How do you deal?

nairedavis
nairedavis Posts: 30
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I told my family and friends that my goal weight was between 115 and 120 and they all keep saying that's too skinny, I'm big-boned (which is total b.s.), and I'll look anorexic. I'm 5'3 and I know that that'll weight will fit me and I will not be too skinny.

How do you all deal with this? Have you ever heard some people tell you that you're weight loss goal is not possible.

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  • TinGirl314
    TinGirl314 Posts: 430 Member
    I'm already being told to stop losing weight and I'm at 215....RIGHT?
    Not 115, 215!
    Do what feels right for you and plan it out with your doctor. If you truly have a large bone structure they will be able to tell you if your goal is 'too drastic' or not.

    Otherwise...ignore the haters. :p
  • Ninkyou
    Ninkyou Posts: 6,666 Member
    Ignore them. If they still harp on you about, print out a BMI chart and show them what weight is healthy for your height and where you are now. Should open their eyes a little.
  • sarahrbraun
    sarahrbraun Posts: 2,261 Member
    I told my family and friends that my goal weight was between 115 and 120 and they all keep saying that's too skinny, I'm big-boned (which is total b.s.), and I'll look anorexic. I'm 5'3 and I know that that'll weight will fit me and I will not be too skinny.

    How do you all deal with this? Have you ever heard some people tell you that you're weight loss goal is not possible.

    That IS fairly low.

    What I would do is start telling people that your goal is 130-140...that way they stop bugging you.

    I'm 5'2" tall, and I set my goal weight at 145. I'll be happy in a size 8, no matter what I weigh..
  • Fiercely_Me
    Fiercely_Me Posts: 481 Member
    I went through the same when I had a huge weight loss. Family accused me of being bulimic or sick. Uh, no. It's called being in shape. For some, your goals and progress points out their complacency and they will try to keep you at status quo just like them. Don't fall for it! Continue to strive towards the goals you set forth, and keep pushing forward.
  • VioletNightshade
    VioletNightshade Posts: 197
    People say the same thing to me. My goal is 130 (I'm 5'6) and people tell me, when they find out I'm currently around 215, that 130 is WAY way too skinny and, as one person phrased it, "You're gonna look like Isabelle Caro in her No-Anorexia ads, dude. That's too skinny for you." If you don't know who Isabelle Caro was, she was a model who posed nude for a set of very revealing, disturbing and potentially triggering ads showcasing the horrors of what anorexia does to your body using her own as an example. She eventually died likely due to complications brought on by her eating disorder. In her ads, she looks (and is) emaciated and frighteningly skinny.

    After a few similar comments, I just started telling people I'm aiming for 160 and they've stopped whinging at me. Once I get to 160, I'll tell them I'm working at 150 and so on until I reach my goal.
  • fishnbrah
    fishnbrah Posts: 550
    I told my family and friends that my goal weight was between 115 and 120 and they all keep saying that's too skinny, I'm big-boned (which is total b.s.), and I'll look anorexic. I'm 5'3 and I know that that'll weight will fit me and I will not be too skinny.

    How do you all deal with this? Have you ever heard some people tell you that you're weight loss goal is not possible.
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    you have to do it for yourself and disregard other people. whether they mean to or not others, even family will bring you down. once you realize its only about you when it comes to your fitness, dont let anything stop you.
  • MsJulielicious
    MsJulielicious Posts: 708 Member
    You're an adult you make your own choices. Period
    GL, work hard, you got this
  • MoreBean13
    MoreBean13 Posts: 8,701 Member
    #1. Don't get too hung up on a goal weight when you're just starting. Right now, your goal should be to develop healthy habits, get stronger and fitter, and lose 1-2 lbs per week. The goal weight shouldn't impact your program at all right now. It might change, anyway- mine did by ~15 lbs.

    #2. Stop telling people anything you don't want feedback on. For me that includes my diet and fitness goals and anything to do with my weight.

    #3. If you feel compelled to tell them something, make it vague, like "I just want to get to the point where I'm healthy and fit and happy with my body"
  • glovepuppet
    glovepuppet Posts: 1,710 Member
    #2. Stop telling people anything you don't want feedback on. For me that includes my diet and fitness goals and anything to do with my weight
    this. I really don't get the need to share every detail.

    and then you perfect the eye roll, because people with irrational and unreasonable points are really not worth arguing with.
  • jayjay12345654321
    jayjay12345654321 Posts: 653 Member
    Since they already know your goal weight, it's hard to go back and be vague. Those closest to us who have always known us to be bigger in size have a hard time seeing that change. It's like the person they knew is disappearing and they seem to handle change harder than we do when we decide to make a difference in ourselves. At this point, maybe the best thing you can do is say right now all you want to focus on is being healthy, and what happens with your weight, happens, but the number is not the goal. Because really, it isn't. Health, confidence and happiness is your what you're striving toward.
  • nairedavis
    nairedavis Posts: 30
    Thanks guys for the support and the advice!

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