Sex after massive weight loss

MariaNefeli91

Hello to all,

I was overweight since my childhood. In the beginning it was like 10 kg more than "the normal". At some point I found my self getting emotionally attached to food, so food was there when I was nervous, when I was sad, and like that even today it covers my emotional gaps pretty often.

Having some struggling through out my studies, at some point while at the university I was 134 kg (1.73 cm height). I always felt bad about my weight but it was a vicious circle. It wasn't the first time I tried to lose weight, I was like a lift for my whole time, getting and losing weight. Thought at 134 kg I was struggling to walk without being exhausted, my social life had disappeared and I was feeling like I don't deserve as a person due to those kilos.

Anyway after many stories like a bladder removal which forced me to give up fat food for some months, I lost 50 kg in total. Now I have gained back 8 but I want to lose them again and lose another 10 and maybe after that I will ok.

The thing is I see that even though when I was 83kg/1.73cm, I wasn't slim but with clothes I had a lot of self confidence, I started having a proper sexual life and stuff like that, but under clothes I was as many of you have probably experienced struggling with fat excess. I had some long term relationships and I think that they weren't affected by that, but on the other hand I had to hide part of my body during sex, by wearing skirts and I always thought its a big problem and still is.

whats your opinions?

quiksylver296

Opinion on what, exactly?

Having sex?

ghudson92

I'm not too sure what it is you're asking here. Do you want advice on how to be more sexually confident?

TravisJHunt

I agree with the above I'm not sure what you are asking. If your'e worried what guys think, don't spend too much time on it. Men just enjoy it and will be happy you're indulging them! You'd also be surprised how many men prefer some extra meat on the bones. Aside for that, its a good thing to have lots of! Studies have shown its a great stress reliever and those who do it more frequently are more likely to live longer and be happier!

snd4000

I can relate... after loosing almost 100lbs, i had a small apron of skin when I sat up. If it really bothers you, try different ways of sitting, laying etc. that smooth out what you want to hide.

JaydedMiss

i mean i dont get the question but i can 100% relate to feeling the need to cover up a bit. Im terrified of certain positions that put my loose skin/excess chub on display. Doesnt feel sexy and its hard to enjoy anything when just thinking of things flopping. I try just to remind myself any man whose going to judge my weight loss battle scars isnt worth my time anyway, And overall no one judges my body even a small % of what i judge in my own. Sex is meant to be fun and pleasurable. Just try to focus on that. Id rather have a partner thats able to be relax and be good and have fun thn someone super shy and more focused on hiding themselves not enjoying themselves. So i try to not be that person.

ima just add even if it may not be fully related: When im eating well i feel in control. When i take a little extra time in my morning to look nice i feel confident. When i exercise i feel strong and sexy. I recently put back on 25 pounds of my 110, At this weight on the way down i felt like superwoman. At this weight on the way up i feel ugly and ashamed. Overall YOUR mindset is the issue not anyone elses. Do what you can to be happy with yourself and the confidence will come