Reasons Why I DON'T Want to Lose Weight
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Evelyn_Gorfram
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(I hope it's okay to steal a post from another thread and use it to start my own, because that's what I'm doing here.)
Stolen from the "Breakdown" thread:
While I have another, much longer, list of reasons to lose weight; this is my "Why Not To" list so far:
1. It is so much easier not to bother with losing weight, at least in the short term.
(In the long term, however, dealing with health problems, mobility problems, and social problems might be even harder than losing weight and keeping it off.)
2. I can eat whatever it occurs to me to eat, whenever it strikes my fancy, without thinking about it all.
(My body, my health, and my appearance will always carry the record of all that I have eaten, whether my brain thinks about it or not.)
3. I have a closet full of super-sized "fat" clothes that fit me just fine.
(And I don't really look good, or feel good, in any of them.)
4. Not being bothered by people I not interested in coming on to me & making sexual overtures.
(People I am interested in might well be more attracted to me if I were at a lower weight.)
5. My wrinkles are mostly well puffed-up, and I have no need to worry about loose skin.
(My wrinkles and my loose skin are currently filled up with fat - I'm not sure that's the better look.)
(Edited heavily in the hope of making it obvious that none of these reasons are enough to stop me from losing weight, and that this thread is not at all meant to discourage anyone else from losing weight, or to encourage them to be discouraged (as it were).
I meant to expand on @88olds idea that we all do have some reasons for not losing weight, and knowing what they are so that we can think them over, and refute them if we choose to, could be very helpful.)
Stolen from the "Breakdown" thread:
Wow. This is a great insight, and a great idea.Now that you’ve got the reasons you want to lose weight, make a list of the reasons why you don’t. That’s right, why you don’t.
If you didn’t have reasons not to lose, you would have done it by now. Now take the two lists and see what kind of deals or compromises you can make to get some accommodations for both sides. Avoid the temptation to just try to throw the don’t side under the bus. Both points of view are valid.
But this- hope. There’s reason for hope. CICO backed up with a food diary and some patience works. It really does.
While I have another, much longer, list of reasons to lose weight; this is my "Why Not To" list so far:
1. It is so much easier not to bother with losing weight, at least in the short term.
(In the long term, however, dealing with health problems, mobility problems, and social problems might be even harder than losing weight and keeping it off.)
2. I can eat whatever it occurs to me to eat, whenever it strikes my fancy, without thinking about it all.
(My body, my health, and my appearance will always carry the record of all that I have eaten, whether my brain thinks about it or not.)
3. I have a closet full of super-sized "fat" clothes that fit me just fine.
(And I don't really look good, or feel good, in any of them.)
4. Not being bothered by people I not interested in coming on to me & making sexual overtures.
(People I am interested in might well be more attracted to me if I were at a lower weight.)
5. My wrinkles are mostly well puffed-up, and I have no need to worry about loose skin.
(My wrinkles and my loose skin are currently filled up with fat - I'm not sure that's the better look.)
(Edited heavily in the hope of making it obvious that none of these reasons are enough to stop me from losing weight, and that this thread is not at all meant to discourage anyone else from losing weight, or to encourage them to be discouraged (as it were).
I meant to expand on @88olds idea that we all do have some reasons for not losing weight, and knowing what they are so that we can think them over, and refute them if we choose to, could be very helpful.)
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I like your cat.4
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Figuring this out is an important part of the process. But you can't stop here.
You'll now have to look at your two lists and decide which list is more resonant. Use that information to guide decision making.4 -
1. Peanut butter
2. Ben & Jerry's cookies and cream cheesecake core
3. Peanut butter
4. All the pizza
5. Peanut butter
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Excellent points, @pinuplove!1. Peanut butter
2. Ben & Jerry's cookies and cream cheesecake core
3. Peanut butter
4. All the pizza
5. Peanut butter
...continuation of my list:
6. Alden's Vanilla ice cream (say what you will, but a really good vanilla is really good)
7. My own oatmeal-everything cookie dough, made with egg whites only and eaten raw from the mixing bowl
8. Nanaimo bars
9. Berry pie (all the berries)
10. Ham. All the ham.
11. Almost any combination of hot fried potatoes and salt.
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@Evelyn_Gorfram This is commonly referred to as the 2 list exercise. OP on the Breakdown thread already had her reasons for losing list. You need both lists to try to resolve the internal conflict.
You don’t need to apologize for or try to explain away your resistance. Everyone here has reasons they would really prefer not to be involved in weight loss. The exercise tries to get what’s blocking our progress out in the open.3 -
1. I do not want to lose weight so I can continue to embarrass my mother
2. I do not want to lose weight because I don’t want anyone to notice I did and comment
3. Because that one woman at work will be mean to me
4. Because I’ll have to the thing I promised someone I’d do when I was thin, thinking I never would be
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Right. I think that's the problem with my stealing your quote and opening a new thread with it.@Evelyn_Gorfram This is commonly referred to as the 2 list exercise. OP on the Breakdown thread already had her reasons for losing list. You need both lists to try to resolve the internal conflict.
You don’t need to apologize for or try to explain away your resistance. Everyone here has reasons they would really prefer not to be involved in weight loss. The exercise tries to get what’s blocking our progress out in the open.
In the original thread, it was in context and so it was clear that there were two lists being contrasted.
On this thread, out of context (and with me not having heard of the "two-list exercise" as such), I realized shortly after posting it that it could come across looking like a "one-list exercise." I worried that it might look like I was trying to discourage myself - and perhaps others - from losing weight; and so I did some perhaps overhasty editing to try to make myself clear.
With any luck, I didn't *kitten* the whole thing up too much further.
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I like Reason #1. Maybe you could get one of the theatrical "fat suits" that actors wear for playing fat people, just for whenever you're going to see your mom.1. I do not want to lose weight so I can continue to embarrass my mother
2. I do not want to lose weight because I don’t want anyone to notice I did and comment
3. Because that one woman at work will be mean to me
4. Because I’ll have to the thing I promised someone I’d do when I was thin, thinking I never would be
Re: Reason #4. Dare one ask what the promise was (unless you'd rather not share)?
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Evelyn_Gorfram wrote: »
I like Reason #1. Maybe you could get one of the theatrical "fat suits" that actors wear for playing fat people, just for whenever you're going to see your mom.1. I do not want to lose weight so I can continue to embarrass my mother
2. I do not want to lose weight because I don’t want anyone to notice I did and comment
3. Because that one woman at work will be mean to me
4. Because I’ll have to the thing I promised someone I’d do when I was thin, thinking I never would be
Re: Reason #4. Dare one ask what the promise was (unless you'd rather not share)?
Ha ha! Great idea for #1 ! #4 there’s more to it, but it involves wearing a swimsuit in public, and in front of people I’d rather not see me in a swim suit. I know I shouldn’t care, but I’m just not there yet.0 -
Well, you don't have to be there yet.
#4 there’s more to it, but it involves wearing a swimsuit in public, and in front of people I’d rather not see me in a swim suit. I know I shouldn’t care, but I’m just not there yet.Evelyn_Gorfram wrote: »
I like Reason #1. Maybe you could get one of the theatrical "fat suits" that actors wear for playing fat people, just for whenever you're going to see your mom.1. I do not want to lose weight so I can continue to embarrass my mother
2. I do not want to lose weight because I don’t want anyone to notice I did and comment
3. Because that one woman at work will be mean to me
4. Because I’ll have to the thing I promised someone I’d do when I was thin, thinking I never would be
Re: Reason #4. Dare one ask what the promise was (unless you'd rather not share)?
(& with luck, you didn't promise a timeline on just how long after reaching your goal weight you had to fulfill the promise. )
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1. My fiancé likes bigger girls. I’m afraid if I lose to much he won’t find me attractive anymore.
2. I miss donuts. I miss big, sugary iced coffees with double cream, double sugar.
3. I love my butt and thighs.
4. I want pizza and Chinese food.
5. Counting calories for the rest of my life is just not how I imagined it would go.
6. I don’t want to have to invest in new clothes.4 -
I really really like my big fat breasts :-), and I know that they will go! But I still look better thinner...3
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I like your cat also! I love cats. All the cats. Ahem.
Why I don't/didn't:- I'm lazy, and I'd love to fall back to being lazy.
- Everyone tells me I am too skinny and shouldn't lose more. I could rest right where I am forever. Who'd ever know. (see point #1)
- Everything in my closet fits, even if it doesn't give me the shape I want. (refer to #1)
- I can do everything now and I'm in much better shape than I was... do I really need to get to a healthy weight? (circular logic to #1)
- I want! I want! I want! (without effort -- arrowed straight back to #1)
Why I do/did:- I'm almost back to lowest weight I'd achieved in 2012. That means I can forge new paths to awesome. If I can do so much more NOW, then what could I do when I've reached a healthy weight? Life is more exciting off the couch playing games and into the wild world of nature!
- I've seen what being overweight can do to a person at the end of their life and I do not want to be that. Even if everyone tells me I'll become "anorexic" if I lose more, they know nothing. THEY KNOW NOTHING. I am not yet even at the tippy top of a healthy weight range. I've got small bones and know exactly how much fat I'm carrying around. I shall not let the world tell me where to stop.
- Everything in my closet "fits", but I still stare at my rubber duckie floatie strapped around my waist like the power of my stare would deflate it. To date, it has not. My inner duckie mocks me. So I shall own it so that I can enjoy / feel comfortable in clothing and wear anything with confidence.
- I can do everything I want to now, but I still get tired and have to huff and puff my way up the mountain. I want to run and dance and thrive in the joy of a body not lugging around a good 20-15 extra kilos. Plus, that will help so much for when I wear the occasional super awesome high heels to the company party!
- I want. More than I want, I want to want to be more than I am. I want to always want to better myself. To become the next, greatest version of myself that I can force myself to be. To achieve what I thought I couldn't do just to prove (to myself) that I can.
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Boobs are one of the first places I lose weight, and I refuse to be okay with that
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It's too easy to eat all the junk food in the house, sugar tastes great!1
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