Thoughts?

JuliaJitterbug

I would like to see others thoughts on this article.

https://fatgirlshiking.com/2019/02/01/weight-loss-comparison-photos-hurt-your-fat-friends/

JuliaJitterbug

My thought, being fat shamed my whole life by people close to me, total strangers walking down a street. Never once did I feel the need to loose weight because someone else said I should. That is something that I needed to want to do. This article is telling me I have to worry about someone else getting offended because I want to get healthy. You can bet your A** I will be proud of it and share it when I feel like it. If I post a side by side I am not telling another person they don't matter. I am telling myself I do. My happiness, my success, my journey even if posted publicly, is still mine. I may let you watch it, I may talk to you about it, but what I do still only affects me. If I lost friends while losing weight then they didn't care for me to begin with. "Oh you're happy that's great, but im not, so I want you to be unhappy with yourself too." I will not let people try to lower me because they can't raise themselves.

L1zardQueen

I could only finish half of the posted link, it is not worth finishing. Do your side by side and post it everywhere. Be proud.

tcunbeliever

"Any time you body shame yourself, post a weight loss “success” photo or talk about the diet you’re on to lose weight, you tell a fat person exactly what you think of them: they are unworthy of happiness as they are, they are less than, they should also change their body to fit cultural body standards."

It's contradictory, right? You want everyone to be ok with you being whatever size you are, but you don't want to be ok with whatever size other people are...you just want them to shut-up about it if they aren't fat...you don't want people to stop having a cultural body standard, you just want that body standard to be changed to what you are instead of what it is now, but you totally want to continue reinforcing a cultural body standard because everyone who isn't fat needs to be quiet about their life choice to be healthy.

kimny72

That's like saying if I dye my hair pink and post a before and after showing how much better I look with pink hair, that is really me telling all brunettes that they are inferior and need to improve themselves by dying their hair

OP, be proud, and if someone feels diminished by your success, tell them once that your posts are just about your journey, not a judgement of anyone else's. If they storm off, so be it.

rv1234567

I am not sure I like that article, but I do feel like "diet culture" is a problem. We have waaayy better things to talk about, to think about, to post about than just our diet and weight loss attempts. I know a few perfectly healthy ladies that can't go a week without posting about their diet/desires to lose weight or whatever. They talk about it at parties, at the pool with the kids, etc. It's too much, too big a part of our lives.

Does this mean we can't try to improve ourselves? Of course not. But there's a fine line. I want to be healthy and yes, even look better. But I don't want to contribute to this diet culture. So I don't talk about it. I don't obsess about it. I don't post about it on Facebook. I have a specific Instagram account where I post fitness things but not "weight loss" things.

So yeah, this is definitely a tricky subject. You are definitely okay posting before and after pictures here. On Facebook where every one can see them? Maybe not.