and feel your best. Let the cheater regret it.
  • caco_ethes
    caco_ethes Posts: 11,962 Member
    @WorkerDrone83 wrote: »
    I've heard that cheaters always cheat down, not up.
    Congrats on your progress and good luck!

    Please cite your sources
  • Chael2dot0
    Chael2dot0 Posts: 1,189 Member
    Too many times our reaction is that somehow if we were better they wouldn’t have cheated, but cheating is all on the person that does it and says everything about them, and nothing about you.

    Keep. Moving. Forward.
  • WorkerDrone83
    WorkerDrone83 Posts: 3,195 Member
    edited October 2018
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    denny_mac wrote: »
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    WorkerDrone83 wrote: »
    I've heard that cheaters always cheat down, not up.
    Congrats on your progress and good luck!

    Please cite your sources

    It seems like it would make sense because it's probably easier to do. More opportunity that direction vs. moving up.

    BUT. I've seen no data. This sounds like one of those assumptions that people just believe because it sounds right.

    I think you’re right actually. “Marry up, cheat down”, that’s what my mom always said.

    .. course this doesn’t bode well for denny_mac and SnackherBarrell and any other guys my mom consorts with

    LOL. You must have a cool mom if she was giving you advice like that. Mine was always like "No means no. And if she says yes, that still means no."

    ETA- Sorry, I forgot to remove the tags.
  • IHaveMyActTogether
    IHaveMyActTogether Posts: 945 Member
    CoffeeAndContour wrote: »
    Men typically cheat with women that they find less attractive than their spouse. My point, he cheated because he’s an *kitten* not because of what you look like. He would have done it regardless. Just know, this isn’t because of you, it has nothing to do with you, this is all on him. He is the issue. Let his *kitten* go, and keep that chin up. Be proud of yourself. And in time when you’re ready, someone will love you again, who would never want to hurt you like that. Congratulations on your loss! And for dumping his dead weight.

    You are assuming she dumped him. She probably didn't.

    Everything else you said I agree with.
  • huntersvonnegut
    huntersvonnegut Posts: 1,177 Member
    shanysewilliams26 wrote: »
    Isn't life a *kitten*, oh well gotta take it 1 step at a time and keep pushing on I will not let this situation throw all m progress away

    The best revenge is living a happy life. It’s sounds like you lost a lot more than 80lbs of unsightly mass (fill in ex’s weight).
  • CCgal2018
    CCgal2018 Posts: 64 Member
    You are learning to make healthy choices and bettering yourself! You are looking fab and feeling on top of the world. Your partner couldn’t handle it! Don’t ever dampen your shine because of someone else’s insecurities.
    36yo female here. Add me as a friend if you want some extra support right now! Happy to encourage and motivate.
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