Feeling like a quitter.

maggiemax18

Any pointers on staying positive and loving yourself through your health journey?

I have always teetered between “screw society, I’m thick and gorgeous,” and “omg, I wish I didn’t look like Fiona from Shrek in all my photos.”

I always get so gung ho about losing weight, start off strong, then get depressed when I start to feel a little defeated (ie, one day off from gym turns into 3 weeks off from gym) and then I end up quitting.

Tips for avoiding the pesky give-up self pressure?

TavistockToad

small sustainable changes that you WANT to make instead of massive changes that you force upon yourself in order to be 'healthy'.

eat food you like in amounts that put you in a calorie deficit. eat some fruit and veg for health, and find an exercise that you enjoy.

lunnon1984

maggiemax18 wrote: »

Any pointers on staying positive and loving yourself through your health journey?

I have always teetered between “screw society, I’m thick and gorgeous,” and “omg, I wish I didn’t look like Fiona from Shrek in all my photos.”

I always get so gung ho about losing weight, start off strong, then get depressed when I start to feel a little defeated (ie, one day off from gym turns into 3 weeks off from gym) and then I end up quitting.

Tips for avoiding the pesky give-up self pressure?

Hi there! I also found it difficult to keep going to the gym when the results were not showing quick enough (or so i thought) I found that training with someone that has the same goal as you really helps as you can motivate each other on the bad days. I wish you luck with your journey

amy19355

there is a lot of stuff here on MFP attesting to the fact that it is a calorie deficit that drops the weight.

i keep hearing that the gym is for toning and gaining strength, and isn't the key to weight loss.

try to get a handle on the food portions (measure/weigh everything) and logging all the food you eat.
that's got a better chance of becoming a daily habit because it is so much more accessible - unlike the gym.

In my personal experience, the results I'm seeing are coming from managing the food I eat so that it meets my calorie and macro targets. The gym is actually sometimes a problem for me because I have to pay attention to get all my food + some extra workout fuel in my belly, before I go workout, so that I'm not arriving home late at night with an empty growling belly.

i'm measuring and logging food every day, all day long. I don't go to the gym every day.
I've lost 20 pounds since 9/4 and attribute the loss to the food management.

good luck to you.

girlwithcurls2

TavistockToad wrote: »

small sustainable changes that you WANT to make instead of massive changes that you force upon yourself in order to be 'healthy'.

eat food you like in amounts that put you in a calorie deficit. eat some fruit and veg for health, and find an exercise that you enjoy.

^This.
Find small changes that you CAN do, and do them. Consistently. Add in new ones as you can. There will be backsliding, there will be times when you don't feel like sticking to the plan, whatever. If it's going to be a change for life, then make sure it's something you can change. Don't be your biggest obstacle.

88olds

I think our brains hate weight loss. Always looking for the negative. The answer to every problem is quit. Push back.

I read this somewhere and it stuck- perfect is the enemy of the good.

Your program doesn’t need to be perfect to get you on a downward trend on the scale, it only needs to be good enough.