Infant loss/ emotional eater

missionaryjen
missionaryjen Posts: 4 Member
in Motivation and Support
I recently lost a baby and found comfort in food. We were told to wait a year to a year and a half before trying again. We are at the ten months mark and I want to take better care of myself. I need all the extra help and love I can get.

Replies

  • cmsavells
    cmsavells Posts: 257 Member
    I’m so sorry for your loss. I experienced two very early miscarriages on top of dealing with infertility. I chose to build my family by adoption. I turned to food too. I can do understand wanting to make healthy food choices as you prepare to try again.
  • brittanystebbins95
    brittanystebbins95 Posts: 567 Member
    I'm so sorry, dear ♥♥
    I've never lost a baby, nor even had one, so I can only imagine how devastating that must be for you. I know words do nothing for grief, only time can help, but still...my heart goes out to you.
    As for finding comfort in food... try and find a hobby. Or pick up an old hobby.
    Maybe its painting, drawing, coloring even...maybe its reading, volunteering at an animal shelter, photography, hiking, running. Being outdoors can be very therapeutic and good for the mind as well as the body. Find something that gives you purpose and set yourself some attainable goals that have nothing to do with weightloss or babies. Find anything that is enjoyable and makes your soul feel alive and chase it. It will make you feel more connected to yourself.
  • missionaryjen
    missionaryjen Posts: 4 Member
    missyjg99 wrote: »
    This breaks my heart! Fly high little angel. Its a club that i wish didnt exist. I lost my baby boy in 5/24/06, so i can relate somewhat.
    Its a rough road but give yourself the time you need. Grief still hits me out of the blue and my comfort is also food. But ive realized over time, that i feel better and i dont need to feel bad purely out of guilt and soul crushing sadness.
    Whats your angels name? I plant trees in remembrance of lost babies and i will plant one for your lil darling. Huge hugs to you and your family, holidays are hard. Please be sure to give yourself time. 😘

    Her name is Annsleigh Kae Higgins. She has a rare chromosomal abnormality called Cornelia de Lange Syndrome and diaphragmatic hernia cause her lungs and heart not to form normally. Thank you!
  • missionaryjen
    missionaryjen Posts: 4 Member
    Her name is Annsleigh Kae Higgins. She has a rare chromosomal abnormality called Cornelia de Lange Syndrome and diaphragmatic hernia cause her lungs and heart not to form normally. Thank you!
  • missionaryjen
    missionaryjen Posts: 4 Member
    Bex953172 wrote: »
    Im so sorry for whats happened. I had to terminate a baby boy in 2015 at 6 months because he had a less than 5% survival.
    I definitely turned to food. In fact looking back the whole thing now was just a whirlwind i dont even know what i was doing.

    Just start small, very small. It may seem insignificant now to drink 1 extra glass of water or to swap 1 snack for an apple, but its a start.

    Why did they say you had to wait before trying again? X

    She had a chromsonal abnormality we didn't know of until birth and a diaphragmatic hernia which casued her lungs and heart to not grow properly. I was suggested to wait bc of of C-section. Also uterus to prevent more possible problems in the next.
  • LivingtheLeanDream
    LivingtheLeanDream Posts: 13,342 Member
    I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm also grieving the recent loss of my 20 month old grandson. We are not alone in grief. These have been very dark days recently but we all need to find a way through it and without turning to food for comfort.
    I trust that soon all will go well as you try to conceive and all will go well for you.

    Take care of yourself,

    hugs
    Ruth
  • missysippy930
    missysippy930 Posts: 2,577 Member
    So very sorry for your loss. I know how devastating it is. Infertility problems, numerous miscarriages, and such overwhelming sadness. My heart goes out to everyone that experiences this heartbreak ❤️ This was 30 years ago for me, and the sadness is still in my heart, especially on holidays and special days of remembrance. It doesn’t ever really go away, but it does get manageable over time.{{{missionaryjen}}}

Categories