What do you say?

kindasortachewy
kindasortachewy Posts: 1,084 Member
in Motivation and Support
Today at work I had a jacket tied around my waist, I've been working with the same man for 2 years now so he saw me at my heaviest and I've been wearing the XL work polos the whole time. He has commented on my weight-loss before saying I look like 'half the person I used to be' and other always seemingly nice things.

I work with this guy for 12 hours a night 3 nights a week, he always says i'm not eating enough or that I'm starving myself which is not true, i just don't order whole pizzas or chinese for 2 each night.

Today when I stood up and my jacket was snug around my waist he freaked out on me.. first I thought he was kidding because you said 'You look skinnnnnnny' I didn't say anything, I hate that word. He said, 'no seriously, you look tiny tiny, you're just bones' I laughed and said no I'm not (what else is there to say?) Things suddenly got serious, he was like laugh it off if you want to but you have problems, serious mental problems. You have body dysmorphic disorder.' I said umm, No I don't. and all he said is ' I know sick when i see it and you are SICK, you need help.'


Uhm, I'm barely in the HEATHY weight spectrium for BMI - my goal is still 24-30 pounds away..... I am not 'just bones' - saying I need help and have problems seems too far - doesn't it?

What do you say to people like that? My mother keeps telling me I'm getting too thin to, for some reason i don't think me saying, I'm not too thin you are just fat, is going to work well.

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  • Rawr1978
    Rawr1978 Posts: 245 Member
    I would say that while you definitely don't need to lose much more, if any, you dont look sick. He was being rude and ignorant.
  • Emar11
    Emar11 Posts: 246 Member
    I don't think there is much that you can say. The only thing you can do is reach your goals and be happy for YOURSELF. There is such a preoccupation with the way that people look. It doesn't matter what size you are, SOMEONE will have a problem with it. I'm on the heavier side and have a good friend who is VERY thin. She can't put on weight due to health reasons and I've seen first hand just how many people have a problem with how she looks. When you are heavy, you think the body shaming will end when you are thin, but it doesn't.

    DON'T LET IT BRING YOU DOWN!!
  • TwoPointZero
    TwoPointZero Posts: 187 Member
    I would probably tell him to mind his own damn business . . . If you really want to continue the conversation, well, that would be tough; I think that would entail a detailed discussion of nutrition and exercise, and you arguing your case . . . Good luck!
  • TwinsRaGift
    TwinsRaGift Posts: 37 Member
    Give them facts they can't argue with. Tell them what your height is and that your BMI is healthy according to your weight/height. Also...I am a mental health counselor and you can feel free to tell them I said you do NOT have a body image disorder! :-)
  • BEEUK
    BEEUK Posts: 113
    Give them facts they can't argue with. Tell them what your height is and that your BMI is healthy according to your weight/height. Also...I am a mental health counselor and you can feel free to tell them I said you do NOT have a body image disorder! :-)
    QTF

    Might be worth mentioning the fact you find his personal comments are offensive and not appropriate for work.

    I’m assuming this guy isn’t lean? It’s amazing how people try to justify their own body image issues by belittling another’s success.

    You’re doing this for you, not anyone else’s approval.

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