Piece of **** family..... :'(

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Hello everyone,

Lately, I've been getting really upset by my family's comments around me. (This is gonna be long.)

First off, my sister and brother sometimes degrade fat or obese people. They talk about people they used to know and how they are now fat. They say it as if to say "Because those old high school peers are fat now, they obviously have accomplished nothing and have no worth or value." They say it right in front of me, when I'm overweight, used to be in the obese category, and still have about 30 lb to lose.

Additionally, both of them are thin and always have been. I really don't know why they're so blind and insensitive, but it makes me really angry, ashamed, isolated, and upset. I thought that family was supposed to be the one place where you are shielded by harm and judgement, not opened to it.

Another example.....My Mom has recently finished losing a lot of weight. She is now thinner than I am. I will be sitting right in front of her eating and she won't stop talking about people who eat too much, or how Aunt so-and-so doesn't have the willpower to lose weight. She also tries to shame me by telling me not to eat things and then when I reprimand her, she acts even more manipulative and abusive. It makes me sick to my stomach to think that she treats me this way.

And finally, I'm also having trouble letting go of things said in the past. After I lost a little bit of weight, I heard through my mother that my father asked if I was having any weight loss success, and then said I actually looked bigger. And that makes me angry, because he helped promote childhood obesity with the unhealthy ways that we would always eat in my family. (He has an unbroken food addiction to this day, hypocritical piece of ****.)

Anyway, I kinda just wanted to get that off my chest. My family makes me feel like nothing. They make me feel like I have no worth until I lose weight. Beyond that, I also struggle with multiple life problems and mental illnesses. I just feel really wronged right now and really lonely. I wish more than anything that I had a supportive, loving family that wasn't shattered.

Well, I guess I've said enough. Good luck, and I hope everyone reading this can find success despite maybe having a bad family situation.

Coyoteldy

I cant help with the family issues.. I do understand when it feels like the people who we believe should support us .. don't... All I can say is that the only behavior you can change is your own...and when you do people have no choice but to alter theirs. Many times those of us who lose weight can't seem to stop suggesting to others..thinking we are experts..concentrate on you.. what you want and need out of this weight loss journey...this is about you and for you...take pride in that.