Eating disorders

tanya_p1990

That is what the doctor said to me that I cannot be referred because I don’t meet the guidelines tbf I think they are just passing me off because I had a baby a few months ago so obviously it must me postnatal depression when my son was first born I knew something was wrong with him but nobody would listen to me and just kept trying to give me pills saying I had postnatal depression but I was right there was something wrong with him so I know they just cannot be bothered and she did discuss anti depressants and the pros and cons of taking them and then how she felt I may have postnatal depression and that I should attend group meetings for it then my partner got mad that they are just not listening and wanting me to be whatever they say I am and that isn’t gunna help me he had spent a long time trying to get me to go to a doctor

MacCroc

Hey, feel free to message me. I think I can relate.

chloeaaa

I agree in the sense that you should seek professional help, but I’ve been where you are(and am currently struggling still) and with all of the professional help you could possibly receive, having someone to talk to about everything really does make a difference. If you still need someone who understands, I’m always open. I wish you luck in your recovery

Dame_sans_merci

Hey, I’m in the UK. I had a full on crying/shaking episode with the general nurse at my GP practice during my ‘3 year check up’. She referred me to a women’s health specialist at my surgery and I got referred for therapy from there. It was very cathartic once I managed to talk about stuff. Ask your GP if they have anyone at the practice that might work as a specialist on eating disorders or women’s health or even if they have someone that specialises in the area of past trauma that you know to be a possible source of the disorder and see if you get a more positive outcome that way. Maybe don’t take your partner if they are likely to get angry during the appointment, even though their frustration stems from their love for you. Hoping you get the help you need. DM me or any of the other members offering assistance if you ever need an anonymous ear. Xx

ghudson92

OP, I agree with others that you should persevere with professional support as no one here has the correct knowledge to help you in the ways you need. The UK health care system can be tricky to navigate at times, but don't lose hope. Keep trying until someone hears you!
A close friend of mine is in recovery from an eating disorder so I'd be happy to lend a supportive ear if you think that will help.
You mentioned that there are certain things you aren't ready to discuss face to face. I know it sounds silly, but have you tried saying them aloud when you are by yourself? Or writing those things down? Sometimes it is scary to say things aloud, because then they become a part of the outside world and are no longer just inside of your head. However, the more you say it, the easier it becomes. I used this technique to grow comfortable in admitting to my partner I had an anxiety disorder. However, this is purely anecdotal and may or may not work for you.
I truly hope you find the help you need, so that you can love yourself and your family.

H2596

The difficulty for the GP is you can’t tell him/her what it is that’s troubling you. You’ve arrived in the surgery saying you’re struggling, which coincidentally is after you’ve had a baby, so to the GP postnatal depression could well fit the bill.

Could you book another appointment after you’ve written down some or all of what you can’t say? A doctor or therapist is much more likely to be able to help with facts.

Think of it as a maths problem. If you ask them to add up two numbers but only give them one what is the correct answer?
55 + ? =

kooshajan

Hmm...in the past prior to my pregnancy I very much was going through the same thing. I was quite thin but always felt huge. I lived off canned soup. Didn’t eat anything else. My mother pulled me aside one day and told me I had to stop. I was sick all the time. When I began eating normally again my boyfriend and the time told me I was “getting kind of soft” which lead to another downward spiral. After we broke up I went from not eating to eating. I went from 105lbs to 130lbs. I thought that was healthy. I did feel much better. Than I met my daughters father, got pregnant and Interesting enough when I gained 85lbs during my pregnancy. From 130 to 215lbs. I have lost a little over 60lbs of it. But After my pregnancy I had more confidence in my body than I do now. I am extremely insecure of my body all over again. And again have been dealing with eating disorders. After a pretty big anxiety attack a few weeks ago I’m realizing I need to start taking care of myself better. Emotionally, mentally and physically. It’s not going to be easy but I know I can do this. Today I ate breakfast, lunch and supper. I haven’t done that in years. I bought a gym membership too and will be beginning counselling. I’m paranoid that I will gain weight because of the increase in food but I am trying to teach myself that self love is super important-and I need to eat regularly. My brother recently told me that sometimes the worst place we can be is inside our own heads. It’s true. Stay focused. Stay positive. I know that’s super hard to hear...I scoff when I’m told it too. Slips ups will happen...we are only human but if doing all this will help end this torment I’ve been putting myself through than I’m all in for the ride..one day at a time.