You're at goal weight, so whats wrong?

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  • Onesnap
    Onesnap Posts: 2,819 Member
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    When I'm stressed out, sometimes I can only see the negative--I stare at my tummy in the mirror instead of my legs, I search my skin for flaws, etc. Weightlifting really helps, and so does body weight training, because you do get this feeling of amazement as you end up achieving things you might have thought were not possible for you physically.

    I agree with the point here about body weight training (and that requires NO equipment). My best suggestion is to try power yoga. There's even DVDs you can do at home that range in cost from $5-8 or free on Netflix Instant. Body weight training is an amazing way to strength train...no special equipment or fancy gym membership needed.
  • Onesnap
    Onesnap Posts: 2,819 Member
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    One of the tricks I use to maintain my weight is to constantly be trying to lose 5 lbs. Really, I'm fine where I am, but if I try to eat at a slight deficit daily (I eat between 1800-2000 calories), then the days where I don't track or go over balance out the week.

    I've done this for years and maintain between 130-140. I'm 5'5". Although right now I'm trying to sneak down to 125. :wink:

    Great advice!
  • AJinBirmingham
    AJinBirmingham Posts: 497
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    Your issue, in your own words, is that all you see are imperfections and you can't just be happy.

    With respect, those are not simple weight management issues. They are fundamental problems with your ongoing thought processes. The good news is that you can change them.

    (Be wary of professional help - their paychecks keep coming as long as you DON'T get better - but don't discount it all together.)

    Mindfulness is a great place to start, and google is a great tool for it.

    I wish you every success.
  • LivingtheLeanDream
    LivingtheLeanDream Posts: 13,345 Member
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    One of the tricks I use to maintain my weight is to constantly be trying to lose 5 lbs. Really, I'm fine where I am, but if I try to eat at a slight deficit daily (I eat between 1800-2000 calories), then the days where I don't track or go over balance out the week.

    I've done this for years and maintain between 130-140. I'm 5'5". Although right now I'm trying to sneak down to 125. :wink:

    Great advice!

    that IS indeed GREAT advice :)
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
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    One of the tricks I use to maintain my weight is to constantly be trying to lose 5 lbs. Really, I'm fine where I am, but if I try to eat at a slight deficit daily (I eat between 1800-2000 calories), then the days where I don't track or go over balance out the week.

    I've done this for years and maintain between 130-140. I'm 5'5". Although right now I'm trying to sneak down to 125. :wink:

    I've always done this too. I know most MFP'ers don't like the word "diet" but I love it. Whenever someone asks if I'm on a diet when I pass on something or they see my healthy meals, I answer "Always". Call it a lifestyle change if you prefer, but dieting is my lifestyle. I would be obese for sure without it because I really love to eat.
  • PaulaKro
    PaulaKro Posts: 5,686 Member
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    I've been giddy with losing weight (surgery + change). Still am. But am starting to see the sag - a lot.

    Have realized even though this is healthier, and looks okay in clothes, it's not pretty in a swimsuit. Gonna keep having body image problems.

    Appreciate all the advice to remember this is still better than it was, and to use weights (in addition to cardio) to sculpt, and to keep thinking 5 more pounds (when I get there), and that happiness is not marred by imperfections alone.

    Thank you for this thread. May we all be strong. Loved your rant. Would love to hear updates. Will send you a friend request.
  • Fuamami
    Fuamami Posts: 38 Member
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    It's hard to love your body when you are a woman in this culture! I have had those same feelings for years, when I've been at goal weight or below, I still haven't been happy. My knees are too fat, my breasts have stretch marks, my waistline isn't what it once was (3 kids, 4 pregnancies here). But as I've gotten older (36) and my daughter has gotten older, I've decided I really, really want to just appreciate what I have, which is a body that is reasonably ache-free and really works quite well. And I don't want to waste any more emotional energy worrying about my vanity, I just want to feel good and my clothes to fit.:)
  • boatsie77
    boatsie77 Posts: 480 Member
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    Your issue, in your own words, is that all you see are imperfections and you can't just be happy.

    With respect, those are not simple weight management issues. They are fundamental problems with your ongoing thought processes. The good news is that you can change them.

    (Be wary of professional help - their paychecks keep coming as long as you DON'T get better - but don't discount it all together.)

    Mindfulness is a great place to start, and google is a great tool for it.

    I wish you every success.

    ^^^^^^^
    This this THIS!

    It's so sad to read so many wonderful, beautiful people are basing their self-worth on their 'body imperfections.'

    The really sad part is thanks to age & gravity the body will be surprising them with new and different imperfections daily...a new wrinkle, a bit of a sag, an age spot, several gray hairs (or no hair).

    Once I decided to love my true, real, eternal self, removing and maintaining the weight has been less of a struggle and much more joyful than the last time--when I was 'dieting' to look better.

    The book "Unteathered Soul" helped me, and continues to help me, immensely in becoming mindful and appreciative of all I have and all I am at each moment.

    "It's fine to have goals but realize that you will not be any happier when you achieve your goal than you are in this moment. The circumstances of our lives are constantly changing, and if we depend on our external circumstances to give us inner peace, joy and love, we will be prisoners to the situations, people and things that come in and out of our lives. Trying to control our external world is both, exhausting and futile."~Eckhart Tolle
  • mazdauk
    mazdauk Posts: 1,380 Member
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    And as for the swimsuit problem - having just come back from a beach holiday, if you've lost weight then really don't worry about what you look like - there are many worse sights out there!:wink:

    There are some fabulous swimsuits now with control panels, so its well worth looking around, especially larger department stores or lingerie specialists.:smile:
  • Warchortle
    Warchortle Posts: 2,197 Member
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    I don't like the idea of having an end goal... forever cutting and forever bulking.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
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    Weight training = Better body composition = better looking body :wink:

    this!

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