5'6", 228 lbs, 34 years old - feeling bad

tigerlily42
tigerlily42 Posts: 19
in Motivation and Support
I guess I have to face the fact that I'll probably never have the body I want. At this stage of the game, tube tops and mini skirts are probably out for the rest of my life. I want to date again but men won't even look at me.

I just don't see that it's worth trying any more. Last year I lost 30 lbs and felt so good about myself and then one of my friendships became toxic because she was jealous of my success and I felt guilty and ate. And ate. And ate.

And now that I'm trying I just can't seem to get the momentum I need. I lose 3 or 4 lbs and just gain them back. I just can't see that there's a light at the end. :(

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  • RockClimber69
    RockClimber69 Posts: 82 Member
    Honey, if you want it, you can do it. You have to want it badly enough, and you have to do this for you and no-one else! No-one said it was going to be easy, but it will be worth it! Forget about the scale for a while. Take your starting weight and your starting measurements and then spend the next month lifting weights, doing some cardio and tracking everything you eat! Calculate your TDEE and keep your calories around 20% below that number.
    Concentrate on increasing your strength and endurance and the rest will follow. Weigh and measure yourself again after a month. I would be very surprised if there was not a significant improvement.
    Lastly...and then I will stop preaching, I promise! :p
    Cut the toxic people out of your life. If your "friends" do not support you in becoming healthier and increasing your life span, find new friends!
    Ok, rant over.
    You can do this!
  • Pheboh
    Pheboh Posts: 88 Member
    I struggled to get my momentum going, too. I recently just challenged myself not to weigh myself or take measurements until September 1st because I let myself become so overly obsessed with the number on the scale. I know I'm making progress, it just doesn't show on the scale sometimes. How is it that my pants are falling down, but the scale is the same? Then I feel like I gain it all back. It's a disaster. Perhaps you should try the same sort of thing? Really dedicate yourself to your diary and fitness for two weeks but fight the temptation to weigh yourself?

    Feel free to add me by the way :)

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