Feeling important

daneejela

I don't know about you, but I feel like being in the "important mode" is the main factor for success for me.
When I feel important I can move mountains. When I feel unimportant I can't get out of the bed.

I am not talking about "I'm important" in the going-to-manicures kind of way.
I am talking about the deep feeling that your life matters, your decisions matter, your deeds matter. Like, the universe will be a bit better or a bit worse place as a result of your living.

While I know that I am important to my loved ones, there are days when I feel detached from that feeling.
Like, whatever I do, life will just keep rolling its own way, whether I am big or small, beautiful or ugly, dirty or clean, educated or ignorant, etc.

What do you do to feel important? To feel like it matters what you do?

I do want to be a better person, but at the same time, it's like I don't know what would I do with this better person.

Do you ever feel that way?

I feel like it's something that I need to resolve to be able to lose weight and keep it off.

puffbrat

Someone posted this on Facebook yesterday, and it's something I think we all need to hear sometimes.

RAinWA

I was just reminded recently of how little things we do are sometimes so important to other people. My husband's nephew told me "all those years you sent me birthday cards even when we didn't see a lot of each other meant so much - some years those were the only acknowledgement I got of my birthday, but I could always count on you remembering."

I really think that you can never know what impact how you treat others is going to have - even just small things. Making a difference in someone's life is important, even if it's just for a minute.

Life would keep going if you weren't around, but it would be a drabber place for the people you are important to in so many large and small ways.

ladyzherra

Thanks for this post!

I can relate to what you write, and I am glad that you wrote it because not everyone would be as open about their real struggles. But I think that sharing the real struggles is where growth can happen -- or, at least, acknowledging to yourself, first (sharing can come later, for some).

You're not alone. I think that many of us wonder about our importance and hope we have some. Feeling that we do, brings a sense of purpose and so also ease and joy.

I have found that feeling important is really a state of mind -- it's a reflection only of how we feel about ourselves. So, we don't feel important because we've done something or because someone benefitted from our actions or noticed us. We feel important just because we choose to.

When I realized this -- that it's up to me and me alone to DECIDE to feel important -- then it was a game-changer. I realized something scary...that sometimes I don't want to feel important and so I don't. Why would I desire to feel badly?

Partly, this is because I do not always feel deserving of feeling good, important. So, work on these things. Discover what can make you decide to see yourself in a negative way.

Easier said than done, of course, but a process that is worthwhile, nonetheless.

Jenn

RelCanonical

I remind myself that my cat only has me and I am her world.