Grief

lizzie888

Any advice on how to continue while grieving.

JeromeBarry1

Weigh your food while grieving. Log your food while grieving. Do your exercise while grieving. Log your exercise while grieving. Don't make financial decisions while grieving.

tulips_and_tea

Sorry you're grieving. Do you mean diet, weight loss, workouts, etc.? More details would be helpful.

For me, the important part of grieving is letting it happen. Feel the feelings. Work through them and let it take as much time as necessary. Everyone grieves differently so don't compare yourself to others. Take care of your health and nurture your body and your mind. Weight loss may not be important right now. Maybe workouts aren't either or maybe they really help you decompress and let off some steam. You kind of have to find your own path. Good luck and just know that it WILL get better.

mbaker566

i took a few days to slug around
but then i tried to get out. which was hard because the world kept going, when i felt like it all should have come to a halt.
when people asked me to do things(reasonable), i would say yes.
i made sure to take care of myself with self care, showering, exercise, good food, dog snuggles.

i have clinical depression and if i slug too long it turns into a black hole. i cannot afford to fall into that hole. it eats everything like The Nothing in the Neverending Story.

one foot in front of the other. trudging forth into the future.

BrettWithPKU

Sorry about the reason for your grief.
How you should deal with the conflict of your long-term health goals and your grief depends on the scenario. I'll assume the death of a loved one (that's usually what people mean when they've 'grieving').

In a situation like this, if your loved one loved you (surely they did), it would be their wish that you be as happy and healthy as you can be. And, with that said, the attainment of your fitness/health goals would not only benefit you; it would honor one of your loved one's final wishes. And with that, your fitness/health goals have become something bigger than yourself. Use this as your mindset going forward; if properly utilized, this most unfortunate event can be a catalyst that launches you to your goal.

cherchechristine

Do the minimum--and don't beat yourself up when you fall off program. i found that returning to workout helped me immensely. The fog will eventually dissipate and you'll start to focus once again. But, get your exercise--it's great for you mentally and physically.

SoleTrainer60

At times when I am feeling down about something, I pray and ask God to help me through. We all have our days, but you will be O.K. I will pray for you as well. Continue to exercise and do the best that you can , until you get back on track.

lnoelg

Take the time you need to be sad but you can still live your life while you grieve. Some people never slow down, let the grief fuel their determination. Some people need to slug as mbaker put it and let their body physically recover from the trauma of grief. The key is self awareness. Ask yourself are you resting because you need to or are you making excuses. If you need to rest then forgive yourself for taking the break and do it. If you are making an excuse maybe you should try and figure out why... and that might help you get back on track.

Anyway grief is incredibly complicated and unique to each individual so there is no one right way to get past it in your fitness routines but I wish you the best.

teraceta

I think you need to be a little selfish right now. Be kind to yourself. Grief is a rollercoaster of emotions and it sucks and I’m sorry I don’t have a better answer and I’m sorry for your loss.

Lilutz

Since my Shuggie (my dog, and only family member left) died on Easter Sunday, I took 10 days with my grief and decided to recommit. That was a mistake, it seems. Every day I recommit, and every day I fail, which just makes me feel worse about my situation.

Terytha

When you grieve, your heart still beats, the sun still rises and sets, the world continues on. So do you. It just happens.

Personally, doing things was how I grieved, because accomplishing tasks felt better than sitting around being in pain. I packed things, moved furniture, cleaned, talked to banks and well wishers and everyone.

But if you need to just sit and be sad, if that works for you, then do it. You can pick up everything else when you're done.

Also: sleep enough, drink lots of water, move around a little. I resented the heck out of my grandpa for making me go on walks with him at first, but those walks helped me sleep and eased some of my tension.

poisonesse

Grieve, but remember the good times, not the sad/bad times. If you've lost a loved one, remember, they would not want you burying yourself in grief over them, so honor them by caring for yourself.

AnnPT77

For me, it helped to just go through the motions of regular life. I felt numb, like I was sleepwalking or something, mostly, but with periods of more emotion. In my case, the most difficult loss was my husband (he was 45, I was 43 at the time). I kept telling myself that he wanted me to go on with life, to strive to be happy, and that I should respect that for his sake.

In that kind of context, cooking, logging, etc., would be part of going ough the motions.

I think everyone does it differently, though. I'd just encourage you to do something, not shut yourself away from the world. The people I've seen shut themselves away, have not done too well overall - it's hard to come out of, once it becomes a habit.

For me, going through life's regular motions was a slow on-ramp to normality. Gradually, over time, normal feelings and reactions started to seep back into the motions. It took a while; I just kept moving until I got there. It doesn't ever totally go away, I think, but it gets smaller in the rear-view mirror.

Wishing you healing!

mystoflaura1

I'm in year 2 of grieving a 41 year relationship. Only those married a long long time no how this is devastating. I mean i have lost mother ,father, and brothers and sister, and friends but that's nothing like losing a long term spouse

elisa123gal

look at eating heathy and working out as a diversion from your grief. a distraction. Everyone is so different..and greiving is a cloud. My friend who just lost her husband is swimming and throwing herself into getting fit as a way to cope. I hope you find your way and I'm sorry you are sad.

LifeChangz

@mystoflaura1 (hugs)
-- tuff stuff.