Help please

maggiepie0000

I have not been on here for a while but I've put on the weight I've lost and I cannot find my motivation. No motivation to eat healthy or exercise. I've tried diets, I've tried no diet, I've tried all exercises and the only one I like is weight lifting but event then I have a hard time being encouraged to go. I use to have so much motivation, so much so that I lost 50 pounds! But once I hit my goal I think I just figured I was good and could stop (which was a horrible mind set, I know). So now I'm back where I was and feel so low, disgusting and disappointed in myself. I try not to be hard on myself and just shake it off and get back at it, but even then that motivation only lasts a few hours. I am at a loss for what to do. It's like I just don't care anymore and accept that i'll feel like this forever and hate myself. (i also need to work on a little self-love, I know). If anyone out there has been through the same and somehow managed to get over it, or if you have any tips at all as to what I can do to get back on the horse, please let me know!!
Thanks

quiksylver296

What is one small thing you CAN commit to today?

Can you log all your food (not change what you are eating, just log it)? Or can you replace one soda per day with water? Or commit to one 10 minute walk per day?

Pick one small thing and do that. Once that is firmly established as a habit, then change another small thing. Rinse and repeat.

elisa123gal

It is scary when you can't find a desire to do something you know you should want to do. I totally understand..and Not like you're depressed.. but almost like an absence of passion for anything, and something you used to care about.

Try to get out of your head and ignore how you feel and try to figure out what could be causing your low motivation. Has anything in your life changed? Are you eating different foods? Foods can impact your energy and feelings. You may want to start with just great nutrition to kick start wellness..then follow with workouts when you have more desire. You could also just start walking..something easy just to get going. Also, are you taking any new supplants or medications? those can cause changes too.

I truly feel you can figure this out and get back to the old you. You may just want to copy what you ate back when you were motivated and also do the same fitness routine to see if that works.

88olds

I didn’t decide l loved my 285 lb self. But I did decide I was entitled to basic human respect. But I also saw that it was going to have to start with me. We only get one life. If you are going to set out to change yours, start by respecting your own decision.
You don’t need to get to some distant goal for that, its the thing you can change right now- change your mind.

A sign at the gym-
I’m working
On myself
By myself
For myself.

Do you think basic respect is just for thin people? No, of course not. So that includes you. Its not written anywhere that you have to lose weight. But if you are unhappy with how things are going, you have a right to change it. Its your life, you get to decide. But to respect yourself, you have to back your own decisions with action.

Forget diets. If you have to lose more than a few lbs, they don’t work. Try weight loss. Weight loss is a set of things to do. Calculate a modest calorie deficit, no more than 1 lb per week. Maybe .5. That voice in your head telling you that it will take too long, that’s the first thing that needs to go. Tell that voice to shut up. Plan a menu, start a food diary and try to hit your number. But this- when you go over your number you keep your food diary going. Your diary is weight loss priority number 1. Always keep your diary. Over your number? Keep logging. Wildly over your number? Log that too. When you find you don’t like recording days when you go over, maybe you will try to plan better to avoid them. This is weight loss- planning and problem solving over and over. Figure out how you’re going to cope when discouraged. Try to establish good routines and habits. You can rely on them when you are feeling down.

This time when you get to goal change nothing. Keep your diary going. If at some point in the process you find yourself unhappy with how you are living, problem solve to make that better. Successful weight loss needs 2 things- a long term downward trend and the ability to live with it. That’s 2 things, you need them both. And no, its not about how much suffering you can take. Who wants that? Its about how well you problem solve to find solutions that you find acceptable. Problem solving is a skill set. You’ll get better at it as you go.

You’ll feel a lot better when you see that you can control the process. Set up official weekly weigh ins. If you can’t stay off of the scale that’s ok. But only your official WI really counts. Every .2 loss is a step in the right direction. Always keep your eye on the long term and never rap your own success. You won’t lose every WI, no human project goes on a straight line. And some of the losses will seem small, but every day you hit your calorie number and every single loss is hard evidence that you are working on your own behalf. Always give yourself credit when its due. Beware your own brain, it will try to talk you out of all of this. It will tell you its not working when it is or that you aren’t up to it when you are. I don’t know why our brains work like that, they just do. Push back against negativity. Its just noise.

Weight loss is all doable. You can do it.