Just wondering! Need some insight help!

jennipooh82

Hey everyone! I’m new here. I was wondering how someone comes to know what type of lifestyle change they need in order to have the best possible weight lost success? I have friends that are doing keto, but I’m not sure I can completely give up carbs! I know that everything is or should be in moderation, but what’s healthiest for the human body overall?!? Just wondering what people have to say or what tips you might have to help me with my weight loss journey again...
Little about me:
I’m a wife to a hard working mill man, mother of 3 girls, and a daycare teacher. My days are filled to the brim with stuff to do but not much time for working out. By the time I wake up (4:00 to send my husband of to work), get the girls ready for school, get myself ready to for work, work 8-5, drive home (30mins) cook supper, then clean up. It’s about 9:00 and I’m pooped! I do, most days, use my lunch hour to do grocery shopping. But I’m not sure how much that counts?
Help! I need and want friends that will keep me accountable and are truly concerned with my progress!
Thanks in advance!

callsitlikeiseeit

if its important to you, you do it. you find the time. the motivation comes from within.

also, you lose weight in the kitchen, not the gym. working out has other benefits.

losing weight is all about eating less, not a specific eating STYLE. its all a way to reduce your calories. ive lost 120 pounds now and i eat the same foods i always have, just a lot less of it

jdog022

How about your husband gets himself off to work and you use that time to either sleep, exercise or prepare and plan out your meals for the day.

You don’t have to do keto or give up carbs or do any fancy named diet. Just be in a slight calorie deficit.

ceiswyn

...am I seeing double?

https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10724768/need-a-little-help-advice#latest

NovusDies

My friends go through diets all the time. They herald their new diets as the best thing since sliced bread until they silently quit them and resume whatever their normal is. In a few months they will find the next new best thing.

Ignoring what your friends are doing is probably a good place to start.

You need a calorie deficit and you need to get through each day as happy as you can. Examine yourself for the answers not other people. Start as simple as you can and only add things that you need.

MelanieCN77

Consider that your whole description of yourself was a day schedule worded so that we are made to understand you don't want to work out and think you don't want to change anything material if it's all disruptive. You're coming at this already from a place of resistance. It's perfectly ok not to work out, but to lose some weight you must get your calorie intake under control and not changing anything won't do that.

I go to the store a lot so I'm hardly one to talk, but I don't think you need all your lunch breaks for groceries every day. Also does the food just sit in the car till you go home? Plan a little more and use a couple of them to take a short walk instead if you want to ease in to exercise.

As far as food goes, if you are as busy as you say and don't want to change things, take 2 hours on Sunday and prep a week of meals for yourself. There's a million blogs and videos with ideas out there.

JBanx256

So you spend a ballpark of 5 hours/week grocery shopping but you don't know where you could possibly find the time to exercise....hmmm....

FYI, I currently (on day shift right now - we rotate) get up at 2am to work out prior to working a 12+ hour shift (police officer), which doesn't include 1.5 hrs worth of commuting. I'm also a mom so have all of the duties and responsibilities and time factors that go along with that (my daughter is also active, taking karate lessons 2x per week). And I'm married, but my husband is an adult and can put on his big boy pants all by himself in the mornings. If I tried to grocery shop every day it would be a disaster. I make 1 big trip each week and then normally one stop-in-and-grab-more-bananas type of thing midweek. I meal prep for the entire week on one of my days off.

I don't mean this to sound unnecessarily harsh, but as someone else already pointed out, the entire gist of your post is, "here are my excuses as to why I simply can't get into better shape."

As far weight loss goes - you don't have to do keto. Or weight watchers. Or zone. Or paleo. Or intermittent fasting. Or boiled eggs. Or any other diet, with or without a name. You just have to eat in a caloric deficit. It doesn't to be super restrictive or any magic formula. Exercise isn't 100% necessary to achieve weight loss, but it can aid with the calorie deficit but the biggest benefits are for overall health and fitness (mental as well as physical).

Muscleflex79

what are you doing between 4am and whenever your children get up? seems like there is lots of room there to work out if you want to - that and the lunch hours. do groceries one day per week instead of five and you just saved yourselves 4 more hours to exercise. besides all that, as someone said above - you lose weight through a calorie deficit - no workouts required.

apullum

You lose weight when you consistently eat fewer calories than you burn. You do not need to do keto or any other named diet in order to lose weight.

You also aren't required to exercise in order to lose weight. You will lose as long as you're in a calorie deficit. Exercise is for other health and fitness benefits, and allows you to eat more. It is not intended to create a larger calorie deficit.

If you want time to exercise, I'd recommend doing all your grocery shopping once a week so you can use your lunch hours for other things. I'd also recommend that assuming your husband does not need help with bathing, dressing, and/or feeding himself, he can get himself off to work.

callsitlikeiseeit

as myself and others have pointed out, you find the time if its important to you. if seeing how others do it helps you, ill toss in my schedule

4-5 get up, coffee. im not a morning person. i need TIME to wake up and become a reasonable human being.
son gets up at 6 (sometimes earlier) and if he wants to eat he knows where the kitchen is. none of us are breakfast people.
6:15 make hubbys lunch (son usually gets it at school)
6:30 hubby leaves
6:45 gym (if im going, sometimes i do, sometimes i dont)
7:20 son gets picked up for school (yes, after ive left for the gym)
8 gym over, run to store for 'fill in items' i may need, or go straight home. home, toss dinner in crockpot, go to work
9-5:30 work (this schedule can change, but for the past month and hopefully going forward it is this shift but i can work as late as 9:30pm- though rare)
6 dinner
8 bed

i get 2 days off a week, but they vary on what they are. sometimes its 2 days in a row, sometimes its 2 random days. usually when i have 2 days off in a row, i use one to shop, run errands and prep freeze ahead meals for a few weeks. combination of crock pot and casserole type things. many of them are already in my recipe builder, but if not, i enter them in. this way at night, all i have to worry about are the sides- which are easy. i use the other day for cleaning stuff that needs to be done that neither hubby nor myself had time or energy to get to during the rest of the week. when my days off are random, and not together, one is for errands/food prep the other for cleaning. today is my day off and i did gym, grocery store, a few other errands, and will be cleaning all day (house is a mess, hubby removed a wall this weekend and the house is a disaster, even with him cleaning up his wall mess LOL

my son is 12 and i have raised him to be pretty self sufficient. he does his own laundry, if he wants to take his lunch, he makes it, and he does chores (dishwasher, feeding animals, whatever i ask him to do).

a bought a roomba and its almost as good as having a maid - you have NO idea how much time i spent sweeping our hardwood floors with 3 dogs. SO worth the $$$. this has been a HUGE timesaver for me. if you cant afford one outright, QVC has them available on payments.

I am very much a traditional wife in that dinner is ready and waiting when my husband gets home. i make his lunches, as i said, and even run his bath for him in the evenings. yes, hes spoiled and knows it, but he also doesnt care if i DONT do these things, and if im working on weekends (as i was all this past weekend), he cleans and cooks dinner and does all the stuff i normally do and god love him, fixes ME a bath for when i get off work (yeah we spoil each other, its disgusting lol). if my son is at an activity or friends house, my husband will pick him up on his way home so i dont have to worry about it (hubby is not my sons father- his father passed away several years ago)

so.... you can do all the mom and wife things and work and still lose weight. ive lost a total of 130 at this point, with 10 being recently (i maintained the 120 loss for 3 years).

you find time if you want to. you make it a priority.

zeejane03

Weight loss comes down to being at the correct calorie deficit for your weight loss goals. No specific plan, exercise, or special food lists needed. Just start eating less calories (smaller portion sizes, switching out higher calorie foods for lower ones etc).

Running2Fit

Lifestyle changes are hard. You’ll never be able to overhaul everything overnight so start by making 1 small change - I would suggest that you start logging all your food. Weight loss really just comes down to how much you eat. Exercise is important for health but you don’t have to exercise to lose weight so always start with your diet.

39flavours

Why don't you do your grocery shopping online to save time? Or don't you have that in the states? (I'm assuming you're American, sorry if I'm wrong)

kimny72

jennipooh82 wrote: »

Hey everyone! I’m new here. I was wondering how someone comes to know what type of lifestyle change they need in order to have the best possible weight lost success? I have friends that are doing keto, but I’m not sure I can completely give up carbs! I know that everything is or should be in moderation, but what’s healthiest for the human body overall?!? Just wondering what people have to say or what tips you might have to help me with my weight loss journey again...
Little about me:
I’m a wife to a hard working mill man, mother of 3 girls, and a daycare teacher. My days are filled to the brim with stuff to do but not much time for working out. By the time I wake up (4:00 to send my husband of to work), get the girls ready for school, get myself ready to for work, work 8-5, drive home (30mins) cook supper, then clean up. It’s about 9:00 and I’m pooped! I do, most days, use my lunch hour to do grocery shopping. But I’m not sure how much that counts?
Help! I need and want friends that will keep me accountable and are truly concerned with my progress!
Thanks in advance!

So all you need to lose weight is a calorie deficit. Start by just logging what you're currently eating, accurately and consistently, for at least a week. Then look back at those days - where did you waste calories? What foods filled you up and fit in your calorie goal well? What meals are the hardest for you to make smart decisions? Then plan your new healthy habits, one at a time, from there.

And check out these threads when you get a chance:

https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1080242/a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants/p1

https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1234699/logging-accurately-step-by-step-guide/p1

Welcome and good luck!

jdog022

“New here“ but joined 2011 with 209 posts? And a replica of another post by another user. Some odd things going on here

MelanieCN77

jdog022 wrote: »

“New here“ but joined 2011 with 209 posts? And a replica of another post by another user. Some odd things going on here

Troll who forgot to switch accounts?