How to deal with jealous women?

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  • Mcmilligen
    Mcmilligen Posts: 332 Member
    I am one of those women. And I really, really hate that I am! I have been on both sides, and so now I bite my tongue when I am around women who have transformed in to a sexier, healthier version of themselves. I would never say something like "You're skin and bones!", unless they actually were. And believe me, when women around you are saying those things- they are comparing themselves to you and think you are now much more attractive than they are. Thus, the incredibly toxic feeling of jealousy takes over.

    For me, it's usually only that unbearable if it has happened to someone I am close to. For example, my sister. She has never had any issue losing weight- but has always had a thicker curvy body (in a very very nice way). Well this summer, she's been working out like nuts. So now, she has what I would consider the perfect body. It was SO hard for me not to feel bitter and angry at her, and I couldn't get over it. I never said anything about her appearance, but man I was boiling up inside. It's not a pretty attribute, I know. I'm still working on controlling it.

    I guess I am saying- they're just insecure. They crave the attention you're getting, and wish they could look as good as you look. Maybe if you see that they're wearing a nice shirt or did their hair nice one day- let them know. It may keep the jealousy monster at bay ;)
  • Jenn_Lyn1102
    Jenn_Lyn1102 Posts: 219 Member
    You don't deal with them girl you just ignore them! That is SUCH a back handed compliment! I don't know what you looked like before, but you look amazing today! And if that's how you feel then that is ALL that matters. Next time say - jealousy is a sickness, so from me to you... get well soon! :tongue:
  • BurningAway
    BurningAway Posts: 279
    Over the last 6 months I've lost a lot of weight, and am now a healthy BMI and feel so much better! The vast majority of people are so supportive and happy for me, and say I look fantastic and that I'm an inspiration. However lately I've also had some rather nasty comments from some women I work with (people I don't even know that well!), saying things like "I'm fading away", "I'm wasting away" and "Don't become anorexic/bulimic" etc.

    How do you deal with women like this? It's never men that say nasty things it's only the women. I never know how to reply if someone says "I'm wasting away", because I am clearly not. Advice much appreciated!

    This is crazy i just had my sister tell me im anorexic im not even close to being anorexic but women are so spiteful and vindictive. They can not stand to see someone else becoming more attractive or more healthy or anything that makes them look at themselves and compare truly. The best response is to smile and say "Thankyou for your concern, however im very healthy and i assure you i will not be wasting away nor will i have an eating disorder anytime soon." Then just walk away kindness is always the best way to respond to negativity for it doesnt feed into the reaction they were very much hoping to get.
  • Healingnutritionsolutions
    Healingnutritionsolutions Posts: 134 Member
    I've lost 39 lbs and mostly women at work make comments but a few men do also. I can usually shut them up by saying, "You're just used to seeing me fat." But if they go on, I say things like: 1. Have you seen how much food I bring to work? It takes me 30 minutes every night to cut up my fruits and veggies. 2. According to my BMI - I am a healthy weight.

    ^^^this is perfect... You are also very pretty - which can make a lot of women feel suddenly insecure. They are also not willing to do whatever you are doing to get you there. So unless you are truly underweight, ignore them. Women are catty... men tend to be much more admirable, and most aren't brave enough to "go there"... unless they are close to you, know you well, or are seriously concerned - and then you should probably listen a minute and do a brief evaluation. Your tracker will tell the tale.
  • Healingnutritionsolutions
    Healingnutritionsolutions Posts: 134 Member
    You don't deal with them girl you just ignore them! That is SUCH a back handed compliment! I don't know what you looked like before, but you look amazing today! And if that's how you feel then that is ALL that matters. Next time say - jealousy is a sickness, so from me to you... get well soon! :tongue:

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  • divacowgirl
    divacowgirl Posts: 54
    It justifies their own weight. If you are so thin you are 'wasting away', then they must be the perfect size.
    I just change the subject towards them, everyone loves to talk about themselves...they will love you if you listen to their boring stories!

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