Does anyone have an unconventional love story?
I know true love and a partnership isn’t always boy meets girl, they fall in love, get married, have babies and live happily ever after. Lots of couples meet, break up, remain friends and reunite as a couple many years later. Some people marry their childhood sweetheart while others meet their soulmate in an assisted living facility. One of my coworkers is in an arranged marriage and seems very in love and happy with her husband. My own parents were friends for years before they both found themselves single and started dating, got engaged, married and had a family. Some people date their partner casually for years before it turns serious. I’ve found there is no one “rule” or solid piece of dating advice that works universally. It seems more to be a you live, learn and adjust and just do what’s best for you.
What’s your story?
What’s your story?
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We were unusual at the time, when online dating sites were just beginning. We met online. But one of the things I think is interesting about my relationship is that we went to many of the same concerts and events without ever meeting. He grew up in the city and that was his circle of friends. I grew up in a rural area, but would drive into the city to go to clubs, concerts, and festivals. Completely different circle of friends. We both took a cautious chance with a website and met. Dated for about 5 years, then got married. 😊 perhaps not all that unusual? I don’t know. I have one other friend who met her husband online.3
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I met my husband in 1993 at a punk bar. Just celebrated our silver anniversary ❤️8
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Ex and I were just separated I was undiagnosed Bipolar. It was an expensive area and I couldnt afford to pay my Bill's, daycare and expenses on my fulltime shift work job that I could barely hold down because of my moods and ex was barely paying support or any daycare. I started escorting while my kid was at her dads to make ends meet.
Met my now fiance on plenty of fish. I signed up before starting to escort but wasnt really ready for anything serious and I told him that. We met up a few times, had coffee, went to the beach, apple picking etc. He was great to talk to and in a weak moment, we hooked up. He wanted more, I wasnt ready but he told me on our second date that he was going to marry me one day. By that point I was financially secure and I also wasnt ready to give that security up. He understood and stuck around anyway as jealous and hurt as he was. He helped me find a psychologist to get on meds. Months and months and lots of ups and downs later I finally bit the bullet and agreed to give things a chance.
4 years later we are in fact engaged to be married, I stopped escorting the night we made things official. Hes the best dad to my daughter. I signed away everything including my house in my divorce to my ex in exchange for my daughter and the ability to move away and start over and we've done just that. Now I am fairly mentally healthy, own my own home, have a great job, friends and coworkers I love and we live in the most amazing and beautiful place we could find. Wedding is next summer.😍10 -
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Love is fake - it’s only in poetry and movies - ask Jason Mraz- he’ll tell you5
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I have an unconventional love story: after 10 years in an abusive marriage I chose to love myself more than a person who clearly didn't love me.
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Versicolour wrote: »I have an unconventional love story: after 10 years in an abusive marriage I chose to love myself more than a person who clearly didn't love me.
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Versicolour wrote: »I have an unconventional love story: after 10 years in an abusive marriage I chose to love myself more than a person who clearly didn't love me.
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Versicolour wrote: »I have an unconventional love story: after 10 years in an abusive marriage I chose to love myself more than a person who clearly didn't love me.
Hugs
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My cousin set my hubby & I up; we went on our first date with my cousin & his wife and my now hubby told my cousin that day that he was going to marry me someday. A mere 2 weeks later he asked me over the phone to marry him, I said "No". I was only 19! Well he didn't give up and in another couple weeks, he asked again, in person this time, and I said "Yes". We were married 5 months after we met. We now have 3 adult children and are preparing to build a new house on property that we have owned for nearly 20 years. This September we will celebrate our 26th anniversary. It hasn't always been easy and there have been times when one or both of us have thought about throwing in the towel, but we've stuck it out and fought through the tough times and today we are just as happy and in love as we were on our wedding day in 1993!6
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Don't know if it's unconventional but it is horrifyingly depressing
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Prepare for a roller coaster:
Met my hubby on Cupid.com. He was the first profile I saw and took interest in after creating my own (awwww), but the site said he hadn't been online in months. Not knowing how the site worked, I sent him a message and did not expect to hear back. So I kept searching and arranged a date with someone else.
Hear back from now-hubby one day later (found out they send emails when you have a message of interested match). He was on work travel up near where I am from, but I had just gone back to college in his home state two days before making my profile. So couldn't meet up sooner than my date with other guy. I let him know I was meeting up with someone else on the site, but could we keep in contact.
So I have commitment issues (too committed too fast) and met with other guy, and he was cute, and i was young and stupid, and decided I was committing to a relationship with him. He was just as distant from my physical location, so it was not more convenient. He was an alcoholic who ended up emotionally abusing my already fragile self worth. We dated 6-7 months. The entire time I stayed in contact with now-hubby through cupid. Nothing romantic, he became a support line and a confidant, and always made sure I knew he was a biased source of info in regards to my relationship. He stuck by me, electronically, through every detail, with no idea of where things would go.
So 6 months later I'm back up in my home state for break, the distance let me see how stupid I was being and I told alcoholic I was done. He wasn't gonna change his ways, I was over it, goodbye. I emailed my now-hubby and told him I'd ended it, but of course we couldn't meet up until I was back in his state next college term. Found out later he had practically danced through the workday thinking we had a chance now and his patience paid off....
Well...alcoholic calls me and cries and says he will change and he loves me, just give him a chance. So I partially cave...I give him two weeks to actually make changes. He has to send me proof he has committed to things, and I swear this was not a hard thing to do. And I told now-hubby that alcoholic had called and I felt I had to give him a chance to really change (movies make it seem so realistic, "he will change for me, I turned his life around" blah) and told him the terms I'd set. I honestly never expected to hear back from hubby again, I realized about two minutes later i messed up bad, but I was committed to my mistakes.
I hear back from hubby a week later. He understood why I felt like I had to give a chance, said it was part of who I was and it was a good part of me. I stuck to my terms, alcoholic didn't, we were done. final, no take backs, done. Hubby and i talked all night the rest of the weeks (and now i wake up at 5am like he does, I realize the sacrifice he made to do that!) and met in person the day i got back to college.
That was 9 years ago. We are celebrating our 2nd wedding anni this year. He is still my support line for whenever my brain decides to hate me, and I can't believe it took me so long to realize what was in front of me from day 1.6 -
I met him on Tinder during my divorce. I was going out of my way to make reckless decisions. He was in rehab (like, living at the Salvation Army rehabilitation center). On paper, a big no no. I'm a rule-following, over-achieving goody-two-shoes! He was incredibly smart and he made me laugh a lot.
He's now three years sober, we live together, and he's back in school to get his BS in computer engineering. He still makes me laugh a lot
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My husband and I met in karate class...I had a huge crush on him for a year then we ended up being TA's for the class the following year. We both stopped going right around the same time and then ran into each other randomly on Halloween. I was dressed up as Harry Potter at the time and had JUST enough beer to work up the nerve to ask for his number. He got my number too and called me a few days later.
We dated briefly before he moved away...then called me several months after we had basically broken up saying he can't stop thinking about me and he wants me to visit. We saw each other on skype and he told me he loved me. He flew me out to visit that summer...we did long distance for a year and I moved to be with him. Mere months after moving there, I nearly died of sepsis (I'm talking tubes...they called my family to tell them to say their goodbyes)...he stayed with me every night in the hospital, sleeping in a chair. Once they knew I was out of the woods, he told me "I knew I loved you...but it wasn't until now I knew I needed you." He asked my dad for my hand in marriage and proposed the following Spring. We've been together ever since.4 -
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Was visiting my parents on my way to somewhere else, future hubby was visiting his mom on his way to somewhere else. We ended up staying, got married four years later.
After 16 years of marriage we divorced. Two years later ended up back together and got remarried. That was 10 years ago.2 -
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Short version: I met my husband in a pizza restaurant parking lot and we got married 6 months later. We are still married and happy after 18 years. Have 3 kids together.
Long version: I was with some friends in a town close to where I lived. I saw a large group of people in a parking lot and told my friend I needed to meet the tall guy. (He is 6'4".) He stood out over the other people. We stopped and I told the person that came to the car that I wanted to meet that guy. He came over. He said "I can tell you everything you want to know with 3 things". He said he was "21, Sagittarius and drink occasionally". My friends and I left and I decided I needed to talk to him again because I was curious when his birthday was. I am also Sagittarius so that was funny to me. (Found out later we share a birth month. He is 4 years & 17 days older than me.) We met up with one of the people that had been with him and I started asking that person questions about the guy. Instead of answering my questions, he called the guy and had him come talk to me. I ended up officially moving in with him about 2 weeks later, but we were never really apart after we met that night.
We have had our struggles, but we decided a long time ago that we want to be together and we are going to do whatever we need to make it work. I am so blessed to have him in my life.2 -
She describes it as "I chased her until she caught me."1
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We were unusual at the time, when online dating sites were just beginning. We met online. But one of the things I think is interesting about my relationship is that we went to many of the same concerts and events without ever meeting. He grew up in the city and that was his circle of friends. I grew up in a rural area, but would drive into the city to go to clubs, concerts, and festivals. Completely different circle of friends. We both took a cautious chance with a website and met. Dated for about 5 years, then got married. 😊 perhaps not all that unusual? I don’t know. I have one other friend who met her husband online.
This is a little bit similar to my story too! Not just meeting online, which we did - but my husband and I went to a lot of the same concerts & clubs over the years without ever meeting. When I was in college, I worked in a supermarket and my husband (who was still in high school at the time) would come there with his parents frequently even though they lived almost an hour away...they just liked the store...but we don't remember ever seeing each other there.
We attended the same university for undergrad and even majored in the same subject! However, I'm 5 years older than he is AND he attended college two years later than I did, so we graduated 7 years apart and never went there at the same time. We also liked/hated different instructors and classes within our majors, and I was heavily involved in my minor (different from his), and was working full-time during college whereas he was very involved in campus stuff and on boards and in clubs. Totally opposite experiences.
I was married for 9 years before we met. He had never married. We happened to join the same online dating site at around the same time and matched up in tons of areas and had a 98% "compatibility rating" on OK Cupid so I sent him a message and he *swears* that he was out on a walk thinking of what to write to me because he'd noticed my profile too. Then he came home, saw my message and started typing away.
After a couple of dates, we discovered that on the night of the 2011 tornado that destroyed my former home, I entered a restaurant at 5:15 pm that he had just left around 5:00 pm. If I'd been in my home (less than 4 blocks away) I may have died (two neighbors and over 150 people in my town did). Tons of weird coincidences!
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Thanks MiltonBradley1! Just one of those things that sometimes happen in life.0
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