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Jadu786
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I hate it when people make negative comments for no reason! Like my aunt was telling my mom and dad I have gained weight since the last time she saw me.. I haven’t and I’m in much better shape then any or her kids .. so she should not talk ..
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The nice part is that your aunt told your parents that now you've maintained a healthy weight for some time, she's got it in her head that you're actually healthier!
Oh, and that you've got aunts and parents. I don't.21 -
Drop that mother *kitten*.8
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Yup. My husband has a friend whose wife has no filter.
Example 1 - she saw H's sister at an event after not seeing her for a few years and said "looks like you gained some weight, but you carry it well"
Example 2 - she was telling me about how hard it is just to walk because she is carrying extra weight, looked me up and down and said "but I guess you are use to it"
Yeah, those are just 2 examples of many. I avoid this woman at all costs.13 -
I hate it when people make negative comments for no reason! Like my aunt was telling my mom and dad I have gained weight since the last time she saw me.. I haven’t and I’m in much better shape then any or her kids .. so she should not talk ..
It helps to remember that this says loads about *them* and nothing about *you*. It's pretty common that a person learns to tear down another person to make themselves feel better (temporarily).7 -
Some people will always been like that. If you lose weight, then to them you'd be "too skinny" and have an eating disorder. Some people just like to talk. It can only affect you as much as you let it. Focus on your journey and progress for yourself, and don't worry about what anyone else thinks of it.6
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I hate it when people make negative comments for no reason! Like my aunt was telling my mom and dad I have gained weight since the last time she saw me.. I haven’t and I’m in much better shape then any or her kids .. so she should not talk ..
When you bring her kids into this aren't you being just as bad?16 -
WholeFoods4Lyfe wrote: »Yup. My husband has a friend whose wife has no filter.
Example 1 - she saw H's sister at an event after not seeing her for a few years and said "looks like you gained some weight, but you carry it well"
Example 2 - she was telling me about how hard it is just to walk because she is carrying extra weight, looked me up and down and said "but I guess you are use to it"
Yeah, those are just 2 examples of many. I avoid this woman at all costs.
Sorry I laughed, especially at the second one.2 -
WholeFoods4Lyfe wrote: »Yup. My husband has a friend whose wife has no filter.
Example 1 - she saw H's sister at an event after not seeing her for a few years and said "looks like you gained some weight, but you carry it well"
Example 2 - she was telling me about how hard it is just to walk because she is carrying extra weight, looked me up and down and said "but I guess you are use to it"
Yeah, those are just 2 examples of many. I avoid this woman at all costs.
Sorry I laughed, especially at the second one.
How to respond that one: “Yes, I carry all my extra weight right here, on my middle finger. See?”24 -
Some people only feel better when they put others down. Older generations in some cultures it's common to comment on younger peoples' bodies. It doesn't excuse them, but a well placed, "Please don't comment on my body," with an optional, "That's very rude," usually does the trick.4
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I do the old Blank Stare and maybe a "well that was rude" and then walk away.4
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My dad used to do that. I finally looked at him once and said "That was hurtful." He looked genuinely surprised and hasn't commented on my body since.10
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Just remember, misery loves company. For some, any dig they can throw at you to knock you down is how they bring you down to their miserable level.5
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WholeFoods4Lyfe wrote: »Yup. My husband has a friend whose wife has no filter.
Example 1 - she saw H's sister at an event after not seeing her for a few years and said "looks like you gained some weight, but you carry it well"
Example 2 - she was telling me about how hard it is just to walk because she is carrying extra weight, looked me up and down and said "but I guess you are use to it"
Yeah, those are just 2 examples of many. I avoid this woman at all costs.
Sorry I laughed, especially at the second one.
Oh, it's definitely funny in hindsight. Especially while we sat next to each other and she put away the nachos and the ice cream and I ate nothing because I was fasting. I've lost 50+lbs, let's just say, she hasn't
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WholeFoods4Lyfe wrote: »Yup. My husband has a friend whose wife has no filter.
Example 1 - she saw H's sister at an event after not seeing her for a few years and said "looks like you gained some weight, but you carry it well"
Example 2 - she was telling me about how hard it is just to walk because she is carrying extra weight, looked me up and down and said "but I guess you are use to it"
Yeah, those are just 2 examples of many. I avoid this woman at all costs.
Sorry I laughed, especially at the second one.
How to respond that one: “Yes, I carry all my extra weight right here, on my middle finger. See?”
I love this!!!
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I hate it when people make negative comments for no reason! Like my aunt was telling my mom and dad I have gained weight since the last time she saw me.. I haven’t and I’m in much better shape then any or her kids .. so she should not talk ..
When you bring her kids into this aren't you being just as bad?
She didn't say anything to the kids or to their mother (about the kids). Why does it matter if she mentions them here?10 -
I hate it when people make negative comments for no reason! Like my aunt was telling my mom and dad I have gained weight since the last time she saw me.. I haven’t and I’m in much better shape then any or her kids .. so she should not talk ..
And what was your response to your mom and dad and how did you discuss your aunt's comment??? Some people are rude and mouthy, no doubt she has always been this way and don't let yourself get drawn in or offended. Ignore it, this is your life and journey, be the bigger person and brush it off.0 -
I hate it when people make negative comments for no reason! Like my aunt was telling my mom and dad I have gained weight since the last time she saw me.. I haven’t and I’m in much better shape then any or her kids .. so she should not talk ..
When you bring her kids into this aren't you being just as bad?
She didn't say anything to the kids or to their mother (about the kids). Why does it matter if she mentions them here?
The thread title is "negative comments". Is a negative comment any less negative because the person you are referring to does not hear it? Was it necessary to mention the kids at all? Nope.13 -
OP, keep your chin up. It sucks to be on the receiving end of rudeness and (with some exceptions) this thread is a safe place to vent your hurt. The mean comments people hurl your way say everything about them and nothing about you.2
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OP, keep your chin up. It sucks to be on the receiving end of rudeness and (with some exceptions) this thread is a safe place to vent your hurt. The mean comments people hurl your way say everything about them and nothing about you.
I suppose the unsafeness is me. lol. I call it like I see it. If you want to stop the chain of negativity you start with yourself. I can pretty much guarantee you that the Aunt and the kids receive their share of negative comments too. It wouldn't be a big shock if something the OP said previously got back to them.
If it had not been for the kids comment I would have given similar advice that @MikePTY gave which is to stop letting others having power over you with their words. It is not always easy but it is empowering.10 -
My mother taught if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing, although sometimes that is easier said than done--what I did learn the best was to think before I speak. Weight loss is also about your physical and emotional health, so while shedding those pounds, work to toughen your emotions and become a stronger and bigger person than those who don't think before they speak.2
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