Weekend struggles

JesusFaithHopeLove

I would like to know if anyone can give me any suggestions on how to keep myself on track on the weekends when my husband is not watching what he eats.
I do great during the week when I only have myself to worry about. Then it comes the weekend and we eat together. I end up not eating so healthy and the weight I lost during the week I just put back on over the weekend and have to start all over again.
Any suggestions would be welcome.

mcemino2

I am in a similar situation. My wife works 2nd shift, so we really don't see each other until the weekend. She does not eat a lot, but likes to eat foods I wouldn't normally eat. We eat out at least once over the weekend. Once I start eating I can't seem to stop. The only advice I have is just try to stick to your goals, log everything and try to stay as active as possible. Good luck!

TavistockToad

cheryl_bish wrote: »

I would like to know if anyone can give me any suggestions on how to keep myself on track on the weekends when my husband is not watching what he eats.
I do great during the week when I only have myself to worry about. Then it comes the weekend and we eat together. I end up not eating so healthy and the weight I lost during the week I just put back on over the weekend and have to start all over again.
Any suggestions would be welcome.

do you actually gain fat (by eating 3500 calories OVER maintenance) or do you eat food higher in carbs and sodium which leads to water retention?

You can still eat less 'healthy' foods and lose weight as long as you're in a deficit.

look at your weekly goal and make Friday your weigh in day would be my advice.

WanderingRivers

I am learning to replace food with unsweetened green tea so I can feel full without actually eating anything. That may be something you can do.

mmultanen

I lost 80 lbs about 10 years ago and every weekend was a "I do what I want" weekend. I share that because, you're likely not gaining the fat back, it's likely water weight. Your scale is not a reliable metric for weight loss unless you're looking at it over the long haul. The day-to-day fluctuations are normal and greatly impacted by little things.

Obviously, keep your goals in mind, and try to make the best choices for your health at all times. Track your weight on a weekly basis and look at other metrics of health like measurements.

As for your request for suggestions: Have that honest conversation with your Husband, and perhaps ask him to go for a run with you or go to the gym, or join you in a yoga class on the weekend. Even just walk the dog together. Something active that helps you keep to your goals. Perhaps another thing you can do is agree in advance what your "treats" together are going to be. A night out with friends, Dinner at a nice restaurant, a movie with snacks. etc. Plan your weekends, just as you do your week even if you are planning for a few "extra" things.

Foodforthought125

This is always a question for me too because a) men can (generally) eat more calories, b) unless the other person needs to lose weight too, they're going to eat what they want and c) food is social and I hate not being able to partake...

In my successful times, I'm able to detach "food" from "reward/pleasure". When I'm in my "good place" I eat well, enjoy a treat when it comes my way and exercise enough to feel good and keep a steady balance- and ignore what others around me are doing. When I'm in my "bad place" (some kinds of stress, too busy, just not paying attention) I make excuses to eat whatever is around, slack off from exercise that keeps me on track and generally lose focus.

Logging helps. When I'm tempted to join in the after-dinner/weekend treats, I leave for a few minutes and log onto here, spend a little time reading "success stories" and commiserating with other's struggles. It's a great support tool to keep me motivated.

Another trick- when he gets a treat or junk, I get a cup of tea, or whatever is my "go-to" to push through the "itch". When we go out, I'm less zealous and don't try to sort out the restaurant's recipe or I'd go crazy. I just avoid the obviously high calorie options and stick to simpler, cleaner options.

The thing I've finally accepted is that weight loss/maintenance isn't a "DIET" and can't be maintained as such. It needs to be my lifestyle, and with that has to allow for some give and take

Oh, and I'm mostly reminding myself- yet again! :-)