So this is my life now?

AleighN90
AleighN90 Posts: 5 Member
edited December 2024 in Chit-Chat
I was told by a guy I had been physically intimate with that I “had a cute face but my body isn’t the greatest”... this is why I’m terrified of dating. I’m scared I’ll never be good enough for someone to find me attractive. I know, I know, “love yourself first”, but it’s hard not having any intimate interactions...

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  • ythannah
    ythannah Posts: 4,376 Member
    I'm sorry the guy was so rude to you. You know it says more about him and his insecurities than it does about you, right? It's just an opinion (and possibly not even an honest one, he may have just wanted to cut you down to make himself feel superior) and not an absolute truth. Someone... probably more than one... thinks you're attractive just the way you are.
  • AleighN90
    AleighN90 Posts: 5 Member
    This is exactly what one of my girlfriends said 😂
  • competeagain4x
    competeagain4x Posts: 167 Member
    AleighN90 wrote: »
    This is exactly what one of my girlfriends said 😂

    Hahahahaha
    2 votes for small penis
  • JeromeBarry1
    JeromeBarry1 Posts: 10,179 Member
    There's attractive in the general sense, and there's attractive enough for a particular individual.
    You can be first and not the second. If so ditch the second.
    You can be second and not the first. If so, hold on tight.

    If that photo is you recently, I'd vote you're first.
  • ythannah
    ythannah Posts: 4,376 Member
    AleighN90 wrote: »
    This is exactly what one of my girlfriends said 😂

    Wise friend! :D

    I'm old, I've seen this played out so many times over the years. Guaranteed dude treats everyone like this and will have a miserable life. Especially with that small penis.
  • competeagain4x
    competeagain4x Posts: 167 Member
    ythannah wrote: »
    AleighN90 wrote: »
    This is exactly what one of my girlfriends said 😂

    Wise friend! :D

    I'm old, I've seen this played out so many times over the years. Guaranteed dude treats everyone like this and will have a miserable life. Especially with that small penis.

    Lol
  • JoFit33
    JoFit33 Posts: 2 Member
    AleighN90 wrote: »
    I was told by a guy I had been physically intimate with that I “had a cute face but my body isn’t the greatest”... this is why I’m terrified of dating. I’m scared I’ll never be good enough for someone to find me attractive. I know, I know, “love yourself first”, but it’s hard not having any intimate interactions...

    He is not the one for you next.....
  • JoFit33
    JoFit33 Posts: 2 Member
    He does not even deserve to see you undress.
  • CaptainFantastic01
    CaptainFantastic01 Posts: 9,558 Member
    *kitten* that guy. What a jerk. I’m sorry. Don’t mind him. Somebody will like you
  • newmeadow
    newmeadow Posts: 1,295 Member
    AleighN90 wrote: »
    I was told by a guy I had been physically intimate with that I “had a cute face but my body isn’t the greatest”... this is why I’m terrified of dating. I’m scared I’ll never be good enough for someone to find me attractive. I know, I know, “love yourself first”, but it’s hard not having any intimate interactions...

    Not as hard as having "intimate interactions" with pigs who say this s*** to you after the fact. The time it takes to recover from something like this is long and might not even happen at all. Don't let it happen again.

  • FitnTrimSteve
    FitnTrimSteve Posts: 664 Member
    Absolute jackwagon. He doesn’t deserve your time or intimacy. There are good guys out there who will treat you right just like others have said.
  • LilSnowBunni
    LilSnowBunni Posts: 497 Member
    edited December 2018
    You are beautiful inside and out. Do not allow someone else to dictate your worth. Don’t let that stupid statement of his hold you back. Negative comments always stick, but please don’t allow that to discourage you in the dating world, and don’t give him the opportunity to get to know you, he doesn’t deserve even a look from you. Loneliness is tough and sometimes just having someone there makes it easier, even if they aren’t treating you right, but this is stooping really low and truly hurting someone. There is someone out there for everyone, who will love you for you, inside AND out 100%. Throw him back in the sea.
  • SabAteNine
    SabAteNine Posts: 1,867 Member
    Look... There are people in this world who would tell [insert supermodel / fitness model name here] that right now, they aren't the most physically attractive women. This has nothing to do with you, or Adriana Lima, or Kate Upton or stuff, and *everything* to do with them.

    Been in your shoes. When I was young and words like these could make or break my relationship with my insecure self. Do NOT let this affect you - you don't need to go on a no-food diet, you don't need to exercise till you drop, you don't need to „make yourself prettier” for anyone. Because there are good people in this world, and then there are jerks such as that dude, for which nothing will ever be enough, so nothing will ever be worth doing.

    Do not change yourself for someone. Do not change yourself for anyone. Accept the possibility of lack of compatibility, and run like hell from lack of human decency.

    And in closure, the best body shaper is self confidence. It's magical and it doesn't cost a penny.
  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,860 Member
    Listen to the chorus of people saying delete, block and walk away without a word. Any time you spend after reading that on him is wasted time.
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