Side by side photos hurt your fat friends?

dsboohead

ccrdragon wrote: »

Tsartele wrote: »

Have we seriously become that weak as people ?? Sad.. just sad.

The problem of an entire generation raised on the 'participation trophy' mentality...

Thats right "everyone" gets a sticker or trophy...just for showing up.......
Sheesh!

The reality of life is there are winners and losers. What have we done as a society!??

seltzermint555

whatalazyidiot wrote: »

seltzermint555 wrote: »

Interesting. I have lost (and maintained) a major loss (over 130 lb) and have only shared side by side on social media one time. I took it down after only one day because several people were messaging me things like workout tips and it deeply hurt my feelings. I wasn't asking for their critical feedback, I was celebrating my progress. I chalked that up to me being overly sensitive and didn't do that again.

When I was at my heaviest though (over 300 lb), others' side by side photos were interesting and inspiring to me, not offensive.

However, I did have VERY strong feelings about workplace contests regarding weight loss (the "Biggest Loser" type). I think they are extremely inappropriate and invade employees' privacy. I also think even for those who opt out and do not participate, it creates a terrible atmosphere for anyone who is even slightly overweight and/or uncomfortable with their body for any reason. I really think it's a poor choice for almost any employer to do such a thing. I still feel the same way now as a person who has successfully lost a lot. It's just not appropriate for the workplace!

That's kind of what I'm personally afraid of, and why I refuse to tell anyone on social media that I am losing weight. I will also never post a progress picture (on social media). I will post selfies and if people notice, ok cool, but not making it a thing. I don't need people's constant comments and suggestions.

But to the OP, I have never been offended by someone else's progress or success. I also haven't seen it personally from any of my friends who post that sort of thing. The ONLY thing even remotely close I have personally seen is one person who is very anti-diet who will unfollow/unfriend anyone that talks about their diet/weight loss openly.

I'll definitely admit (long ago and even recently) to unfollowing anyone who posts frequently on sites other than MFP about their diet/weight loss. Especially if it's a person who posts photos of everything they eat and near-daily updates about their weight or exercise. I wouldn't unfriend for that reason alone, but I will unfollow.

The italicized is exactly how I've handled my loss and maintenance, aside from that one time side-by-side post. I figure if someone notices, great, but I am not going to point it out. One thing that I find kind of funny is how often I am out with friends and we'll run into someone that we haven't seen in a few years and they comment on my weight loss with shock. Meanwhile a lot of other people like to keep their entire social network updated on their exact pounds & inches lost so there are not a lot of surprises, I guess!

jesspen91

From the article:

For the record, I don’t personally want to lose weight and I don’t care if you do.

Hmm I think the tone of this article disputes that. If you were truly happy with your size why would seeing other people's weight loss matter to you?

Bgreen2019

hesn92 wrote: »

I didn't get very far into the article because it was one of the dumbest things I have ever read. It's just insane to me. There are a variety of reasons as to why being overweight or obese is damaging to your health. If someone is fat and wants to remain fat, then by all means, that is their decision and I have no issues with that. It's not much different than someone smoking cigarettes and not wanting to quit. Has no affect on my life whatsoever. But the rest of us are not going to hide our accomplishments to protect their feelings. The author of this article needs to grow up.

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