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  • BEVERLYSTEENBEVERLYSTEEN Posts: 102Member, Premium Member Posts: 102Member, Premium Member
    The people making those comments probably saw you fully clothed so have not seen the hard work you are achieving with the weights. Good job by the way! Just tell them you are not dieting but eating healthy then they will usually revisit their own eating habits. Stay focused and carry on. 🤗
    edited December 2018
  • solieco1solieco1 Posts: 1,246Member, Premium Member Posts: 1,246Member, Premium Member
    You look fantastic!
  • steveko89steveko89 Posts: 1,129Member Member Posts: 1,129Member Member
    It's unfortunate that so many feel it's acceptable to comment and project their own bias onto others. The perception of "normal" or "healthy" weight/shape has shifted so much that many don't know what to consider an appropriate size for people any more. I went from 195+ to ~165 lbs before senior year of high school and got even leaner to finish out my freshman year of college. Visiting high school teachers after that semester I had more than a few express concern that I was or had been ill despite being at a healthy weight for a sustained period for the first time in my life.

    You look excellent, btw. Don't let anyone try to make you think otherwise.
    edited December 2018
  • jasmineconleyjasmineconley Posts: 432Member Member Posts: 432Member Member
    Great job! You look great. People always find something to complain about. Keep up the great work.
  • PAFC84PAFC84 Posts: 1,382Member Member Posts: 1,382Member Member
    I have people making jokes about my weight loss and fitness, telling me I’ll blow away in a light breeze, and am too skinny, etc. Very annoying, especially when I’m not even talking about my fitness journey much to anyone. Guess it’s something i have to live with. Anyhow, I’m proud of my accomplishments. Down 35lbs and BF down 7pts. bra580wil5m3.jpeg
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    You don't look skinny to me-you look in good shape and strong. Are these people "out of shape by any chance?

    Just keep concentrating on yourself mate. Keep up the good work.
  • mcmurdah123mcmurdah123 Posts: 16Member Member Posts: 16Member Member
    Not to quote a singer or anything buuut... haters gonna hate... hate hate.. hate hate.

    I feel like there are going to be naysayers at every point of your journey. If you feel good about yourself (which you should, you look great), then that is what matters. if people worked on themselves as much as they criticize others, we would all live on a nicer planet.
  • leanjogreen18leanjogreen18 Posts: 2,492Member, Premium Member Posts: 2,492Member, Premium Member
    I look at the person that gives me negaitve feedback are they overweight? Then it might be something they personally struggle with and might be unconsiously jealous.

    Is it a relative? They might truly be concerned and/or if overweight they also struggle with this.

    Is it a fit person? Then I might look at myself/bmi etc and just make sure I wasn't loosing too much (although you look great!) just to double check myself image.

    Sometimes it's a weird compliment.

    I personally have a trainer and I trust him and when I reach my goal weight I will use him as my shield - "I work with a trainer and he's happy with the weight I'm at, thank you for your concern though" something to that effect:)
    edited December 2018
  • malika1976malika1976 Posts: 180Member, Premium Member Posts: 180Member, Premium Member
    I also think it is meant as a compliment...so many posts here about people being mad that someone comments on their weight loss. Be grateful that it is not acceptable for people to say--"wow--you sure have packed on the pounds" or something like that when you were overweight. You do look amazing.

    @mountainmare You've got a point, but it is acceptable in my work place to say to people they've put on weight. You sound like people shouldn't complain when complimented. I grin and bear it but every time someone comments I want to punch them. One or two comments a day would be ok, but it's more like 15 separate comments every day for the past 3 months. On one bad day I got 62 comments. The comments make me feel incredibly self conscious because obviously people are looking at my body enough to notice. There is one rule at my house for my homestay student - no mention of weight is allowed. I need my house to be a safe space. The comments are making it difficult to keep eating due to self-consciousness.
  • elisa123galelisa123gal Posts: 3,407Member Member Posts: 3,407Member Member
    In the end, you have to know who you are and what is true. No one should believe what they're told. Believe what you know and see.
  • HarryJamesPotter7HarryJamesPotter7 Posts: 22Member Member Posts: 22Member Member
    You look absolutely incredible. I don’t see you as someone blowing away in the wind- quite the opposite!! Your muscle definition is amazing!! I see hard work & dedication! Something you should be ridiculously proud of. I’ve gotten comments over my body before as well. In our society it can be “weird” to see someone who’s exceptionally healthy, being that’s it’s sadly rare. It ends up making people react, sometimes for the worse (i.e. jealousy). I know how much those rude comments can hurt. Keep doing you!! You’re clearly rocking it!!
  • JeromeBarry1JeromeBarry1 Posts: 9,877Member Member Posts: 9,877Member Member
    Fewer funerals for you to attend.
  • GrnhouseGrnhouse Posts: 261Member Member Posts: 261Member Member
    Do what brings you joy.
  • grinning_chickgrinning_chick Posts: 621Member Member Posts: 621Member Member
    If it is a compliment, it is an odd one. Who talks like that? Maybe it is a regional colloquialism thing. Certainly would explain it.

    You look like if you were on a dating site and selected "fit" for body type, you would not be catfishing any poor potential date.

    Well done, you.
  • ogma6ogma6 Posts: 14Member Member Posts: 14Member Member
    I can see how after the first few times, that would really get annoying. It's very trivialising.
  • HalyzBioStructuresHalyzBioStructures Posts: 62Member Member Posts: 62Member Member
    Its hard to imagine sometimes that we can live and thrive in a world where what others think of us is less important than what we think of ourselves <3 awesome job ! Smile and wave :) they wish to be you :*
  • jseams1234jseams1234 Posts: 1,029Member Member Posts: 1,029Member Member
    Have you adjusted your wardrobe? You look good with your shirt off but if you aren’t wearing well fitted shirts it’s entirely possible you just look thinner than you actually are. I used to be pretty skinny and tried to disguise that with overly baggy clothes - in hindsight it just made me look skinnier. Nowadays, according to my wife everything I wear is one sized too small. ;)
  • alicebhsia1alicebhsia1 Posts: 82Member Member Posts: 82Member Member
    well, if you want my opinion i think you look great, but also on the very lean side. camera adds ten pounds so in real life you probably look thinner too. my ex used to have your build and he was always struggling to gain weight and everyone used to always say stuff like "get this boy a sandwich!" recent studies say that "overweight" people live longer now. i wouldn't take what people say to you badly though. guys like to bust on each other as a sign of friendship and some people are probably actually just concerned with your health. in any case i would take it as good natured ribbing..
  • HarryJamesPotter7HarryJamesPotter7 Posts: 22Member Member Posts: 22Member Member
    well, if you want my opinion i think you look great, but also on the very lean side. camera adds ten pounds so in real life you probably look thinner too. my ex used to have your build and he was always struggling to gain weight and everyone used to always say stuff like "get this boy a sandwich!" recent studies say that "overweight" people live longer now. i wouldn't take what people say to you badly though. guys like to bust on each other as a sign of friendship and some people are probably actually just concerned with your health. in any case i would take it as good natured ribbing..

    I want to see these “studies” you’re referring to. Overweight people living longer? With heart disease & diabetes? Yeah, I bet. I feel bad for your ex getting skinny shamed. Not cool. People belittling another for their body is never okay, even if it’s meant as a “joke”. OP is clearly extremely healthy and ridiculously fit.
    edited January 13
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