Quite a dilemma

Just_Mel_

No offense but I'd never hire you as a P.I.

Bucknutz247

Thanks for everyone’s input

cee134

Bucknutz247 wrote: »

I was contemplating a careers change at one point. But sometimes you have to stay where the $ is.

I defiantly understand that. So did you get into car sales after switching and then decided you needed another switch or were you in it for a long time and said I need something different?

I am also thinking of changing my career so any advice is appreciated. PI work sounds cool. Do you like it when you do it? How many jobs have you gotten to do? Is this the craziest thing that has happened or have there been other good ones like what happened here?

Mean_Spice

I am thinking about changing my career path.....................retiring in 2 months :-)

InsertFunnyUsernameHere

CoffeeAndContour wrote: »

You mind your own business, unless you want to be responsible for tearing apart two families.

Really? The adulterers have no responsibility?? The neighbor woman is already getting divorced anyway.

This is a simple one because he's actually a PI asked to look into it. He tells the friend, but withholds information on the neighbor woman's identity and tells his friend that it's an acquaintance of his and therefore a conflict for him to disclose her information. That should be enough for the woman who suspects her husband of cheating.

JeromeBarry1

Is a NY PI license a professional license, in the sense of binding you to professional standards of propinquity and rectitude?

Mean_Spice

JeromeBarry1 wrote: »

Is a NY PI license a professional license, in the sense of binding you to professional standards of propinquity and rectitude?

Good question!

Mean_Spice

It is a professional license. Basically says you cannot do PI work for compensation without the PI license. IF he has not received any compensation, he does not have to release the information. That would be the road I would take.

NY PI Statue:
"§70. Private Investigator license
1. The Department of State shall have the power to issue licenses to private investigators. Nothing in this article shall prevent a private investigator licensed hereunder from performing the services of a watch, guard or patrol agency or bail enforcement agents as defined herein; however, a watch, guard or patrol agency or bail enforcement agents may not perform the services of a private investigator as defined herein.
2. No person, firm, company, partnership, limited liability company or corporation shall engage in the business of private investigator, or advertise his, their or its business to be that of private investigator, notwithstanding the name or title used in describing such agency or notwithstanding the fact that other functions and services may also be performed for fee, hire or reward, without having first obtained from the Department of State a license so to do, as hereinafter provided, for each bureau, agency, sub-agency, office and branch office to be owned, conducted, managed or maintained by such person, firm, company, partnership, limited liability company or corporation for the conduct of such business.
3. No person, firm, company, partnership, limited liability company or corporation shall engage in the business of furnishing or supplying for fee, hire or any consideration or reward information as to the personal character or activities of any person, firm, company, or corporation, society or association, or any person or group of persons, or as to the character or kind of the business and occupation of any person, firm, company or corporation, or own or conduct or maintain a bureau or agency for the above mentioned purposes, except exclusively as to the financial rating, standing, and credit responsibility of persons, firms, companies or corporations, or as to the personal habits and financial responsibility of applicants for insurance, indemnity bonds or commercial credit or of claimants under insurance policies, provided the business so exempted does not embrace other activities as described in §71 of this article, or except where such information is furnished or supplied by persons licensed under the provisions of §24-a or subdivision 3-b of §50 of the Workers’ Compensation Law or representing employers or groups of employers insured under the Workers’ Compensation Law in the State Insurance Fund, without having first obtained from the Department of State, as hereafter provided, a license so to do as private investigator for each such bureau or agency and for each and every sub-agency, office and branch office to be owned, conducted, managed or maintained by such persons, firm, limited liability company, partnership or corporation for the conduct of such business. Nothing contained in this section shall be deemed to include the business of adjusters for insurance companies, nor public adjusters licensed by the superintendent of insurance under the Insurance Law of this state.
4. Any person, firm, company, partnership or corporation who violates any provision of this section shall be guilty of a class B misdemeanor."

doingthisforme16

CoffeeAndContour wrote: »

You mind your own business, unless you want to be responsible for tearing apart two families.

This.

nooshi713

She wants to know what you found or she wouldnt have asked for help. Be honest about what you found.

AllOutof_Bubblegum

CoffeeAndContour wrote: »

You mind your own business, unless you want to be responsible for tearing apart two families.

"Responsible for tearing apart two families"? What about the two people who...i dunno ACTUALLY tore two families apart? Are you familiar with the term "don't shoot the messenger"? Are you familiar with accountability at all, for that matter? Is that the same thought process you'd use if it were your own husband cheating on you? This line of thinking is downright horrifying.

kam26001

I have a job for you.

It involves a hamster, a loaded shotgun, and a half empty tube of cookie dough.

Can you handle the case?

CoffeeAndContour

AllOutof_Bubblegum wrote: »

CoffeeAndContour wrote: »

You mind your own business, unless you want to be responsible for tearing apart two families.

"Responsible for tearing apart two families"? What about the two people who...i dunno ACTUALLY tore two families apart? Are you familiar with the term "don't shoot the messenger"? Are you familiar with accountability at all, for that matter? Is that the same thought process you'd use if it were your own husband cheating on you? This line of thinking is downright horrifying.

You’re quite affronted over MY opinion that wasn’t in response to you. You are still entitled to have your own, I won’t care. If you go back and re-read what I have wrote you will see that no where did I say that they shouldn’t take accountability, nor did I say their behaviour was okay. I simply said, mind your own business UNLESS you are okay with the repercussions. And I still stand by what I said. If it doesn’t effect you, if it doesn’t have anything to do with you, if you don’t know the entire situation, then mind your own. And to answer your asinine question, no, this wouldn’t be the same thought process I would have if my husband were cheating on me. I wouldn’t hire a PI, my belief that he is capable of cheating on me says enough about where our relationship stands.

pudgy1977

Bucknutz247 wrote: »

Thanks for everyone’s input

Sounds like a position I would not like to be in. But that being said, I think I would just say to your friend that you have no solid information, but to trust their heart. You know how to be a good man. Just do that